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SunDevil
10-21-2006, 02:06 AM
That I seem to have more in common with than any other girl I've known. Plus, she lives within driving distance, which is surprising. But I know her hair color, full name, religious views, height(5'9"), weight(150), birthday(Nov 12), and a lot of details that some stranger on the internet shouldn't know ( :eek: to say the least). The good news is I know she had none of my dealbreakers, except that she is insecure about her body and doesn't need to be.

Now here is the problem. Is it ok, or would it be weird, to look over all of their previous posts to learn more about them? How do you bring up things you have in common without sounding like you know way too much information that she never told you. Or that she wouldn't want to tell you for a while.

The other thing is, if I PM her and start talking to her, I know that right after she gets done reading it, she will look at all of my posts on that site (as far back as 2.5 years) that I don't remember making or might have changed my opinion on. I don't have that much information about me out there that I worry about her finding, and I wouldn't have a problem with her searching for what I wrote. That is, as long as she would talk to me about the things I've said and find a way to talk about what my opinions and facts about me that I've written about. I know that you should be able to ask follow-up questions, but still, it's like you've known them for months and know lots about them, but you just met them and are at the 'holding their hand' stage.

KCboy
10-21-2006, 02:16 AM
if I PM her and start talking to her

#1 - if you haven't conversed with her about any possible non-interent relationship, this whole dilemma is probably a mute point anyway. PM her, just do your best to not sound like a creep.

#2 - yes it's alright to look at her previous posts for the following reasons:

a. the point of dating is to get to know the other person, right? this is a way to get to know her, and you should probably do it before you think about meeting in person.

b. you said yourself that you wouldn't mind if she looked at your previous posts.

but you're concerned that she might get the wrong impression about views you may have had several years ago, which leads me to the next point:

c. it will lead to better conversation IF you do end up getting together. mention some previous posts, see if the views are still the same.

PenforPrez
10-21-2006, 08:28 AM
#1 - if you haven't conversed with her about any possible non-interent relationship, this whole dilemma is probably a mute point anyway. PM her, just do your best to not sound like a creep.

TOTALLY! It's clear you like her, so take the chance. :)

The other thing is, if I PM her and start talking to her, I know that right after she gets done reading it, she will look at all of my posts on that site (as far back as 2.5 years) that I don't remember making or might have changed my opinion on.

Who says she will? I don't worry about that; I'm doomed to always be a weirdo. I've learned that somebody has to accept me for what I am; if she likes you, she'll like you for who you were and who you have become. :)

Let us know what happens.

Paul

WorkInProgress
10-21-2006, 11:59 AM
I agree with the others--go for it! Just do your best not to be creepy.