Being crush-prone

[K-man]

I have an annoying problem. When I meet a girl that I feel I really click with, I immediately develop massive crush on her -- which sucks because it often leads to being heartbroken for one reason or another.

Like this girl I met recently...I had a lunch with her this week and every since then she's all I can think about. We seem to hit it off really well and we made a tentative plan to meet up this weekend. I was so excited I couldn't even sleep well last night! But then she called this morning to say that she's too busy to hang out, and now I feel like all energy has been sucked out of me. Now I know in my mind that this isn't a "rejection" because she'd told me earlier that she has a lot of stuff going on this weekend, and we still have plan to get together next week. But nonetheless I'm feeling really down right now, and it frustrates me that I'm being this way!

Does anyone here used to be "crush-prone" like me, but found ways to stay more cool when you meet people that you like? I'm the type of person who generally likes to be in control of things, so I hate experiencing these uncontrollable emotional highs/lows.

[gradgirl]

Yeah, I am sometimes like you in that I get crushes on guys pretty quickly if I go out on a few dates. Then, I feel sad if things don't go well. At this point, I just guess it's part of the whole dating experience for some people.

[eastcoaster782]

Wish I could help, but I'm the same way with guys. In your case, the good news is that you've both decided to reschedule the plans, so it's not like you're being blown off.

I also think it's sweet when you can't stop thinking about someone in a good way. It sort of takes people back to simplier, more innocent time in their lives when having a crush just made you feel happy inside.

[spiritedaway]

I think that's the best and the worst part of crushes. The high feels so good and the uncontrollable factors often turns into burning questions.

If you really like someone, you're going to try to find ways to be near her. There isn't a way to stop it at this stage, except to refrain from analyzing all the little details for now, when possible.

I'd also wish I could say don't put your eggs on one basket. But if you're like me (I can only crush on one person at any given time, and it's not often I find someone I like), this may be difficult.

Enjoy the high and don't overanalyze. Good luck. :)



Does anyone here used to be "crush-prone" like me, but found ways to stay more cool when you meet people that you like? I'm the type of person who generally likes to be in control of things, so I hate experiencing these uncontrollable emotional highs/lows.

[PenforPrez]

I have an annoying problem. When I meet a girl that I feel I really click with, I immediately develop massive crush on her -- which sucks because it often leads to being heartbroken for one reason or another.

I have the same problem. I'll meet somebody I like and start developing feelings for them. But they're usually in a relationship or they're just not interested in me that way. And I fall VERY easy; that's been worrying me.

I also think it's sweet when you can't stop thinking about someone in a good way. It sort of takes people back to simplier, more innocent time in their lives when having a crush just made you feel happy inside.

Anymore, when I get a crush on somebody, I worry about what kind of crap I'm going to have to deal with now. I've dealt with so much shit, and I think I've seen it all, then something else even more bizarre happens.

Paul

[lonestar]

This seems to be a problem with me too. I developed a massive crush on my last therapist and it hurt to have to stop seeing her (it was getting to the point that I was exaggerating situations for a reason to see her). In my new job, there are several women who I have developed crushes on, and most seem to be in HR or are trainers. Sometimes I think I am a perv or something.

[K-man]

I'd also wish I could say don't put your eggs on one basket. But if you're like me (I can only crush on one person at any given time, and it's not often I find someone I like), this may be difficult.

That's the thing...it's very rare that I find someone I really like (let alone single), and when I do have a crush on someone I can't think of anyone else.

Like I actually just heard back from this one girl that I asked out little while ago, and she was wondering if I still wanted to hang out with her. I told her that I was too busy this weekend though, because now that I'm head over heel over this new girl I don't feel like going out with any other girls. It's pathetic, really -- because it's not like the girl that I have crush on is being exclusive :neutral:

[wordsmith]

I have an annoying problem. When I meet a girl that I feel I really click with, I immediately develop massive crush on her


Clicking with somebody and developing a crush pretty much go hand in hand. It's all about attraction.

I crush easily. It doesn't get obsessive, though, and goes away easily if some reason crops up from the initial crush. I had a crush on a coworker once, and it went away when he got a GF and was no longer somebody viable.

I don't think there's any way to really prevent being crush prone. You can't engineer your feelings.

[LaFille]

i get crushes... for the most part i think they're fun, but they can be annoying as well. sometimes i literally have to shake myself out of thinking about what might happen with them because i might jinx myself. i don't think it's really that uncommon though...

[hellboy]

I am not alone! Nice!

[iamkarma]

AWW i think thats cute, just becareful not to get your heartbroken. When you first meet someone its new and exciting but you still don't know everything about them thats why you imagine them to be so perfect in their mind until they do that one thing that bugs you the most then in your mind things change. Just take time to know someone before falling head overheels.

[Musicvixen24]

I get crushes often, I know this sounds crazy but I always say, oh this will never work out. That way i end up being relaxed around them and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't but when you are crushing hard on someone they don't really see the real normal nice you.

[old_school_soul]

Crushes are great, although I wouldn't think I "really clicked" with someone after one date. People bullshit a lot. Maybe I'll crush on you after a month.

[LaFille]

Crushes are great, although I wouldn't think I "really clicked" with someone after one date. People bullshit a lot. Maybe I'll crush on you after a month.
a month... that's a long time! normally i 'crush' the most on someone in the beginning. after that, it's not that i like them any less, but the infatuation wears off...

[Kitty]

I haven't had a crush in years.

[K-man]

Well, it's been a week since my initital crush and I've definitely cooled off. The irony is that as soon as I felt relaxed around her and felt like there may be a potential for a relationship, I found out she has a kid! :eek: I'm not going to lie, that's a deal-breaker for me -- at this point in my life anyway.

Someone must be playing a cruel joke on me, because the previous girl that I found very attractive turned out to be gay, and a girl before that was engaged. *sigh*