eharmony vs jdate vs match vs yahoo

[lostindc]

Anyone try any of these services? Did they work for you? I have only tried jdate (a couple of years ago and the site has changed since) and didn't like it. I found that I spent hours writing emails to people who almost never responded (probably because they couldn't - only subscribers can read and send email though anyone can post a profile). I am considering eharmony's 3 months for the price of 1 deal though.

[wordsmith]

Anyone try any of these services? Did they work for you? I have only tried jdate (a couple of years ago and the site has changed since) and didn't like it. I found that I spent hours writing emails to people who almost never responded (probably because they couldn't - only subscribers can read and send email though anyone can post a profile). I am considering eharmony's 3 months for the price of 1 deal though.

jdate - I'm not Jewish (not that I wouldn't date a Jewish guy, one of my hottest friends - though off the market - is Jewish). More importantly, I live in a relatively Jew-free zone, so I'm thinking it would be a fruitless search in my area.

eharmony - don't like it, I like to browse for myself, not have somebody pick my partners for me. When Rev. Moon did it, they called it a cult.

match.com - has been most fruitful for me, but the recent changes they've made make it increasingly worthless, IMO.

yahoo personals - similar to match


Others I've used:

lavalife - Nobody near where I am, and at the time was rampant with people wanting casual encounters only...fine, but not what I was looking for.

okcupid - free, which is sweet, but because it's free, lots of people aren't too serious about it. I've never met anybody off it, whereas I have off match, yahoo, and lava.

I've had actually really good experiences with match. But the changes their making are already affecting the return on investment in a bad way.

[yankeeyosh]

I've tried JDate. It never worked...too intimidating. And incredibly expensive.

[Priya]

I know some of the Indian websites - but not sure who on these boards would want to use them.

I haven't used any dating sites before. I think part of me is afraid that the person on the other end is not who they say they are, and another part is afraid that someone will find me that I don't want seeing me. I mean there's nothing wrong with signing up, it's just a network for meeting people, but maybe my insecurities stop me.

Maybe I've watched too many "To Catch a Predator" specials on Primetime. :)

I have dated a guy that I met through Friendster, but he was a friend of a friend.

[wordsmith]

Having online dated for as long as I've lived in an area unfriendly to traditional dating, I have to say that I've never, ever had an experiene remotely like anything that could be described as predatory.

As far as dishonesty and deception, it's been beaten into the ground like a dead horse, but anybody who wants to deceive you can try, regardless of how you meet them. And I've never had anybody do anything shady or not be "who they pretended to be."

And I quit caring about 4 years ago if I put up a pic and anybody I knew saw me. Anybody who knows me knows that OF COURSE I'm online dating. I live in a tiny town, it's not like there are alternatives...why hide it? It makes the most sense. Also, I can't worry about "what if" somebody sees me, when half the people I know are on there, too. It's so mainstream. No big deal.

[PenforPrez]

I've tried nearly every site in existence: Match, Matchmaker, Lavalife, UDate, Spring Street Personals (the network that includes Nerve Personals and The Onion personals). Those are the ones I can think of. I've had ONE date in four years out of the whole set. And she had more than a couple of screws loose.

I tried posting a Craigslist ad. I got a reponse from a girl that sounded interesting. We swapped two emails quickly, she asked for a pic, I sent her one, and I never heard back. That's really encouraging! :googly:

I'm tempted to take up the current offer Match has going on. If you don't find somebody special in six months, you get six months free. Of course, you have to make an honest effort; that's only fair.

I simply would love to anticipate the Match guys squirming at the thought of giving me six free months. Look at them and say: "I told you so!! :rolleyes: "

Paul

[CTGirl]

I'm a fan of eharmony personally, but I've posted about it before, and won't bore people with it anymore, so just PM me if you wanna know more :)

[dengeist]

I'm inclined to think whether you are male or female has a huge impact on your experience with online dating sites. Since there are usually more males with ads (it's been written about in online dating books) women have more choices. Nothing wrong with that, unless you're a guy and you get blown off by someone who's on there everyday. So the "I get hundreds of emails!" argument starts to look pretty thin. I've also read something about how some dating sites hire "professional daters" which is something I don't like the sound of. It's really funny about getting blown off too, because I can take getting blown off in person, much better than I can online.

So here's my experience so far:

Lavalife: Hahahahahahahahahahahaha! You have to pay for tokens to email people. Some people like to email a lot, which could add up pretty quickly. $$$$

Match: Somehow I got a year subscription for a low, low price. So I'm kind of stuck with it until December. When I first got it, it I was about 1 for 3 with sending out and recieving emails back. I couldn't find anyone that matched me. I won't even get into that. Then I started messing with it again late spring early summer and it wasn't as bad as when I started. I found a lot more interesting, more compatible profiles I was communicating with a lot of women, sending emails. So I'm thinking there's an ebb and flow to this online dating stuff. But then something unusual started happening. I'd exchange a few emails, get a phone number, actually call the number, get an answering machine, leave a message, and never get called back. Personally, I believe if you're interested in someone, you'd call them back. Particularly if you're on a dating site like everyday.

blackpeoplemeet: Hoodboogas.....that's all I'm saying about them.

eHarmony: I haven't messed with this one in a looooong time. You answer this long questionnaire and it matches you up based on that. I narrowed my range down to 100 miles, so I got new matches every couple of days. The matches looked pretty good on paper, most of the time. But then you have to send each other MORE questionnaires before you can start emailing them. Then you get those dreaded form letters, "No thanks! We don't match because of.....I've found someone I'm interested in." etc. That's funny because a couple of women I've been matched up with on eHarmony, I've been matched up with on Match.com with the same person, with the same picture! And you guessed it, they're on match.com everyday too.

So, to sum it up. I really don't mess with online dating, because something doesn't seem right to me.

[shimma]

Anyone try any of these services? Did they work for you? I have only tried jdate (a couple of years ago and the site has changed since) and didn't like it. I found that I spent hours writing emails to people who almost never responded (probably because they couldn't - only subscribers can read and send email though anyone can post a profile). I am considering eharmony's 3 months for the price of 1 deal though.

I had good luck on eharmony, but not on match.

But word to the wise, I personally don't think I'd start off writing a long email to someone on a dating site right off the bat. ;)

[dostoy]

What are the recent changes match is making that makes it worthless?

[WorkInProgress]

eharmony - don't like it, I like to browse for myself, not have somebody pick my partners for me. When Rev. Moon did it, they called it a cult.

Too funny!

But the Rev. Moon also wasn't picky about whether the parties involved are alive or dead.

[shimma]

I'm tempted to take up the current offer Match has going on. If you don't find somebody special in six months, you get six months free. Of course, you have to make an honest effort; that's only fair.

I simply would love to anticipate the Match guys squirming at the thought of giving me six free months. Look at them and say: "I told you so!! :rolleyes: "


Don't take this the wrong way, but if you really want to find someone special, I suggest starting with a little more faith in yourself and your ability to attract women.

[KCboy]

Online daters sue matchmaking sites for fraud

Are Yahoo and Match.com bolstering their online dating services with fake ads and professional flirts? Two lawsuits filed in California recently make such bold claims, separately accusing both firms of fraud.

Match.com says the claims are baseless; Yahoo didn't immediately respond to requests for comment.

In the Match.com case, Orange County, Calif. resident Matthew Evans accuses the site of having a "very dirty, very big secret."

"Not everyone that you meet on Match.com is just another Match.com member, " the lawsuit says. "They are Match.com employees with a secret, fraudulent mission."

Evans claims Match uses "date bait" — employees who pretend to be regular subscribers that flirt with members. The lawsuit claims online daters are often approached by date bait just as their subscriptions are about to expire. Victims receive "winks" and e-mails designed to trick them into renewing their membership, the suit alleges.

Evans also claims in the lawsuit that Match.com employees are required to go on "as many as 100 dates per month," and they are "stationed in most of the major U.S. cities."

Match.com spokeswoman Kristin Kelly called the lawsuit "completely without merit." The firm doesn't send automated winks, she said, and employees are not required to date members. Match.com has about 250 employees worldwide, and 15 million members, making the date bait claim "ridiculous."

"The allegations in this case have absolutely no basis in fact and are completely without merit," she said.

The complaint was filed Nov. 10 in U.S. District Court in Northern California.

In the Yahoo case, filed on Oct. 14, Robert Anthony of Broward County, Fla., accuses the firm of creating fake profiles to keep members interested. Yahoo, the lawsuit alleges, "deliberately and intentionally originates and perpetuates false and or nonexistent profiles on its site to generate interest ... and give the site a much more attractive and functional appearance in order to falsely represent more substantial participation than actually exists."

The lawsuit supplies few other details, however.

"Due to the complicated nature of the fraud, and the use of technology to pertpetrate the fraud, Anthony is unable to disclose all of the examples of fraud," it says.

Anthony's lawyer, Peter McNulty, didn't respond to phone calls requesting comment.

Both lawsuits seek class-action status.

'Black hole'
Mike Arias, Evans' lawyer in the Match.com case, said his client learned about the alleged practices directly from a Match.com employee he dated. Arias said he has no other plaintiffs in the case at the moment, but that he's spoken to other victims and lawyers investigating Match.com practices.

"We've investigated it enough we (to believe the allegations)," he said. "I've talked to enough people who have given me scenarios."

The lawsuit also claims that paid Match.com workers read member e-mails in order to be more seductive to members they contact.

"Match.com typically has their paid employee contact a subscriber immediately before the end of their subscription," it says. "(The employee) goes on a date with a subscriber, (and) gives the deceptive appearance of having a lot in common with the subscriber due in part to having read his or her e-mails."

Match.com's Kelly said employees are allowed to use the service, but are not told to date members.

Evans' lawsuit also claims that a flaw in Match.com technology prevents profiles older than 30 days from appearing in some searches the Web site offers. "Unless a person updates their profile, they fall into a 'black hole' of outdated profiles, never to be seen by any other person on Match again," the suit says.

Online dating is big business; for a time, it was the fastest-growing e-commerce sector. But the industry has always beaten back complaints about fraud and misrepresentation among members. Two years ago, an MSNBC.com investigation revealed a high percentage of ads on several sites were thinly veiled lures to paid porn Web sites. More recently, Nigerian scammers have seized on the services, frequently placing fake ads that lure victims into feigned relationships ultimately designed to trick them into sending large sums of money to criminals outside the U.S.

There have been accusations that dating services benefit from such practices, because if more attractive, young members appear to be using the service, that draws in more paid members.

"That is ridiculous," Kelly said. "We aggressively defend against fraud and proactively pursue it through our fraud and abuse team."

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10098349/from/RSS/

[coll214]

Ehh, the only one i've used is match with mixed results... but you do a search in my hometown and will easily get 50 people i went to HS with; it's a pretty common thing to do around here.

never tried any of the others; at least not yet.

[shimma]

:eek:

That's a little creepy KC.

[LaFille]

i've read that before. i love conspiracy theories.

does anyone put ads in the newspaper anymore?

[SmilesSoSweet]

I have an active profile on match. I had one on yahoo, but never paid. I also tried plentyoffish.com which is free, but I just got a bunch of weirdos that would email me back. I did put one ad up on craigslist for the heck of it. I met one guy on CL but we only dated for about a month.

I met one guy from match and that's it. Most guys I've actually met from online were from chat rooms. But I'd chat with them for awhile before meeting them in person. I met my ex in a chat room. We dated for about six months.

[and1grad]

Online daters sue matchmaking sites for fraud

Are Yahoo and Match.com bolstering their online dating services with fake ads and professional flirts? Two lawsuits filed in California recently make such bold claims, separately accusing both firms of fraud.

Match.com says the claims are baseless; Yahoo didn't immediately respond to requests for comment.

In the Match.com case, Orange County, Calif. resident Matthew Evans accuses the site of having a "very dirty, very big secret."

"Not everyone that you meet on Match.com is just another Match.com member, " the lawsuit says. "They are Match.com employees with a secret, fraudulent mission."

Evans claims Match uses "date bait" — employees who pretend to be regular subscribers that flirt with members. The lawsuit claims online daters are often approached by date bait just as their subscriptions are about to expire. Victims receive "winks" and e-mails designed to trick them into renewing their membership, the suit alleges.

Evans also claims in the lawsuit that Match.com employees are required to go on "as many as 100 dates per month," and they are "stationed in most of the major U.S. cities."

Match.com spokeswoman Kristin Kelly called the lawsuit "completely without merit." The firm doesn't send automated winks, she said, and employees are not required to date members. Match.com has about 250 employees worldwide, and 15 million members, making the date bait claim "ridiculous."

"The allegations in this case have absolutely no basis in fact and are completely without merit," she said.

The complaint was filed Nov. 10 in U.S. District Court in Northern California.

In the Yahoo case, filed on Oct. 14, Robert Anthony of Broward County, Fla., accuses the firm of creating fake profiles to keep members interested. Yahoo, the lawsuit alleges, "deliberately and intentionally originates and perpetuates false and or nonexistent profiles on its site to generate interest ... and give the site a much more attractive and functional appearance in order to falsely represent more substantial participation than actually exists."

The lawsuit supplies few other details, however.

"Due to the complicated nature of the fraud, and the use of technology to pertpetrate the fraud, Anthony is unable to disclose all of the examples of fraud," it says.

Anthony's lawyer, Peter McNulty, didn't respond to phone calls requesting comment.

Both lawsuits seek class-action status.

'Black hole'
Mike Arias, Evans' lawyer in the Match.com case, said his client learned about the alleged practices directly from a Match.com employee he dated. Arias said he has no other plaintiffs in the case at the moment, but that he's spoken to other victims and lawyers investigating Match.com practices.

"We've investigated it enough we (to believe the allegations)," he said. "I've talked to enough people who have given me scenarios."

The lawsuit also claims that paid Match.com workers read member e-mails in order to be more seductive to members they contact.

"Match.com typically has their paid employee contact a subscriber immediately before the end of their subscription," it says. "(The employee) goes on a date with a subscriber, (and) gives the deceptive appearance of having a lot in common with the subscriber due in part to having read his or her e-mails."

Match.com's Kelly said employees are allowed to use the service, but are not told to date members.

Evans' lawsuit also claims that a flaw in Match.com technology prevents profiles older than 30 days from appearing in some searches the Web site offers. "Unless a person updates their profile, they fall into a 'black hole' of outdated profiles, never to be seen by any other person on Match again," the suit says.

Online dating is big business; for a time, it was the fastest-growing e-commerce sector. But the industry has always beaten back complaints about fraud and misrepresentation among members. Two years ago, an MSNBC.com investigation revealed a high percentage of ads on several sites were thinly veiled lures to paid porn Web sites. More recently, Nigerian scammers have seized on the services, frequently placing fake ads that lure victims into feigned relationships ultimately designed to trick them into sending large sums of money to criminals outside the U.S.

There have been accusations that dating services benefit from such practices, because if more attractive, young members appear to be using the service, that draws in more paid members.

"That is ridiculous," Kelly said. "We aggressively defend against fraud and proactively pursue it through our fraud and abuse team."

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10098349/from/RSS/
I'm about 90% positive that this is true. I've noticed some things that make me VERY suspicious of especially Match.com. That said, I only believe the part about them contacting people at the end of their subscription to get them to subscribe for longer. I dont think they actually date them. They're not an escort service. However, I think this case might be dead in the water b/c of the burden of proof.

[PenforPrez]

Don't take this the wrong way, but if you really want to find someone special, I suggest starting with a little more faith in yourself and your ability to attract women.

I know self-confidence is a problem for me in this department and I'll admit it. But when you send out message after message and winks and change profile layouts and change photos and change everything except one's name, and nobody shows any interest, one has to wonder what the problem really is.

Paul

[shimma]

I know self-confidence is a problem for me in this department and I'll admit it. But when you send out message after message and winks and change profile layouts and change photos and change everything except one's name, and nobody shows any interest, one has to wonder what the problem really is.


I hate to say this, but it could just be the "kid in a candy store" nature of online dating. Me personally, I did have a somewhat-scary experience with one ahem gentleman from match, but I did meet a lot of people from that site who just rubbed me the wrong way in person. You seem like a nice guy, so just have a little more faith in yourself.

But in the past, posters have posted the text of their match profile for us to critique it - you may not be "selling" yourself well enough.

[and1grad]

I know self-confidence is a problem for me in this department and I'll admit it. But when you send out message after message and winks and change profile layouts and change photos and change everything except one's name, and nobody shows any interest, one has to wonder what the problem really is.

Paul
Change your name. Paolo...now that sounds exotic. Hows your portuguese?

[shimma]

Change your name. Paolo...now that sounds exotic. Hows your portuguese?

naah, that name always always reminds me of that greasy dude Rachel had a fling with on Friends.

[and1grad]

naah, that name always always reminds me of that greasy dude Rachel had a fling with on Friends.
See, it works.

[dostoy]

naah, that name always always reminds me of that greasy dude Rachel had a fling with on Friends.
Be That greasy dude.

[shimma]

See, it works.

Yes, it triggers an association, just not necessarily a good one.

Be That greasy dude. :lol:

[PenforPrez]

Change your name. Paolo...now that sounds exotic. Hows your portuguese?

LMAO!! No hablo Portugese bien. :sad: Lo siento. :p

Paolo does sound a bit exotic. Put on an accent maybe?? :huge: With this mustache, I could pull it off. ;)

I met one guy from match and that's it. Most guys I've actually met from online were from chat rooms. But I'd chat with them for awhile before meeting them in person. I met my ex in a chat room. We dated for about six months.

That worked for me more than anything. I'm a lot more charming when I can interact with someone. Problem I have now, I can't get anybody to meet me anymore. And every time I try, it gets more bizarre. I can't do that anymore.

I hate to say this, but it could just be the "kid in a candy store" nature of online dating.

So I'm the last candy cane in the jar that nobody wants?? :razz:

I really do see that point, though. Only thing I can think of is my location. I go for girls in the big city, and I'm wondering if they're looking at my location and going: "Where? :confused:"

Paul

[shimma]

LMAO!! No hablo Portugese bien.


Psst.. It's sem falgo bem portuges. ;) Or something like that.




So I'm the last candy cane in the jar that nobody wants?? :razz:

I really do see that point, though. Only thing I can think of is my location. I go for girls in the big city, and I'm wondering if they're looking at my location and going: "Where? :confused:"


NO, Paul... you're not the last candy cane. :razz: What I meant was that people log onto those sites and are like ooo 50million cute guys, let me send winks to all of them! And then you don't end up writing back all 25million or whatever that respond. It's the internet, people don't have feelings, it's just a picture, not a person behind that, etc, etc.

I don't know how far from a big city you are, but I'd fudge your location if I were you. ie, put the town you work in, or the nearest big city (assuming it's within say an hour trip and you're willing to "commute")

[lostindc]

I had good luck on eharmony, but not on match.

But word to the wise, I personally don't think I'd start off writing a long email to someone on a dating site right off the bat. ;)

I don't write long emails to right off the bat - it's just that lots (hundreds) of emails take time (even if you cut and paste half of them).

When I was on jdate a while back I'd have to send 20-50 emails to get back one response.

Harvard offers better odds of getting a positive response.

[Jedi of Zen]

Well, with jdate - now that it's mentioned - do you have to actually be Jewish to use it?

(I mean, come on - I may be a Gentile, but some of those Yiddish girls are hot..)

[lostindc]

Well, with jdate - now that it's mentioned - do you have to actually be Jewish to use it?

(I mean, come on - I may be a Gentile, but some of those Yiddish girls are hot..)

No - As long as you enter a credit card number jdate doesn't care. The girls on the site may care though . . .

I just signed up for eharmony initially it seems better than jdate, as people on the site are much more responsive. I think one of the problems with sites like jdate and match is that a tiny fraction of people receive tons of messages while most receive very few, and turns into a contest of who has the most attractive photo in the telephone directory.

[shimma]

I don't write long emails to right off the bat - it's just that lots (hundreds) of emails take time (even if you cut and paste half of them).

When I was on jdate a while back I'd have to send 20-50 emails to get back one response.

Harvard offers better odds of getting a positive response.

A word to the wise, if you're literally sending out hundreds of emails and getting no response (assuming you're not hideously deformed or an illiterate ex-con), you're probably doing/saying something wrong with your profile and/or emails. Esp if you're more "technical" than "verbal", you certainly wouldn't be the first to make some mistake.

Do you have a friend (member of the opposite sex is better, but a guy friend is better than none) who can look over your profile and maybe a sample email and provide feedback? Or hell, I'd imagine even if you have a sister or something around our age, she could assist. Back in the day when I was online dating (eharmony was IMHO the best) I had my most articulate, charming close friend do this for me and it revolutionized my luck.

[shimma]

Well, with jdate - now that it's mentioned - do you have to actually be Jewish to use it?

(I mean, come on - I may be a Gentile, but some of those Yiddish girls are hot..)

Yeah, I thought Jdate was for the express purpose of Jews strongly preferring to date other Jews.

I'm not saying interfaith marriage is a headache - oh wait, yes I am. :rolleyes:

[swordfish77]

Believe it or not, eHarmony was started by a born-again Christian (Neil Clark Warren) and statistics have shown that the site attracts a disproportionate percentage of believing Christians. If you're Jewish, I think you might have more luck with Jdate. I honestly had no luck with Match but did get phone numbers from eHarmony (I am Christian), although those numbers led nowhere (The people that I was matched with lived in big cities that were about 2 hours away). I have had more luck with a local matchmaker and online chat rooms. These have actually led to dates.

[Winter Storm]

Anyone try any of these services? Did they work for you?

Let's see: Far too few matches on EHarmony to subscribe. Apparently agnostics don't make out well there.

Match, I had tons of responses and even more dates. Burnt myself out in about 6 months. Plenty of dates; none led to relationships.

Yahoo: mainly uglier guys with little tact. Most are still on there from 2 years ago.

I quit online dating in 2005. Got tired of feeling like I was apart of one huge dating pool of girls dating guys dating a handful of other girls fighting for the guys.

[CTGirl]

Let's see: Far too many matches on EHarmony to subscribe. Apparently agnostics don't make out well there.


I am practically an athiest, and had no issues using this site.

[Winter Storm]

I am practically an athiest, and had no issues using this site.

Oops, that should have been far too few matches. I only had 2 within my state. Not good enough.

[shimma]

I am practically an athiest, and had no issues using this site.

But did you tell eharmony that you are practically an athiest? I understand they will not match athiests or agnostics, if you admit you're one.

[CTGirl]

Oops, that should have been far too few matches. I only had 2 within my state. Not good enough.

Yeah, that sucks, but its obviously gonna depend on your location, CT had a very large pool of matches aparently.

[CTGirl]

But did you tell eharmony that you are practically an athiest? I understand they will not match athiests or agnostics, if you admit you're one.

Well I dont think I ever answered the religion question, but you choose what other religions, races, education levels, geographic regions, etc that you want to be matched to, they dont choose that for you.

[shimma]

Well I dont think I ever answered the religion question, but you choose what other religions, races, education levels, geographic regions, etc that you want to be matched to, they dont choose that for you.

That's right. I could have sworn there is some group they refuse to serve, is it maybe gays?

Ahh, organized religion: You're a bad person unless you're married with children, but any speck of effort you put forth to get there makes you a bad person too.

[CTGirl]

That's right. I could have sworn there is some group they refuse to serve, is it maybe gays?


Yeah, they only do straight-people matching on there. I never really attributed that to religious stuff though, I thought it was a lack of research into how the personality assessment matching would work for gay couples, but maybe I'm just naive in my nerdiness, lol.

[shimma]

Yeah, they only do straight-people matching on there. I never really attributed that to religious stuff though, I thought it was a lack of research into how the personality assessment matching would work for gay couples, but maybe I'm just naive in my nerdiness, lol.

Come to think of it, Neil Clark Warren gave some interview (forget where I saw it) but they asked him why eh doesn't match gays and he said something like:

"Eharmony is for marriage, and homosexual marriage is illegal in most states. We don't want to encourage our members to break the law, do we?"

total red herring for straight-up bigotry, IMO.

[wordsmith]

"eHarmony was founded in 2000 with $3 million of Series A funding from Fayez Sarofim & Co. and individual investors.[1] Dr. Warren, an evangelical Christian with strong ties to the conservative Christian community, attributes much the initial success of eHarmony to its being promoted through James Dobson's Focus on the Family radio show.[2] After having been closely associated with Focus on the Family for four years, in 2005 eHarmony sought to distance itself from the group and Dobson, largely in an effort to broaden the market share of Warren's books and that of eHarmony according to Warren.[3] After Warren publicly distanced himself from Focus on the Family and purchased back the copyright from his earlier books from the organization, Dobson told his radio audience on 26 May 2005, "I introduced Dr. Warren and his books — and eHarmony, more recently — to our listeners specifically because he was and it was decidedly Christian in nature," ... "Dr. Warren is anxious to change that direction. So ... we will go our separate ways ... with reluctance and regret."[4] The services offered by eHarmony are consistent with the values of Conservative Christianity. For example, eHarmony does not offer services to those seeking same-sex partners."

[CTGirl]

I dunno, I'm all about bringing down the conservative christians (being a very anti-organized religion person myself), but I never had a problem using this site, and had no idea about any of that stuff till I read it from people here.

[wordsmith]

Come to think of it, Neil Clark Warren gave some interview (forget where I saw it) but they asked him why eh doesn't match gays and he said something like:

"Eharmony is for marriage, and homosexual marriage is illegal in most states. We don't want to encourage our members to break the law, do we?"

total red herring for straight-up bigotry, IMO.

It was an interview with Terry Gross on NPR's "Fresh Air."

[wordsmith]

I dunno, I'm all about bringing down the conservative christians (being a very anti-organized religion person myself), but I never had a problem using this site, and had no idea about any of that stuff till I read it from people here.

It's funny, b/c I'm NOT anti-organized religion and am churchgoing (though not a conservative Christian or Religious Right member), and I really dislike this about eHarmony.

[PenforPrez]

That's right. I could have sworn there is some group they refuse to serve, is it maybe gays?

They won't serve depressives or others with mental illness either. Discriminatory bastards! :huge:

[shimma]

It was an interview with Terry Gross on NPR's "Fresh Air."

That was it! Thanks Wordy. I thought it was disgusting.


They won't serve depressives or others with mental illness either. Discriminatory bastards!

That's comparing apples to oranges. I can see the logic in that one.

[dostoy]

How do they know you have a mental illness?

[WorkInProgress]

How do they know you have a mental illness?

If you tell them.

[dostoy]

If you tell them.
Um who would do this if they are trying to get dates?

[shimma]

How do they know you have a mental illness?

I guess if you answer the few thousand personality questions in such a way that your mental illness is obvious.

Um who would do this if they are trying to get dates?

The average IQ is 100, and that means there's a lot of 90s walking around.

[kipper]

Eharmony didn't work for me. Very few people and not many close by. I was on match.com for close to a year and it took about 8 months to start finding some decent guys. Now I found a great guy from match.com. I'm thrilled that I did it.

[labrat2111]

I never tried eharmony although several people have suggested it. I was getting close to the point of trying it out but never did. I used yahoo back in the day when it was free (2000 and before) and met a girl I dated for 2.5 years before we split up. I have tried match and subscribed for a few months. I talked to various people but I don't think I had any actual dates from match.com.

I met quite a few people from various on-line meeting sites and one g/f from another messageboard I frequented. My current g/f (and probably future wife) I met from the free OkCupid site. I probably bucked some serious odds seeing as I live in the middle of fucking nowhere and so the girls available in my radius were rather slim pickings. However when I found a female chemistry dork I wasn't going to pass that up ;):

[pisces2473]

My current g/f (and probably future wife) I met from the free OkCupid site. I probably bucked some serious odds seeing as I live in the middle of fucking nowhere and so the girls available in my radius were rather slim pickings. However when I found a female chemistry dork I wasn't going to pass that up ;):
AWWWWWWWW SO EFFING CUTE!!!!!!!!


I met my fiance on Match.com. I don't think one site is better or worse than the other. It's just the luck of the click, if you will.