Myspace and ex's

[Jman06]

Sometimes dont u wish u didnt have myspace because it makes it harder to forget about your ex's that are on it and u have to see who their dating and stuff. LIke it just makes it harder to forget and move on when your constantly reminded of them on there?

[Kitty]

Yup. I'm with you. As much as I tell myself not to look at my ex bf's page - I keep doing it. I can't stop.

[weary]

you don't have to check their page...

[Kitty]

you don't have to check their page...

Easier said than done!

[Jman06]

Easier said than done!


THis is so true. Thats why I almost deleted my account. Its just to easy to check their account and if I didnt have it it would make it easier and easier on me.

[Nelzie]

I don't personally have myspace, but the other day I was bored and looked up my high school. One of my ex's has one, which I just think is so weird. It is so strange to see people I know online. Around here, most people don't really get into that sort of thing.

[Winter Storm]

Luckily none of my real exes are on there (they've all fallen off the face of the earth, like I said). There are only casual former dates on there and I 'm not that concerned with their news.

But Myspace and definitely suck when you are currently dating someone. I generally avoid their page completely.

[wordsmith]

The only exes on my myspace are one from so many years ago that it would be laughable to suggest that there are vestigial feelings for either of us, and one who I have daily contact with anyway, so it's not like being on my myspace is a big thing.

[weary]

my child's father is on there, which is one of many, may reasons i am not.

[wordsmith]

You can make it private, just so you know, weary. But, yeah, you may just not be interested in it anyway. But if you were, you could make it so he can't view it.

[CTGirl]

I have no interest in looking for the myspace pages of my exes

[KCboy]

yet another reason I'm glad I avoided the whole myspace crap

[weary]

You can make it private, just so you know, weary. But, yeah, you may just not be interested in it anyway. But if you were, you could make it so he can't view it.
yeah, i know. i'm just too 'noid about the info out there like that, period. but we've had that convo already. i don't easily give out the gov. ;)

[wordsmith]

I like myspace, because it's a free alumni networking tool. I like that I can stay caught up with my classmates without paying classmates.com, etc. now.

[Skyblade]

I know how you feel. My last ex had a blog and I was obsessed with checking it and everytime I did it made me feel worse. My therapist at the time told me to put a post it on my computer that said "10 seconds" so I would count to 10 before checking it (and hopefully during the 10 seconds I would realize its not a good idea to check it). I was finally able to go several months without checking it.
Now that I'm past that I still check his website every now and then, but it doesn't bother me anymore. Plus his gf is way fugly, sorry but its true.

[SereneMayhem]

One thing that helped me a little bit to move forward was to cut off ALL contact with my ex and that includes virtual online ones. I deleted his profile and his sister's profile off Friendster. I also deleted and blocked him on msn. It's not out of hate but for me to avoid the constant reminder of him. It has helped. I also put away all our photos on my comp in a separate file that says 'do not open' ... Out of sight, out of mind.

[LaFille]

i don't have myspace because i know i would turn into a psycho stalker and it's best that i steer clear of it. if i did, though, i would check my ex's page every day. it always kills me how people have to change their 'relationship status' on there. i can see myself fretting over it.

[grneyedmustang]

Thank God, most of my exes are not on there, either. (At least not that I know of). The two that are, I don't really care.

[PenforPrez]

Luckily none of my real exes are on there (they've all fallen off the face of the earth, like I said). There are only casual former dates on there and I 'm not that concerned with their news.

That's me, same thing.

Whatever happened to the good ol' days when you burned the old love letters of somebody you broke up with?? Now there's cyber-stalkers and make-up sex and MySpace, etc. Like on a Frasier episode where Martin goes, "Whatever happened to the sanctity of divorce?" :huge:

Paul

[embrassezla]

My most recent ex found me on myspace a while back, and started emailing me. I have no idea why I didn't immediately set fire to my CPU. 3 or 4 emails in, and I was reminded why I don't talk to him anymore. He's been blocked since then.

I came across another ex via mutual friends pages, and felt all wierd seeing his face. It just seemed bizarre to me that we'd ever dated. He's pretty much doing the same thing now that he was 7 years ago.

I'm not really tempted to look anyone up, luckily. I just like to find friends from college & high school to catch up with.

[weary]

i don't have myspace because i know i would turn into a psycho stalker and it's best that i steer clear of it. if i did, though, i would check my ex's page every day. it always kills me how people have to change their 'relationship status' on there. i can see myself fretting over it.

yeah, that stuff kills me. like how on facebook you can have relationship status and ON TOP of that you can add stuff like "in a relationship with ____" and link it to their facebook page, or you can even select a category titled, "it's complicated". :eek:

[CityGal]

Sometimes dont u wish u didnt have myspace because it makes it harder to forget about your ex's that are on it and u have to see who their dating and stuff. LIke it just makes it harder to forget and move on when your constantly reminded of them on there?


It does make it a lot easier to stalk them until you do get over them. My friend stalks all her ex's. She still has the email password and checks his email from time to time.

[embrassezla]

hahaha, i have a few comments/messages on my page about "why does your profile say you're single?". I've even got a couple "OMG YOU BROKE UP?!" frantic emails. I don't feel the need to keep the myspace universe up to date on my marital status. People who know me, know what's up.

[Chameleon]

It does make it a lot easier to stalk them until you do get over them. My friend stalks all her ex's. She still has the email password and checks his email from time to time.
Doesn't that get in the way of getting over the person though?

[LaFille]

yeah, that stuff kills me. like how on facebook you can have relationship status and ON TOP of that you can add stuff like "in a relationship with ____" and link it to their facebook page, or you can even select a category titled, "it's complicated". :eek:
i'm on facebook and i LOVE those people who are constantly changing their relationship status. especially now when they alert you every time someone changes their profile and exactly what they changed.

[CityGal]

Doesn't that get in the way of getting over the person though?


Maybe but it sure is entertaining to hear about the things she does. ha

[BlueEyedFunOne]

After I dumped my ex, I deleted him from my life, but would check his myspace periodically. I found out that he was dating this girl and writing blogs about her. In his typical bipolar, manic/depressive way, one blog would be gushing about how much he loved her, the next would be a song he wrote about hanging her from his deck. And back & forth it went.

Yeah.

I don't care much to check back anymore, but I hope for her sake she left him like I did.

On another note, I've looked up some people I went to high school with. I won't ever contact them, because I didn't care much for my high school years, or my high school 'friends'. This sounds really bad, but seeing their lives now makes me feel good about mine.

[EmberMae]

I have two exes of significance. One of them I'm still friends with so it's interesting to see his myspace and his wife's myspace. I'm glad he's happy. The other one, last time I checked, had a basic myspace page with nothing on it, except I got to see that he started smoking apparently at the age of 23. :googly: Immediately upon looking at the page I started to feel nauseous so I didn't look at it anymore. Actually I think I'd feel better if he had a gf and was mentally stable and actually graduated college.

[weary]

i seriously think that a lot of people who are all wrapped up in myspace, facebook, etc dramas are having incredibly prolonged adolescence [for lack of a better descriptor] and their involvement on those sites just keeps them in that space. (no pun intended.) i'm sure i'll get flamed for saying that, but it's what i think.

NOTE: i am talking about those who are completely wrapped up in it, not just average folks who have pages to keep in touch, network, whatever.

[wordsmith]

i seriously think that a lot of people who are all wrapped up in myspace, facebook, etc dramas are having incredibly prolonged adolescence [for lack of a better descriptor] and their involvement on those sites just keeps them in that space. (no pun intended.) i'm sure i'll get flamed for saying that, but it's what i think.

NOTE: i am talking about those who are completely wrapped up in it, not just average folks who have pages to keep in touch, network, whatever.

I actually agree, as a person who has myspace more as a random diversion than an all-consuming hobby. I might just be too old, but I can't really imagine getting sucked into myspace drama and "did you see what so and so had on his or her profile?" etc.

But, then, I find messageboard culture/online communities like this one to be fairly absorbing, and that's not really any different,except for the obvious fact that this is anonymous, not personalized like myspace is.

[Deni81]

Two of my exes are on myspace. I deleted my most current ex off my friends list so I wouldn't be tempted to look at his page. I sometimes look at the other exes profile. Last time I checked it, I found out he was engaged. Myspace is weird in that you can somewhat keep tabs on people from your past.

[LaFille]

i seriously think that a lot of people who are all wrapped up in myspace, facebook, etc dramas are having incredibly prolonged adolescence [for lack of a better descriptor] and their involvement on those sites just keeps them in that space. (no pun intended.) i'm sure i'll get flamed for saying that, but it's what i think.


i agree with this. i consider myself partially wrapped up in it, not totally, but i definitely think a lot of it has to do with the fact that i really don't want to let go of certain things and people. i don't take it seriously, necessarily, and my profile is funny and not up to date, but i go on way more than necessary and i am totally in everyone's business. part of this probably has to do with the fact that i'm really nosy as well :rolleyes: it's a great way to keep in touch with people but it seems a bit narcissistic as well.

[beeblebrox]

I admit to this and following some exes out of curiousity. I found one who posts his high school picture because he apparently doesn't like his current self by the looks of it. One of my other exes who recently got married keeps his profile private despite having a god awful wedding website since he's a groomzilla which I find funny. Keeping the myspace private yet displaying in excruiating detail your wedding and the process leading up to it. (Yeah, I hate weddings)

In a weird double standard way though, I keep my profile private, haven't updated it in ages, and put pictures of my favorite tv shows on there instead of ones of me in the profile to keep it private. I learned the hard way about internet privacy after dealing with my bf's ex whose kinda a friend when I realized that she had far too much access into our lives. Since then, my facebook and other profiles are very sparse and I stopped updating my livejournal all together in favor of my handwritten journal.

[sondra_finchley]

I almost got sucked into this when, bored and dissatisfied with my own life last winter I found the webpages of one horrible ex and the gal he married. I dont even want to go into what happened after I poked around too much- but yeah, they ( and all of her friends, since it appears he STILL doesnt have any) are all very VERY wrapped up in the Myspace thing. These are people who buy special outfits for their teddy bears to wear when they are on holiday and "rescue" bears from ebay or wherever. Their bear even has a Myspace- they have pictures up of this damn bear posing at their latest trip to Disneyland. Honestly- when you are almost 32 (as he is) and 29 (as she is) isnt that a little bit much?

I made my move and got out of the place and job I was hating and since then the urge to look has disappeared completely. Sometimes it floats through my mind to have a look again, but well- whats the point? No reason to get upset over knowing too much about people I would never in my life hang around ever again. Besides, I think a lot of Myspace is contrived drama and a way for some of these people to make themselves feel more substantial in the world than they really are. Just my opinion.

e.t.a- I did spy a little bit on people from high school and well- none of those people have done anything either.

[wordsmith]

I guess I am just really only peripherally interested in myspace (most of my interest is manifest in choosing new colors of backgrounds for my page, too, than looking at other people's). But I'm a touch older than some, which may account for my less in-depth interest.

[kipper]

How about when your current guy's ex has a myspace and you go on to check her out (b/c she won't stop calling him?) Then you get into knowing too much info that you never really wanted to know.

[labrat2111]

I used to look at the blog of my ex who I had lived with for 1.5 years. I shouldn't have done it because in the beginning it made me feel like crap and all. She seemed to move on from our relationship and start dating really quickly. Plus because she was originally from this area she had all her friends to fall back on.

However after a little bit of time I realized she was in a bad way too. She was basically throwing herself at any guys she met online. She'd pretty much hook up with any guy and then be shocked when they just dropped her because all they wanted was ass. Also she would post these stories online (she thinks she is clever even if she isn't) such as the time she forgot (ie. was too lazy to walk down to the boro office in the 14 days allowed) to pay a $5 parking ticket that eventually resulted in an 85 dollar fine. She wrote how gratified because she wrote something nasty in the check margin :rolleyes:

So in the end I actually felt better as I realized how many issues she had. One of my coworkers and myself would pull up her blog at work and read and laugh ourselves silly :huge: