Dumped again

[manicmonkie]

I just lost my girlfriend and it's killing me. She thinks I'm a great guy but can't be in a relationship right now due to a lot of stresses she has. This just happened yesterday and I don't know how to deal with it. Yesterday I was okay with it because I focused on the buddhist philosophy of non-attachment so I just kind of accepted the fact that she's gone, but now I'm on the verge of tears. They won't come out though because I have guarded myself against this kind of crap over the years. Any thoughts on how to move on? The last time this happened to me it took 4 years to move on. I don't want that to happen this time even though I really loved this girl unlike the previous. Thanks.

[wordsmith]

Time's all there is, unfortunately. You can't ever rush yourself through, though most people try.

[Empressallie]

Oh i am so sorry...things will get better in time. It's ok to feel down for a little while of course, you have to grieve the loss.

[CTGirl]

It took you 4 years to get over a girl you didnt love?

[SmilesSoSweet]

It took you 4 years to get over a girl you didnt love?

I think he did love her, just not in the same way he did of this last one.

Hang in there manicmonkie. Like what wordsmith said, only time will help you get through this.

[cache]

Since you probably have access to plenty of lint, why not take up a needle-craft?

[KCboy]

She thinks I'm a great guy but can't be in a relationship right now due to a lot of stresses she has.

edited.

I thought some honesty would help.

(you seem very eager to ban people. anytime i say something honest, the next post always seems to be you saying "you really want to get BANNED?!". yes, that exactly what I'm trying to do :googly: )

[wordsmith]

Man, do you really WANT to get banned?

The poster's asking for advice on moving on, and support, not your assessment of the dumping. Your commentary on that is neither necessary nor welcome.

[CCrox24]

I think it CAN be the truth if someone says they are too stressed to be in a relationship. You need to figure yourself out before you can be with someone else in a serious way.

[Empressallie]

I also think stress could be an actual reason to dump someone. Sometimes you jsut need to take care of yourself without added pressures.

[cache]

There is a catch here. I would break up with someone if my personal stress level was did not allow me to focus on a gf. However, if she is the right person, there would never be too much stress.

I say, if she broke up with you because of stress, then it really was a combination of stress and the realization that the relationship does not have high odds of being a long term success.