Online dating help

[gradgirl]

I have a question for anyone who's ever had a relationship start from online dating. I've been doing match and eharmony for awhile, and gone out on some dates. Nothing has really come from any of these dates. However, the dates I've been on have seemed awkward. Like, I haven't felt any chemistry with any of the guys I've been out with, and the dates have seemed awkward and more like an interview or something. So, I'm wondering if most of you who've tried online dating have had the similar experience of finding the initial dates awkward, or maybe I've just felt this way because I haven't had any chemistry with the guys I've been out with? I'd appreciate it if people could share some of their successful online dating stories and what they think they did that made their online dating experience successful?

[wordsmith]

Some have been slightly awkward, some have been really easy, and hit it off style, for me. Just a grab bag. I'm good at identifying matches I'll probably have stuff in common with but that spark of chemistry aspect can be elusive. It's hit and miss.

[veniqe]

I haven't had any major success with OLD. Not for want of trying! There are a couple of guys I would marry in a heart beat - well, perhaps not - and I met them in "real life".

I say you keep on trying. I know that OLD is just not for me. Let's take an example: I somehow met a really intelligent, expressive guy on the net. We decide to meet - last Saturday - and we both got the shock of our lives!! He's a bearded hippie and I wore my standard "vintage inspired" outfit.

The date lasted an hour max. :huge:

[cheshrcarol]

I think the best thing you can do is see if you can hold up a conversation before you meet. I'm a big fan of IM, some people prefer the phone. I figure you have to have "conversation chemistry" first. And then when you meet in person you can see if you have physical chemistry. But I have no desire to be out on an awkward date, whether the guy's gorgeous or average looking.

[winneythepooh7]

It never worked for me. I met some cool guys, but no one looking for anything long-term. I also met several guys who had a lot of emotional baggage connected to their ex's. And then of course there were the guys I met who were just in it thinking they were gonna get lucky. I do know people however where internet dating has been successful.

[kipper]

My advice is 'don't give up'. I met a cool guy from on-line dating and it took me about a year to find him. Now I've met the parents, etc. and things are good. (fingers crossed b/c most things don't work out for me) but you can't give up!!!