Frustrated at Work

[tiffy482]

I am getting so frustrated at work. I love my job, but certain situations have been happening that are really making me mad and feeling bitchy at work. Normally, I'm a laid back person who is generally happy and nice to everyone. Lately, I've been turning into a first class bitch, which totally isn't me.

Ever since we got a new team lead for my team, my attitute has really gone down hill. Maybe because she has favorites who get certain perks (and I'm not the only one who notices), maybe because she is harder on me (and a couple others) and questions what seems like everything I do. Plus, one of the few times I actually stood up for myself and was tired of getting walked on by the person I'm the back up for, I get pulled into the office and questioned about how I am "overwhelmed" when I cover for her (which is bullshit, I was just pissed off. If that was the reason I got pulled in, that would be totally different. I became a second class bitch when I found out my back up had everyone wrapped around her finger. So I would deserve to be pulled in for that.)

My point is, I've become an angry bitch at work sort of. I'm seriously afraid I'll eventually be fired if I don't get my act together. Right now, my group leader said I was doing my job great and my clients love me. How do I go back to the happy-go-lucky person I was?? I would be very greatful for any suggestions at all. (My co-worker and I have already discussed how the entire department needs anger management training.... ;) )

Thanks in advance!

[Jayebird]

I can definitely relate when one person can make the entire department want to slap the person in charge on a daily basis. No one in my typing pool has a good attitude and its because our boss is a complete control-freak bitch. If she wasn't our boss, it would be a wonderful job, and I wouldn't be breaking the bank going back to school. Just yesterday I got yelled at because something that's not normally due until the middle of the month wasn't done yet. I'm sick of the micro-managing and I have to hope that my career change will be much more manageable. Hopefully, I won't feel the need to kick the side of my desk every day and go home and cry myself to sleep.

I wish I had better advice, but if I find something that works for me, I'll pass it along.

[tiffy482]

Thanks for replying! I guess I'll just kinda have to decide not to be angry and bitchy. Worked today anyway.

[GreenwithEnvy]

If you and everyone else in your group or on your team likes you and seems to think that this problem person is the source of the issues, then maybe your whole group needs to talk to someone in charge. If your fellow employees and your clients like you that much, it's obviously not something you're doing wrong. You're clearly not the only one who has a problem with this person, so I think you need to get a group together who feels the same way you do and talk to someone in charge to make some changes.

If no one will stand up with you and try and change things, then I think it's best to move on. It might be hard, but if this job and this person is making you into someone you don't want to be, then it's not worth it.

Good luck.

[tiffy482]

I think there's enough people who are her "favorites" that the few of us who aren't wouldn't make a difference to go to someone about her. Unfortunately, the whole department is starting to get the same way. Last Thursday, they had a meeting with the "positive" people in my department to brainstorm on how to make the department more positive and they got gift certificates for Starbucks. They kept the meeting hush, hush and the only way us "negative" people found out was because one person slipped up.

And now I'm frustrated because I keep making stupid mistakes. But they haven't told me I'm a screw up yet, so I guess I shouldn't worry.

Good jobs are pretty limited where I live and I don't really want to move, so looking for a different job is not really an option. (Until I inevitably get fired.) Plus, I'm not miserable and I do really like my job for the most part, so I would feel guilty looking for a different job.

Thank you for the advice, though! I'll keep it in mind.