Could I be moving on?

[CityGal]

Ladies and Gentlemen:

Why do you believe you are in your QLC? Is it because you are afraid of your future? Is it because you just don’t know what’s your next step? I have been thinking about this the last few days and I believe my QLC may be a result of me not wanting to grow up, have responsibilities, and move on with the next stage of my life. However, the last few days have also left me with a feeling of security and the ability to maybe move on with my life- embrace the unknown future and whatever it brings. Could I be passing through my QLC or perhaps in the beginning stages of moving passed it? The future is definitely a scary and uncertain thing but I feel ready to face the ups and downs that come with it.

[allie1105]

Ladies and Gentlemen:

Why do you believe you are in your QLC? Is it because you are afraid of your future? Is it because you just don’t know what’s your next step? I have been thinking about this the last few days and I believe my QLC may be a result of me not wanting to grow up, have responsibilities, and move on with the next stage of my life. However, the last few days have also left me with a feeling of security and the ability to maybe move on with my life- embrace the unknown future and whatever it brings. Could I be passing through my QLC or perhaps in the beginning stages of moving passed it? The future is definitely a scary and uncertain thing but I feel ready to face the ups and downs that come with it.

I think that I am in my QLC because of uncertainty...here I am, 23 years old, in a job I hate - and it hasn't been my first job since college that I dislike! If I change careers, will I be happy? Should I just start having kids so I don't have to deal with it? Or is that just delaying my inevitable career unhappiness? Is grad school the right choice for me? Its far away, am I going to regret this commute? My QLC goes in spurts. I haven't posted much recently because I haven't felt compelled to do so, and my life seemed to be going fine. However, out of nowhere, I will start feeling like crap again (that day happened to be today) and I know I am not through with my QLC. I hope you are finished with yours - it is a miserable place to be, and so confusing!

[CityGal]

Completely understand you. Sometimes you just get hit hard with everything. Hope you are able to manage all those things and figure them out in a timely manner so they don't seem overwhelming.

[Deni81]

I know for me my QLC comes and goes in spurts. The first spurt was almost 3 years when I graduated college with an English degree and looking for a job.
Now, I am 25 working in a job I enjoy (even though it drains me sometimes) and moved out of my parents house.

[snowchaser]

I think you may very well be "moving on or through your QLC." How would I know? Well, it sounds similar to what I've felt the past couple months. Although, everything isn't perfect in my life ie) relationship; I'm finally in a place/city I want to be and I'm embracing the future. I'm no longer afraid of getting older- I realize there is life after graduation, you just have to put in a hell of a lot more effort than you did in college. But in a way, that's empowering.

I longer gauk at the idea of owning my own home and the idea of marriage. But does this mean I've become more boring? No way. I'm going out, meeting new people and doing all the things I've ever wanted to do or at least plan on doing them. I've definitely come through it though and believe me, I was in the throws of it.. depression, anxiety, feeling stuck, hating my life, etc. for quite a while (1 to 2 years) So, there's hope for all you guys who are in the midst of it still. It does get better, it's just like a hard lesson.

[PenforPrez]

My QLC comes from the fact I'm confused and embarassingly naive, especially at my age. The two go hand in hand.

I don't know how things work. I don't understand the modern workplace. I don't understand networking or salary negotiations. I don't understand mortgages or how to correctly look for a place of one's own or what to watch out for. I've been guessing all my life; the problem is, at my age, you can't guess anymore. You have to have at least the semblence of an answer, and I just don't.

I'm afraid of the real world; so much so, that I've been in denial all my life. Unfortunately, I can't play that card anymore. I got to figure out something. I just don't know how.

Paul

[WorkInProgress]

Pen, I think while you might be a bit naive (hey so am I, so no stones thrown), so are a lot of other people. I really believe that there's a lot of "fake it til you make it" going on.

[PenforPrez]

Pen, I think while you might be a bit naive (hey so am I, so no stones thrown), so are a lot of other people. I really believe that there's a lot of "fake it til you make it" going on.

"Faking it" is something I'm just not able to pull off. Anybody who saw me act in high school could tell you that. ;): I'm too upfront and too expressive to get away with an act. At least, I think so.

Paul