g8ergal83
11-19-2006, 11:54 PM
I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE!!! I dont even live with then anymore, I havent for since last (2005) March! And they still treat me like I'm 5! I hate it! I have my own bills, my own place, my own pet, my own relationship, my own car, my own EVERYTHING, and the other day when my bf and I went over there, we started talking about us buying a home (which doesnt even matter bc we have too much debt anyways) and my dad already had it out for me! Before we came over, a few days prior when we talked on the phone, he goes, "Now, i dont want you to turn into Ms. Attitude and tune out everything I say to you," so I said ok, because the ONLY time i even go near "attitude" is when he treats me like i'm 5 and acts like i'm totally stupid. (i graduated with a bachelors degree when I was 20.) ok.. so we're over there and real estate comes up. i have a question, and typically i say "I have a question" so he'll actually listen to me and realize its a question. he started in with the whole "what? you have a what? just say the question, you dont have to give us notice." all that crap, but extremely condescending and patronizing (and i just did that so he would realize its a question.. if i dont do that, he just goes on with the conversation like i never even said anything, so i have to do that with him) anyway, he keeps running HIS mouth, all the while telling me that if i dont stop running mine, (he never actually says what he'll do anymore) ... so i picked up a magazine. i was so fed up that i didnt care what he was saying or that i was being rude. i was just going to tune it out. so he turned to my bf, who was sitting right next to him, and says, "she's just mad because i know something she doesnt know." i got up and left the room. and my dad continues to talk to my bf about me! (my bf is a good guy, he had to listen to my dad because my dad isnt the kind of guy anyone but his kid would want to be rude to, but he just sat there and listened. he would rather i have left the room with him sitting there than for me to get into it w/ my dad.)
WHO SAYS THAT!?!?!?!?!
This happened last thursday night and its sunday night right now, almost midnight when i have to get up really early, and i cant even sleep. i almost thought we had to spend thanksgiving with them but thank god we dont have to anymore. i have a really good relationship with my mom (except when my dad makes her believe i'm stupid and "cant see past the end of my nose", which only happens when i'm not there and cant defend myself.) so i called them today, before i found out that we dont have to go there for tgiving, casually asking if it would be okay if we were to perhaps come, and my dad answers, telling me that i've got something wrong with me and i need to figure out what it is before i ruin my life with it. (wtf?!?) maybe if he was a psychologist i would understand. but he did telephone repair his whole fucking life! UGH there are barely any words to express how this is bothering me. no, dad, its n0ot my job, its definitey not my bf, its YOU. over the years i've told myself that when he's old i'll never go see him in a nursing home. and then i feel bad because he's all nice the next time i talk to him.. "im only telling you this for your own good. is it your job thats making you mad? is it your bf? what is it?" ok.. so i tell him that its him, and he wont believe it. he is so dense and will never change so i dont even know why i try. it makes me sooooo mad. so i have to be the one to change. (did i mention that i never got to ask my qyestion, but when my bf asked the same exact question the same exact way, he answered it then?) i dont hate him, he's my dad and i guess if you want to go as far as saying he's only "verbally" abused me, you could go there. he's always yelled, he's ALWAYS right, no matter what (he even said the other day minimum wage was like $3 and i said, no its $6 something, and he goes no, its $3 something, i'm right. end of story. mother f*er. you can never f*ing win with him.
im just ranting because i have a headache and cant sleep, but what do you guys think? he and my mom raised me in an argumentative (ha! understatement) house and when they say something, i'm just supossed to be a door mat and just say "yes mom, yes dad, yo'ure absoliutely right" when i know 200% they're wrong and they've taught me never to be that way? what shold i do? my bf says just tell him everything i want to say/ask my dad and let him do it for me so i wont have to, but i cant live that way. im just so frustrated with the whole situation of them that it makes me sick. let me just say one more time that i'm so happy we're spending tgiving with my bf's family, a NORMAL family who actually likes me and cares about what i have to say.
sorry this is so long.. :cry: :evil: :mad: :?: :frustrate :madder: :( all of these faces are me right now.
WHO SAYS THAT!?!?!?!?!
This happened last thursday night and its sunday night right now, almost midnight when i have to get up really early, and i cant even sleep. i almost thought we had to spend thanksgiving with them but thank god we dont have to anymore. i have a really good relationship with my mom (except when my dad makes her believe i'm stupid and "cant see past the end of my nose", which only happens when i'm not there and cant defend myself.) so i called them today, before i found out that we dont have to go there for tgiving, casually asking if it would be okay if we were to perhaps come, and my dad answers, telling me that i've got something wrong with me and i need to figure out what it is before i ruin my life with it. (wtf?!?) maybe if he was a psychologist i would understand. but he did telephone repair his whole fucking life! UGH there are barely any words to express how this is bothering me. no, dad, its n0ot my job, its definitey not my bf, its YOU. over the years i've told myself that when he's old i'll never go see him in a nursing home. and then i feel bad because he's all nice the next time i talk to him.. "im only telling you this for your own good. is it your job thats making you mad? is it your bf? what is it?" ok.. so i tell him that its him, and he wont believe it. he is so dense and will never change so i dont even know why i try. it makes me sooooo mad. so i have to be the one to change. (did i mention that i never got to ask my qyestion, but when my bf asked the same exact question the same exact way, he answered it then?) i dont hate him, he's my dad and i guess if you want to go as far as saying he's only "verbally" abused me, you could go there. he's always yelled, he's ALWAYS right, no matter what (he even said the other day minimum wage was like $3 and i said, no its $6 something, and he goes no, its $3 something, i'm right. end of story. mother f*er. you can never f*ing win with him.
im just ranting because i have a headache and cant sleep, but what do you guys think? he and my mom raised me in an argumentative (ha! understatement) house and when they say something, i'm just supossed to be a door mat and just say "yes mom, yes dad, yo'ure absoliutely right" when i know 200% they're wrong and they've taught me never to be that way? what shold i do? my bf says just tell him everything i want to say/ask my dad and let him do it for me so i wont have to, but i cant live that way. im just so frustrated with the whole situation of them that it makes me sick. let me just say one more time that i'm so happy we're spending tgiving with my bf's family, a NORMAL family who actually likes me and cares about what i have to say.
sorry this is so long.. :cry: :evil: :mad: :?: :frustrate :madder: :( all of these faces are me right now.