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AshleyJordan
11-30-2006, 05:13 PM
So, I'm actually pretty excited to be leaving my current apartment, and my scuzzy landlord. . . even if it is a little deviation from my earlier plans! The only thing that sucks is I've already packed most of my stuff, and I have two pre-planned outfits for tomorrow and Saturday. . . I hate having all of my cute clothes and shoes packed away!
mishl982
11-30-2006, 05:20 PM
Good luck with the move! I hate packing and moving but I love unpacking in a new place :)
pisces2473
11-30-2006, 05:27 PM
Ugh, last weekend was my move...we're still in the midst of a huge mess....good luck!
AshleyJordan
11-30-2006, 05:47 PM
Oh I despise moving. . .that's why I've spent way to long in shitty apartments because I wanted to avoid the hassle of moving. This time around doesn't seem so bad. . . probably because I've "rallied the troops" buying friends food and beer in exchange for helping me pack and move! Might not work as well with the unpacking, though. That might be all on me.
CityGal
11-30-2006, 06:29 PM
Good luck with the move. Ugh I'll probably be doing that in 3 weeks. I HATE moving.
winneythepooh7
11-30-2006, 06:35 PM
I hated packing when I moved in the spring, but it was such a great feeling, to purge myself of so much crap!!

I've actually done a great job of keeping our new apartment really clean and I haven't collected anything new really. I've even stopped buying clothes because the majority of what I threw out were clothes I never wore!!
AshleyJordan
12-01-2006, 10:28 AM
our new apartment really clean and I haven't collected anything new really. I've even stopped buying clothes because the majority of what I threw out were clothes I never wore!!


Not sure if I'm ready to do that yet. . . I do buy far fewer clothes now, and when I do, I tend to invest in good quality work clothes that won't go out of style and will last for quite a while (nice cashmere sweaters, a quality black suit, etc.)
winneythepooh7
12-01-2006, 10:31 AM
Not sure if I'm ready to do that yet. . . I do buy far fewer clothes now, and when I do, I tend to invest in good quality work clothes that won't go out of style and will last for quite a while (nice cashmere sweaters, a quality black suit, etc.)

Gotcha. I don't have to wear suits and such for work, unless it's a major meeting with the higher ups, which is rare. Even then I usually just wear black pants and a blouse.
yankeeyosh
12-01-2006, 04:43 PM
Good luck. I have to move in four months (I'm not paying $1,100 a month anymore for where I live), and I have been panicking about it for a few months already for various reasons.
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 04:46 PM
Good luck. I have to move in four months (I'm not paying $1,100 a month anymore for where I live), and I have been panicking about it for a few months already for various reasons.

Panicking? Have you started to scout out other places?
yankeeyosh
12-01-2006, 04:50 PM
Panicking? Have you started to scout out other places?

No. I don't know how to start looking, where to look, etc. I figure I have to get a roommate, so I don't know how to do that. Not to mention that I don't want a lease (or at least a lease that is as draconian as my current one).
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 04:54 PM
No. I don't know how to start looking, where to look, etc. I figure I have to get a roommate, so I don't know how to do that. Not to mention that I don't want a lease (or at least a lease that is as draconian as my current one).

You could look online. (Maybe start with "apartments, Boston" and see what pops up.) Or, maybe pick up one or two of those "apartment finder" booklets in grocery stores. Just to get a feel for what's out there.
AshleyJordan
12-01-2006, 04:57 PM
craigslist
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 05:00 PM
You could ask people you know if they know of anyone who's going to be looking for a roommate, or if they know of any places to look.
yankeeyosh
12-01-2006, 05:09 PM
You could ask people you know if they know of anyone who's going to be looking for a roommate, or if they know of any places to look.

There are two things that worry me: 1) every roommate I ever had has been a horror show (I assume I'm to blame b/c I'm not an easy person to live with given my AS) and 2) on a related note, I'm afraid I will spook out every potential roommate.
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 05:26 PM
There are two things that worry me: 1) every roommate I ever had has been a horror show (I assume I'm to blame b/c I'm not an easy person to live with given my AS) and 2) on a related note, I'm afraid I will spook out every potential roommate.

Maybe it's you. Maybe it's that you've had crap roommates. Maybe it's some of both (probably this). What do you think you're doing to "spook" potential roommates, or have done to contribute to the downfall of your other roommate living situations? (Rhetorical, you don't need to give an answer.) If you can identify that, then maybe you can work on it.

Also, maybe figure out what you're looking for from a roommate living situation, so that you know that before you search.
yankeeyosh
12-01-2006, 05:33 PM
Maybe it's you. Maybe it's that you've had crap roommates. Maybe it's some of both (probably this). What do you think you're doing to "spook" potential roommates, or have done to contribute to the downfall of your other roommate living situations? (Rhetorical, you don't need to give an answer.) If you can identify that, then maybe you can work on it.

Also, maybe figure out what you're looking for from a roommate living situation, so that you know that before you search.

Well, the only times I had roommates was in undergrad (I actually had a single senior year, so no roommate) and grad school. In college, they were all chosen for me, and in grad, I roommed with a fellow met major who was at my undergrad with me and a person who didn't really have a problem with me originally, but he was kinda on the same level as me socially.
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 05:37 PM
In college, they were all chosen for me

Maybe this was part of the problem. I got along much better with the roommate I picked for myself than with the one I was assigned.
yankeeyosh
12-01-2006, 05:42 PM
Maybe this was part of the problem. I got along much better with the roommate I picked for myself than with the one I was assigned.

Maybe it would be better now. Keep in mind that when I was eighteen, nineteen, I was at the social level of perhaps an upper elementary school student.

But still, my parents (esp. my dad) are adamantly against me getting a roommate. My dad said that if I have to get a roommate, I can't afford to live in boston and therefore should move back home.
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 05:45 PM
But still, my parents (esp. my dad) are adamantly against me getting a roommate. My dad said that if I have to get a roommate, I can't afford to live in boston and therefore should move back home.

A LOT of people live with roommates to help defray costs. There is nothing wrong with it and it's not an indicator of maturity. In this, Mark, I really, honestly believe that your dad is wrong. I fail to see his logic.
MollyMe
12-01-2006, 05:46 PM
Who cares what your parents think or say.

Everyone has roommate horror stories. It's not you.
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 05:48 PM
Everyone has roommate horror stories.

Boy howdy.
yankeeyosh
12-01-2006, 05:51 PM
A LOT of people live with roommates to help defray costs. There is nothing wrong with it and it's not an indicator of maturity. In this, Mark, I really, honestly believe that your dad is wrong. I fail to see his logic.

Well, my mom is a bit more understanding when I said that I could use the savings to help me buy a place, and my dad said something like "all right all right", but I know it will come up again.
WorkInProgress
12-01-2006, 05:52 PM
Well, my mom is a bit more understanding when I said that I could use the savings to help me buy a place, and my dad said something like "all right all right", but I know it will come up again.

Well, your mom has a point. There is a LOT you can do with the money saved from living with a roommate, and that's not a bad thing. I'd suggest reiterating this point when/if it comes up again.
pisces2473
12-01-2006, 08:50 PM
Cider's looking for a roomie!

Oh wait, she only wants a female. Sorry.
yankeeyosh
12-01-2006, 08:53 PM
Cider's looking for a roomie!

Oh wait, she only wants a female. Sorry.

Yeah, and I still have four months and three rent payments to go.

That reminds me...this weekend I gotta send them the small fortune aka Jan rent.
WorkInProgress
12-02-2006, 03:56 AM
That reminds me...this weekend I gotta send them the small fortune aka Jan rent.

You pay rent an entire month in advance?
yankeeyosh
12-02-2006, 12:02 PM
You pay rent an entire month in advance?

Yes...I just fear falling behind with everything.
yankeeyosh
12-02-2006, 05:55 PM
Another reason why I'm flustered is that I don't know what my job situation is. I'm trying to get out, but I don't know when or even if that will happen. I would like to stay in boston, but there are no jobs here. New York would probably be my only "realistic" option.

By the way, when is the most appropriate time to start looking for a place relative to the end of a lease?
AshleyJordan
12-02-2006, 10:55 PM
phew! The move is done. . . and I love the new place (and it has wirelss internet access).
AshleyJordan
12-02-2006, 10:59 PM
By the way, when is the most appropriate time to start looking for a place relative to the end of a lease?


It really depends on where you plan to move to. . . (i.e. out of state, with roommates, purchase or rental, etc.) The two times i left an apartment, I broke my leases :eek: which you shouldn't do . . .with about 30-60 days notice. Most brokers and landlords can't promise a place with more than 30 days notice, though. . . i.e. hold the apt. for a month and a half.
WorkInProgress
12-02-2006, 11:39 PM
phew! The move is done. . . and I love the new place (and it has wirelss internet access).

YAY! I love finishing a move. I always feel like I've accomplished something.
yankeeyosh
12-03-2006, 12:37 AM
It really depends on where you plan to move to. . . (i.e. out of state, with roommates, purchase or rental, etc.) The two times i left an apartment, I broke my leases :eek: which you shouldn't do . . .with about 30-60 days notice. Most brokers and landlords can't promise a place with more than 30 days notice, though. . . i.e. hold the apt. for a month and a half.

Well, I have no clue where I will be. I hate moving, and I wish I didn't have to do this, but where I work, and the amount I have to pay for rent every month, which is ridiculous even for this area, make it stupid to stay.

What penalties did you incur by breaking the leases?
AshleyJordan
12-03-2006, 05:35 PM
What penalties did you incur by breaking the leases?

None either time. Both times were due to really crappy conditions in my buildings, and so I think the landlords were happy to let me leave because I never reported anything. The first time I broke a rent-stabilized lease in a rapidly gentrifying neighborhood, so the LL was guaranteed a higher rent upon my leaving. This time around, my LL was engaged in illegal construction in my building, and I go 65% of my security deposit back yesterday and am picking up the balance tomorrow. I think it's because I've always been a great tenant, the NYC market is such that they can turn around and re-rent my apartments immediately, and I had leverage against them for not maintaining the buildings properly. Obviously, my experience is not the norm and I could have been held accountable to pay for the remaining rent for the duration of my lease. I could have also taken them both to housing court! This was easier for everyone.