WHY SHOULD I SACRIFICE...?

[Densel]

Okay, before you judge me, please hear me out.

I'm turning 25 next week (31st). I'm currently working on my masters in Management Information Systems (I'll be done Dec. 2002). I'm attractive (well, guys think so...thanks to GOLDS GYM), I'm an account manager for a staffing company.

Now, here's my dilemma. I've been promised a mercedes benz as a graduation gift form my parents. My friends are telling me driving a benz might be a curse because it is intimidating to guys. You know, they assume you are a spoilt material girl (gold digger). Since I'm not dating anyone at the moment, would this chase guys away from dating me? They might think, "I can't afford her. She's high maintenance." Believe me, I'm not into money at all. I was raised in Africa so I've lived in the midst of poverty and a country were hardship is an everyday occurrence. I'm not a spoilt 90210 brat...I'm in Glen Burnie, MD which isn't as glamorous.

I just feel I've worked hard and if my dad wants to buy me a benz, why should I turn it down so that people won't think I'm something I'm not? But at the same time, I don't want to give guys the wrong impression and screw my dating possibilities!

What do you guys think? Ladies and especially fellas what's your opinion?

Thanks!

[Unregistered]

densel,

get your car, girl! do you really want to be with someone that would prejudge you based on the car you drive whether it's a benz or a pacer?

i'm also a woman so i don't know how much weight my opinion will carry since you're looking for the mail perspective. but, it shouldn't matter that much. people that ar e intimidated by material possessions (an abundance or lack of) are generally insecure and need to work that out.

[crazywillie]

Well said.

[truby2000]

Originally posted by Densel


I just feel I've worked hard and if my dad wants to buy me a benz, why should I turn it down so that people won't think I'm something I'm not? But at the same time, I don't want to give guys the wrong impression and screw my dating possibilities!




Why should it matter what kind of car you drive anyway? Some one should like you and want to date you because of you, not cause of your car!

[StocktonCal]

My advice? Get the money your father would spend on the car (Depends on the model, CLK, SL, EL?) At least $37,00 I am assuming.

Take $15,000 of it and put it on a used BMW or MB. Still a great car!

Take the other $22,000 and put it on the down payment for a house. :) Talk about getting your life started on the right foot!

Remember, the money you put on the car will slowly disapear as the car goes down in value. However, money put into a house, is always their and even continues to rise as the value of the house goes up and you gain equity every month :)

Now you don't need a HOUSE, you can get a nice Condo, etc...

And any guy who won't date you for your success, is not a guy you would want. :)

[Densel]

thanks guys...you are right. anyone that would judge me without getting to know me regardless of what i have, is not worth my time!

[[L]ove[S]eeker]

Why does a guy feels dyin after breakin up wiv his gf ? y ? can any1 quate me plz... :torn:

[meatwad]

ove[S]eeker']Why does a guy feels dyin after breakin up wiv his gf ? y ? can any1 quate me plz... :torn:

Uhhhhh.....could you elaborate a little. Maybe using full words. :D

EDIT: And maybe start your own thread.

EDITITED EDIT: And welcome to qlc.

[Shirt_Ripper]

I hope you wouldn't give any guy a chance that judged you by your car. Whether its a Chevette or a Corvette. Don't worry about them thinking you're a gold digger. Worry about them being a gold digger. :D

[Deadend]

There is a market for those cars because it is a status symbol. They SELL them on the premise that you WILL be judged.

If you are going to have your parents speand that kind of money on you for that kind of car, it's going to send a message to any guy that isn't brain dead. That's just a natural collalory.

Yes there's something to be said about not wanting to be with a guy that wouldn't be able to see anything about you but the car, but expecting a 35K graduation gift to say nothing about you is completely and tottaly unreasonable.

So far people have told you what you want to hear... but common! Give me a break! Are the guys here seriously trying to tell me that if they went out with a girl that got something like this from her parents, they're not going to wonder what she's going to expect out of you?

Now don't get me wrong, if you want the car and they're giving you the car take the car. I don't think people should alter themselves for perspective mates at all. If you're a girl that gets a 35K gift, you're a girl that gets a 35k gift. Guess what..... that DOES say somthing about you (to guys) because that DOES mean somthing about you.

I, personally, would question your internal concept of independance. Maybe if I dated you I'd discover that wasn't an issue because you are independant. Maybe I'd discover the opposite and conclude you're spoiled. Maybe the issue would be jealousy and it would be mine. Great, either one of those latter two means you shouldn't be dating me. Either way, that I would garner information from that fact of you does not make me a bad judgemental person. Inversely, if I refused to think that it meant anything would make me a foolish person.

These are actually all reasons why you should take the car. Guys you date are going to judge you on lots of things, gifts that big are just the beggining. The best thing is to just be yourself, and if yourself is someone that gets very nice things for graduation presents, that's who you are.

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Aside:

Incidently, my Dad is currently in the process of selling his Benz because it's been a Lemon. I mean, these days it's just a glorified chrysler anyhow.

[cornflakegirl]

uh, this thread was started 4 years ago

what is it with people threadjacking ancient threads recently.