Divorced Friend

[Skyblade]

So, I was bored today and cruising around myspace and I looked at one of my friend's page. I found out that he is in the middle of getting a divorce. He's 27 years old. I attended his wedding a couple years ago (I think it was in 2004). Anyways, it really got to me and I've been depressed all day because of it. I'm not a close friend of this guy by any means, he was more of a friend of a friend in college and we hung around the same circle of people.

It got me thinking a lot about kids of divorced parents (which I am one of). I know that my friend is also a child of divorce. Many of my friends have gotten married, but this is the first to be getting a divorce. I couldn't help but think, he's the only one of my friends who got married who was a child of divorce. So, if you are a child of divorce are you doomed to failed relationships? It really starts to worry me....and makes me feel like I never want to get married.

The weird thing is...I wasn't invited to this guy's wedding, I just went with my friend as her substitute date when her bf couldn't come. I started reading his blog entries about his divorce and they just had a baby in December! I couldn't imagine the pain he is going through and even though we never were really "friends" I sent him a message letting him know that I'm praying for him. I hope that wasn't too awkward but I was feeling really sad about it all day.

[Valentine]

You can, I think, make a concious choice not to repeat your parents' mistakes. Just because you're their kid doesn't mean your life will necessarily turn out exactly like theirs. My friends' mom and dad were married and divorced 3x each, and their mom married hubby #4 when they were 12 and 14.

And both of them have been happily married for years to their respective first spouses.

ETA: Also, it's weird and legally dicey to blog about your divorce in such a public forum.

[Skyblade]

Yeah, I did find it a bit weird, but he's kind of a weird guy so I didn't really think anything of it. He seems like the kind of guy that needs to vent, he is more emotional than most women. I remember at his wedding when he danced with his mom...he was dancing with her so close that it was a bit odd. Also, he didn't really mention anything bad about his wife in the blog, its more of just what he's going through and how he misses his son and how he's worried about not getting to spend enough time with him.

[Valentine]

eww Oedipus.