gf moving out

[Millenial]

if my gf moves out and breaks our lease which ends in august, can i sue her for breach of contract?

[wordsmith]

Is she on the lease? If she is, and breaks it, she'll probably be legally bound to paying a penalty, depending on your terms.

I think your landlord is probably more legally protected if she bails on a lease than you are, though.

[arrow]

What, do you want her to keep living there while you guys are broken up? I don't think it's a good idea.

[cameralady]

Is she on the lease? If she is, and breaks it, she'll probably be legally bound to paying a penalty, depending on your terms.

I think your landlord is probably more legally protected if she bails on a lease than you are, though.
Yeah, which means the landlord will probably come after you first, and then you can sue the gf to recoup her part of the rent in small claims court. (At least this was what I learned from watching Judge Judy. :D)

[CTGirl]

What, do you want her to keep living there while you guys are broken up? I don't think it's a good idea.

Yeah, that's the part that I dont understand here, dont you want her to leave?

[Millenial]

yes but it screws me financially, and it's unfair to me, because she is the one who seems to have the problem. she offers no compromise and has no legal basis to break this contract.

[Millenial]

Yeah, which means the landlord will probably come after you first, and then you can sue the gf to recoup her part of the rent in small claims court. (At least this was what I learned from watching Judge Judy. :D)
that is what i figured, i am still paying my share i guess

[Millenial]

Is she on the lease? If she is, and breaks it, she'll probably be legally bound to paying a penalty, depending on your terms.

I think your landlord is probably more legally protected if she bails on a lease than you are, though.
oh yeah def, the landlord will not get screwed period, they have the upper hand

[Kitty]

There are a lot of renters rights services and web sites that will be able to provide you with more information and even free legal advice. A lot of this stuff depends on where you live.

[wordsmith]

Why is she not paying her share, if she moves out?

I had to move out on a roommate once, when I got a job that required relocation, and I STILL paid my share of the rent until our (shared) lease was up, even though I didn't live there the last three months. That's what leasing is, you're obligated to continue paying through the terms.

[cache]

Can't you get a roommate?

[Millenial]

she is trying to claim i am abusive, i have no clue to be honest. she keeps changing the terms.

basically she is trying to get me to leave, instead of her moving because it's way easier for her. i understand she wants to move on so do i. i just think it's very immature to avoid your responsiblity and insult those people out there who are really in abusive situations.

[AshleyJordan]

Is she on the lease at all? If she isn't, she can just leave whenever and you're still liable for 100% of the rent and she's off the hook.

[Millenial]

Can't you get a roommate?
i might try that, they also are gonna try and see if they can find me a studio, which would be fine only if they do month to month leases.

[Millenial]

Is she on the lease at all? If she isn't, she can just leave whenever and you're still liable for 100% of the rent and she's off the hook.
yes she is on the lease

[wordsmith]

If she's on the lease and bails on it, can't your landlord go after her?

[Millenial]

actually they would go after both of us, which i think is unfair, it would kill both our credit.

[arrow]

What if you try to work with the landlord to find someone to fill the apartment when you both leave? Would that maybe get you off the hook with the landlord?

[AshleyJordan]

actually they would go after both of us, which i think is unfair, it would kill both our credit.

That's a risk you took when you decided to live with someone else.

[Millenial]

yeah i think so, they also said i could get off the lease if i rented one of their studios at a different property (i said fine if they do month to month)

[AshleyJordan]

What if you try to work with the landlord to find someone to fill the apartment when you both leave? Would that maybe get you off the hook with the landlord?


That's a good idea. . . the LL will probably be able to raise the rent when you two leave and so s/he should want to work with you on this. . . at least, that's how it often works in NYC.

[Millenial]

That's a risk you took when you decided to live with someone else.
that is absolutely correct, a lesson i am now learning

[Millenial]

That's a good idea. . . the LL will probably be able to raise the rent when you two leave and so s/he should want to work with you on this. . . at least, that's how it often works in NYC.
prob the same here.

ps i am glad you guys aren't judging me for this situation, it can happen to anyone imo.

[wordsmith]

Wow, your GF is really pissing me off...break up with somebody, fine, but if you have financial obligations, pony up, bitch. That's life.

[Millenial]

*high fives*

[CTGirl]

Wow, your GF is really pissing me off...break up with somebody, fine, but if you have financial obligations, pony up, bitch. That's life.

Yeah, seriously, she sounds pretty psycho - claiming you abuse her too???

What on earth motivated you to live with this crazy chick in the first place?

Good luck with it, sounds like a really sucky situation.

[Millenial]

we dated 2.5 years. since new year's we had been on a break because of my depression/anxiety and she didn't feel she had to deal with it anymore (which is totally fine and understandable). the past month we have been fine as roommates. yesterday she gives me the "talk", you know the one. basically she claims that she has felt unsafe the past month and that i am potentially dangerous. i can assure you i am pretty tame, and like to keep to myself.

personally i think this "abuse" thing is a copout that she was unhappy for a while in the relationship and now she is wanting me to leave bc she wants to stay in MA and live her dream (most likely with someone else in the near future if she isn't already seeing someone already, which i sort of suspect).

this relationship was awesome for the first two years, it got rocky after we moved in because i was having problems adjusting to moving in. i sought therapy and it is helping. i still go even. my self-esteem has shot through the roof.

anyways i did not think things would become this immature, she has never acted like this at all when we were dating. i just want to move on, quit my job, move somewhere near University of New Haven and maybe meet someone else (not anytime soon).

[wordsmith]

Wow, what a shitty thing to do to somebody. Is she totally fabricating instances of feeling threatened? What is she claiming?

[AshleyJordan]

I've heard of women doing that, claiming that a guy has abused them and/or the kids . . .I'm sure I don't have to tell you this but be very careful. If her claims are untrue (and I sure hope they are, for both of your sakes,) she's trivializing the plights of women who are really victimized, and totally ruined her own credibility.

[wordsmith]

I've heard of women doing that, claiming that a guy has abused them and/or the kids . . .I'm sure I don't have to tell you this but be very careful. If her claims are untrue (and I sure hope they are, for both of your sakes,) she's trivializing the plights of women who are really victimized, and totally ruined her own credibility.

And also making it harder and harder for people who ACTUALLY ARE VICTIMS of abuse to be taken seriously.

[AshleyJordan]

And also making it harder and harder for people who ACTUALLY ARE VICTIMS of abuse to be taken seriously.

No kidding. Now I'm pissed!

[cache]

It sounds like other people might be putting ideas in her head, if this is completely untrue.

[Millenial]

I've heard of women doing that, claiming that a guy has abused them and/or the kids . . .I'm sure I don't have to tell you this but be very careful. If her claims are untrue (and I sure hope they are, for both of your sakes,) she's trivializing the plights of women who are really victimized, and totally ruined her own credibility.
they are most definitely untrue.

[Millenial]

anyways thanks for the responses to this thread: i am sure things will resolve themselves in the next month and life will go on. next time i'll try not to give out so much personal info, but it warranted it in this situation.

[CTGirl]

i just want to move on, quit my job, move somewhere near University of New Haven and maybe meet someone else (not anytime soon).

If you need any tips/suggestions, let me know!

[Millenial]

thank you very kindly. i'll post an update maybe in march.

[CTGirl]

thank you very kindly. i'll post an update maybe in march.

LOL, if you're thinking of moving around then, you could take over my place :p

[Millenial]

haha i wish, gonna move down there sometime in july, august.

[Millenial]

well she moved out last week, so that's over. made her pay her share for the next two months and i let her go. learned my lesson. the end.

[GoogleGirl]

1) how long did ya'll date? 2)did ya'll get along while living together, or is that a dumb question? I lived shortly with my bf for 2 months last summer and we were fine. Just wondering if what I'm planning to do is the stupidest thing on earth.

[Millenial]

we dated 2.5 years, i lived with her for months at a time over the summer, sometimes during winter break with no problems. things started tanking about 3 months into living together.

it is not a dumb idea, but be prepared to learn things you might not already know. for me, it was i had to clean a lot more than i was accustomed to, and went to bed much earlier than i would normally. also, the main issue was work and how to resolve issues outside of it, which didn't happen and was one of the causes of the relationship ending.