Hounding

[yankeeyosh]

I just want to say that I am somewhat bothered by recent events...A certain member of this board are being hounded and trashed. I understand that many of you vehemently oppose what this person is saying...you have a right to your opinion, so that is fine. But the consistent barraging is very frustrating, and honestly, immature. I admit, I have done some of it in the past, so I am not immune to it. But I think we should stop doing this, and if there is something you question, either politely ask for someone's reasoning behind their comments, or just ignore them. This isn't high school anymore.

[tina1979]

You are right! This isn't highschool anymore. That would be why we take the poster's direct quotes to back up the questions we are asking, or comments that we are making. Its in black and white, or gray and black, or whatever color you have your settings on. Thats not disputable.

If there weren't so many inconsistencies it would never be done.

[AshleyJordan]

It's also rather frustrating when someone is supposedly asking for help, you offer suggestions, and then your suggestions are treated as personal attacks. . . and then a threadjack ensues.

[coll214]

Not to mention that regardless of incarnation, or with completely different new posters in fact, the particular poster has the SAME arguments with people over and over again. It gets tiring.

[Chameleon]

I have a hard time believing this poster that shall not be named is real, I really do. S/he's proven him/herself to be a pathalogical liar and her/his level of detachment to everything around her/his would make for a great case study for a post-doc psych class.

I don't understand her/his motivations and what s/he has gotten out of this board, especially when s/he poses questions about really clear cut, messed up situations and finds ways to shoot down even the simplest logical advice suggested and then feeds off the resulting frustration from his/her lies, exaggerations and really flimsy excuses.

It makes absolutely no sense why someone would repeatedly put him/herself in the position to be abused, in his/her family life, in his/her relationships and on this forum and would repeatedly refuse any sincere offer of help. Maybe that's all s/he knows?

[wordsmith]

Board etiquette doesn't apply when it comes to trolls, who are by definition abusing the forum. Ordinarily, I ban them, so it's a moot point. However, if they come BACK under different user names, I can't feel badly for them.

[yankeeyosh]

Look, I'm not saying who's wrong or right...I admit, a lot of what this person said may seem far fetched. But there was other stuff I saw in the past that I didn't believe at the time. I think that it's better not to say anything at all if it's going to be controversial like this.

[wordsmith]

No, the best thing to do is probably to remove the reason for the upheaval, unfortunately, as has been done multiple times already.

Yesterday, people tried ignoring her, and she still wouldn't drop it.

I'm going to ask, though, that this discussion be taken to PMs and/or left to moderators and abby, I don't find it appropriate for open forum.

[Winter Storm]

I think this unnamed poster deserves most of what comes her way. If someone comes on this board with all the flagrant contradictions, absurd lines of thoughts and totally wacky justifications for things, we have every right to question, delve and bring other insights and input into it. People should be held accountable for the claims they make. If you come on a public message board (over and over and over) it's really fair game.

And considering what I've witnessed on other boards, I'd say we handle things pretty nicely here.

[cache]

Look, I'm not saying who's wrong or right...I admit, a lot of what this person said may seem far fetched. But there was other stuff I saw in the past that I didn't believe at the time. I think that it's better not to say anything at all if it's going to be controversial like this.

Sorry, I won't be a good German and ignore a controversial situation. I will speak up, in hopes that someone with a genuine issue may hear another voice - another opinion.

[AshleyJordan]

I agree. This is really ridiculous-- we can't advise her, we can't ignore her, no matter what we do (or don't do,) the entire thread gets hijacked by her agenda and sob story and effed up issues. . .

[yankeeyosh]

All right...based on personal experiences, though, the hounding is extremely tough to take.

[wordsmith]

Take it to PMs.