8 mintue Dating

[ar211]

Just wondering if anyone from Boston has tried this service. Any thoughts?

[Ciderhillnh]

Friends of mine have and Ive been trying to get a bunch to go with me just to have some fun with it.

Ive heard really great things about the organization and how its run.

[MetFanL]

Cider, you have a BF, why would you go to this?

I've done it and dated someone for a bit that I met there, but it wasn't in Boston. I actually found that the mingling before and after was better than the actual "dates."

[Ciderhillnh]

To support my friends who are single and wont go and do it for themselves.

[old_school_soul]

If the dating lasts only 8 minutes, how long does the sex last? 5 seconds?

[KCboy]

how long does the sex last? 5 seconds?

that would have me beat


hehe...beat

[ar211]

I'd think they'd prescreen you to make sure you don't have a SO before the event. it's not really fair to the rest of the people there if you're going just for the sake of doing it. What if you meet someone cool who really likes you?

[MetFanL]

I'd think they'd prescreen you to make sure you don't have a SO before the event. it's not really fair to the rest of the people there if you're going just for the sake of doing it. What if you meet someone cool who really likes you?
I agree. People are paying for this. If you have an SO and you participate, they've just wasted 8 minutes of their life on you. Unfair.

[coll214]

I agree. People are paying for this. If you have an SO and you participate, they've just wasted 8 minutes of their life on you. Unfair.
Agreed. I'd be PO'd if I went to something like that and found out the dude I liked (which would be my luck) is actually involved w/ someone... the whole point is it's for singles!!

[ar211]

I'd never expect an attached friend of mine to come with me just for moral support. I'd find a single friend to do it with. It must be nice to have an SO so you can go to one of these events just to "have fun"

[Ciderhillnh]

My single friends wont go out looking for dates, they expect them to just materialize, they talk about 8 minute dating but never do anything to go.

Since Im usually the one with ideas and that gets things going Ive told them numerous times I would go for moral support, and also so Id meet all the same guys and we could talk about impressions of them together.

Its not a waste of anyones time, the only way you get linked with someone is if you BOTH request one another due to being interested. If I don’t put anyone on my card, and a guy does, well he took his chances.

Plus I would probably disclose to him and chat with him about my friends and see if he and thye had anything in common. Win win.

[MetFanL]

My single friends wont go out looking for dates, they expect them to just materialize, they talk about 8 minute dating but never do anything to go.

Since Im usually the one with ideas and that gets things going Ive told them numerous times I would go for moral support, and also so Id meet all the same guys and we could talk about impressions of them together.

Its not a waste of anyones time, the only way you get linked with someone is if you BOTH request one another due to being interested. If I don’t put anyone on my card, and a guy does, well he took his chances.

Plus I would probably disclose to him and chat with him about my friends and see if he and thye had anything in common. Win win.
NOT win win. If you go, you're taking the space of a single woman. That means, these guys get one less potential date. If you wanted to go and hang at the bar while your friends did the date thing, go for it. But, to participate is just sh*tty.

[old_school_soul]

Yeah it's like when I go to the welfare line and get food stamps with all my friends. I don't need them, but my friends wouldn't go without me.

[embrassezla]

aaaaaaand 5...4...3...2...

[weary]

aaaaaaand 5...4...3...2...
aaaaaaah h ha ha ha ha haha ha. it's like every msg should end the way inspector gadget's used to..."this msg will self destruct in..."
:surprised

[WorkInProgress]

Crap, weary, you just got that theme song stuck in my head. IPOD to the rescue!

[Ciderhillnh]

Its a potential for them to get to know my friends through another avenue and for me to scope out the guys and help my friends

Its supporting my friends, arent you people for encouraging and supporting your friends in something that might be positive for them.

So much negativity....try to look at the positive aspects.

Plus 8 minute dating, you cant just go and hang out at the bar, no ticket, no admittence.

Funny that when Ive spoken to my friends about this, they have never seen it as a bad thing to join and take a seat, they think its a great plan to help the guy maybe be interested in them and an unbias opinion on the guys they are meeting.

Plus havent there been complaints on here that people who have SOs never have time for their single friends to help them find dates etc because the person with the SO is too into their relationship to come out and hang with the girls or guys as the case may be.

So here I am in a relationship and take time to help and be with my single friends, yet that is wrong too.
No winning with people around here.....be supportive of your friends....but dont take a seat thats wrong......
SUCH contradictions in terms.

[ar211]

I just don't understand why you'd pay $30 just to play moral support. Do a lot of attached people come to these events? Sounds sketchy to me if so.

[ar211]

We're all adults here, going to persuade other guys to like your friends sounds a little immature to me. I'd want a girl who is confident enough to get to know me on her own, and actually wants to know me. Having someones friend trying to sell her to me is a huge turn-off

[weary]

Crap, weary, you just got that theme song stuck in my head. IPOD to the rescue!

dun nuh nuh nuh nuh inSPECTor gadGET...dun nuh nuh nuh nuh, woo hoo! :p

[Chameleon]

I don't know if it's the same franchise, but in the 8 minute dating setup here, you have a chance to mingle before, get four assigned dates, get another chance to mingle then four more dates. 8 minutes can be a long time if one participant is painfully shy, it helps to be armed with a barrage of questions.

I went with a friend and mingling was basically talking to each other and other women. I think if I had the skills to mingle, I won't be at speed dating event cuz I'd be using those skills in a bar or club and meeting lots of people that way.

Going with a (single) friend is a good idea if you can goad yourselves into talking to other people of the opposite sex.

[Ciderhillnh]

Its $30 to be there for my friends. Yes Im THAT supportive of them (just like going out to a place they might be really into checking out that Im not totally sold on...it interests them Ill be there to go with them)

Ive known other friends to have someone who is attached attend with them to be able to discuss the guys or girls.

Its not a matter of selling my friends...but if a guy starts talking about sailing (something Im into myself) Ill partake in the conversation, and then tell him that my girlfriend is a few seats away and she is into sailing as well and they might be a good match.

Its the same thing as going to a bar and talking to some guy and realizing he would be a better match with your friend.....you end up having them talk. You're not selling, your just helping to make a connection.

Again SO NEGATIVE....try to look at the positives to be gained.

My friend wouldnt know I had even said anything to the guy (since I cant exactly get up and tell her oh guy #14 he is into sailing and is going to talk to you about it) so he is going to have to charm her in his own way, but it at least gives him something to talk about to her other than hi I do this for a living and live in this town.........
So she is going to have to be confident enough to be in the conversation with the guy and go with it....so how exactly is chatting up about my friend making it so she doesnt seem confident on her own?

[weary]

ka-BOOM!

[MetFanL]

Actually, it's not a contradiction. You just read selectively.

Supporting your friends = "yeah, ladies, go! maybe you'll meet someone great! If not, open bar!! Sounds like fun! Call me when your done and let me know how it went!!"

What you're suggesting = "Yeah, let me mess with these guys' heads who just paid $X to meet SINGLE women. Oh, and it'll be awesome when these guys like me more than my single friends."

[ar211]

This is why I rarely post here. thank for everyone who gave me a serious response.

[Ciderhillnh]

But if they wont go they just talk about it, and if I say Ill go and then they actually sign up...its beneficial for my friends if I do go because its the only way they will actually attend an event like this.

Its not messing with a guys head to steer him TOWARDS my single girlfriends and AWAY from me....the point is to get it so he likes them and NOT me, I have no interest in it but to have my friends meet potential dates.

[weary]

This is why I rarely post here. thank for everyone who gave me a serious response.
so...what's the verdict? are you going??

[MetFanL]

ar211, you should go. I just hope you don't go to the one w/ Cider and her friends.

[WorkInProgress]

I don't know anything about the specific company, but it does sound like fun to me.

[ar211]

I think i will check it out at some point. It seems like a nice way to meet people. I just hope it's girls who actually want to meet people and are not there just to "have fun with it". Thanks again for all the serious advice.

[hajime]

Its a potential for them to get to know my friends through another avenue and for me to scope out the guys and help my friends

Its supporting my friends, arent you people for encouraging and supporting your friends in something that might be positive for them.

So much negativity....try to look at the positive aspects.



The positive aspects are for YOU and YOUR FRIENDS. The negatives are all shouldered by the OTHER PEOPLE: the guys who are looking for potential dates.

I don't know, but that seems like a fairly insensitive, inconsiderate thing to do.

[Ciderhillnh]

And the other people looking for potential dates are taking a risk talking to anyone who attends, the only way they will get a date is if the girl puts his name on her list too....and if she doesnt, he cant contact her (rules on the 8 minute dating page)

So if a guy likes me and I dont put down his name.....doesnt matter if Im single or taken he assumes that risk attending the event.

[meatwad]

And the other people looking for potential dates are taking a risk talking to anyone who attends, the only way they will get a date is if the girl puts his name on her list too....and if she doesnt, he cant contact her (rules on the 8 minute dating page)

So if a guy likes me and I dont put down his name.....doesnt matter if Im single or taken he assumes that risk attending the event.

And you've given one less person for him to possibly connect with.

[Ciderhillnh]

Ah well, he can meet my friends maybe that will work out for him!

Sorry Im not going to be convinced that this is a bad way to support and help my friends.

[MetFanL]

Ah well, he can meet my friends maybe that will work out for him!

Sorry Im not going to be convinced that this is a bad way to support and help my friends.
You make my brain hurt.

[meatwad]

Ah well, he can meet my friends maybe that will work out for him!

Sorry Im not going to be convinced that this is a bad way to support and help my friends.

I'm not saying it's bad for your friends. I'm saying it's bad for the guys.

[Ciderhillnh]

8 minute dating is also networking, you might meet someone you want to be friends with (male or female during the mingling periods)

If you do and you dont find anyone you like at the event, you might find that through the new friend you made they have single friends you can meet and maybe date.

Its all a networking process.....dig deeper into the thoughts around what can happen at or after these events.....then maybe you can see the positve aspects.

I have a ton of single friends both male and female.....lets say I become friends with another girl at the event, we keep in touch, she doesnt meet anyone at the event but now she and I talk and she meets my friend who is also single and they hit it off....wow wouldnt have happened if she hadnt met me.......same could go for a guy that I become friends with......everything has potential.

Again stop focusing on the negative!

[nikorock28]

The positive aspects are for YOU and YOUR FRIENDS. The negatives are all shouldered by the OTHER PEOPLE: the guys who are looking for potential dates.

I don't know, but that seems like a fairly insensitive, inconsiderate thing to do.

I agree 100%.

[meatwad]

8 minute dating is also networking, you might meet someone you want to be friends with (male or female during the mingling periods)

If you do and you dont find anyone you like at the event, you might find that through the new friend you made they have single friends you can meet and maybe date.

Its all a networking process.....dig deeper into the thoughts around what can happen at or after these events.....then maybe you can see the positve aspects.

I have a ton of single friends both male and female.....lets say I become friends with another girl at the event, we keep in touch, she doesnt meet anyone at the event but now she and I talk and she meets my friend who is also single and they hit it off....wow wouldnt have happened if she hadnt met me.......same could go for a guy that I become friends with......everything has potential.

Again stop focusing on the negative!

Mods, I will voluntarily take a ban if you please give me the satisfaction of not deleting this post. 1 day. 2 days. I'll even take a week.

Cider. You're a moron. HOW DO YOU NOT SEE THE POINT OF 8 MINUTE DATING IS TO FIND SOMEONE TO GO OUT WITH?

[nikorock28]

8 minute dating is also networking, you might meet someone you want to be friends with (male or female during the mingling periods)

If you do and you dont find anyone you like at the event, you might find that through the new friend you made they have single friends you can meet and maybe date.

Its all a networking process.....dig deeper into the thoughts around what can happen at or after these events.....then maybe you can see the positve aspects.

I have a ton of single friends both male and female.....lets say I become friends with another girl at the event, we keep in touch, she doesnt meet anyone at the event but now she and I talk and she meets my friend who is also single and they hit it off....wow wouldnt have happened if she hadnt met me.......same could go for a guy that I become friends with......everything has potential.

Again stop focusing on the negative!

Why would any female go to a speed dating event to try to make female friends? WTF???

[weary]

Why would any female go to a speed dating event to try to make female friends? WTF???
we learn more and more about cider every day. ;)

[Ciderhillnh]

Yes the point of 8 minute dating is to go and find someone to date….but sometimes it doesn’t always happen that you meet someone there, but you might meet someone you become friends with and from there you might find someone to date.

People talk at events, during mingling girls talk to girls, its not like there is some rule that while at 8 minute dating thou shant talk to anyone BUT the opposite sex.

Ive been to singles events (when Ive had someone and when single) and Ive made friends with other girls looking to meet men. It was just a common bond in being there that created conversation which led to making friends.

In fact one girl I met ended up briefly dating a friend of mine.

Again NETWORKING is what these events are all about, you never know where you'll meet someone that might be your friend, SO, an SO for a friend…...

[MetFanL]

Again NETWORKING is what these events are all about, you never know where you'll meet someone that might be your friend, SO, an SO for a friend…...

No. They are about DATING, not NETWORKING. Otherwise, it'd be called 8 Minute Networking.

Get your head out of your a*s.

[Ciderhillnh]

Networking can take place at ANY event where there are people to talk to.....you can network for business, dating, charity donations.....ANYWHERE that you go.

So while the premis is to find a date, you might find someone who has a good business contact and you might get in touch and land a job....or gain a donation to a charity you both share a passionate about.

The idea is to walk into something like that with an open mind, not just one set goal.

[nikorock28]

Yes the point of 8 minute dating is to go and find someone to date….but sometimes it doesn’t always happen that you meet someone there, but you might meet someone you become friends with and from there you might find someone to date.

People talk at events, during mingling girls talk to girls, its not like there is some rule that while at 8 minute dating thou shant talk to anyone BUT the opposite sex.

Ive been to singles events (when Ive had someone and when single) and Ive made friends with other girls looking to meet men. It was just a common bond in being there that created conversation which led to making friends.

In fact one girl I met ended up briefly dating a friend of mine.

Again NETWORKING is what these events are all about, you never know where you'll meet someone that might be your friend, SO, an SO for a friend…...

[Cider creating a common bond at the mingling]

Single Woman: So, how long have you been single? I haven't had a date in months! It's so hard to meet people in the city and I'm hoping there will be some great guys here!
Asshat: I'm not single... I am in a relationship.
SW: ....WTF???....

[coll214]

No. They are about DATING, not NETWORKING. Otherwise, it'd be called 8 Minute Networking.

Get your head out of your a*s.

LOL. All i know is if i went to an 8 minute DATING event and found out some schmuck that's there only going to 'help out his friends' i'd effin' PO'd b/c that's one less potential DATE in the mix.

[MetFanL]

Networking can take place at ANY event where there are people to talk to.....you can network for business, dating, charity donations.....ANYWHERE that you go.

So while the premis is to find a date, you might find someone who has a good business contact and you might get in touch and land a job....or gain a donation to a charity you both share a passionate about.

The idea is to walk into something like that with an open mind, not just one set goal.
No. The idea is to find a DATE.

STOP TALKING SH*T ALL YOUR LIFE.

(10 points to whomever can tell me where that quote if from) :)

[meatwad]

Networking can take place at ANY event where there are people to talk to.....you can network for business, dating, charity donations.....ANYWHERE that you go.

So while the premis is to find a date, you might find someone who has a good business contact and you might get in touch and land a job....or gain a donation to a charity you both share a passionate about.

The idea is to walk into something like that with an open mind, not just one set goal.

No. It is for one set goal. Finding a date. Hence the fucking name of the fucking group. 8 Minute Dating. Not 8 Minute networking, not 8 minute friend finder, not 8 minute donkey shows. 8 fucking minute fucking dating. Ok? There is a specific purpose for the fucking place and I think they've done a sure as shit good job of explaining it in the NAME OF THE FUCKING PLACE!

[MetFanL]

I've been to these events where they didn't have enough guys and they had "filler" guys. It's horribly disappointing when you end up liking one of them and it turns out they're not actually single or are just helping their friend fill seats. It's sh*tty and, quite frankly, dishonest.

I wouldn't want to NETWORK with someone who was there in that capacity. I felt like I was taken advantage of.

[Ciderhillnh]

SO you don’t think you could come out making a friend? You don’t think you could come out with a business contact?

Talk about not being open to possibilities.

If some guy is talking about his company and its marketing, and how they are expanding hiring like crazy, and you're okay with the guy but don’t want to date him….and you specifically are looking to get into a better marketing job……

You're telling me you wouldn’t speak further with the guy about the opportunities at his company that might benefit YOU because the event is called 8 minute dating….

Give me a break, and if you do operate that way you're passing up MAJOR opportunities that are smacking you RIGHT in the face begging for your attention.

[MetFanL]

SO you don’t think you could come out making a friend? You don’t think you could come out with a business contact?

Talk about not being open to possibilities.

If some guy is talking about his company and its marketing, and how they are expanding hiring like crazy, and you're okay with the guy but don’t want to date him….and you specifically are looking to get into a better marketing job……

You're telling me you wouldn’t speak further with the guy about the opportunities at his company that might benefit YOU because the event is called 8 minute dating….

Give me a break, and if you do operate that way you're passing up MAJOR opportunities that are smacking you RIGHT in the face begging for your attention.
BUT THAT'S NOT THE POINT, CIDER. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAKING THE MOST OUT OF THE OPPORTUNITY AS PRESENTED TO YOU (Yeah, I don't like like this guy, but we can talk about work stuff) AND GOING THERE WITH THE EXPLICIT PURPOSE TO NETWORK. YOU'VE GOT IT BACKWARDS.

[Ciderhillnh]

I never said Id go with the specific notion to NETWORK.....Id be going to support my friends.

If Im mingling and start talking to a girl and we seem to have stuff in common, of course Im going to get her contact information and try to blossom a friendship with her......

The point is, that even though its a dating event, you can talk to people and find other things to then NETWORK about, generally comes up in conversation anyway.

[MetFanL]

I never said Id go with the specific notion to NETWORK.....Id be going to support my friends.

If Im mingling and start talking to a girl and we seem to have stuff in common, of course Im going to get her contact information and try to blossom a friendship with her......

The point is, that even though its a dating event, you can talk to people and find other things to then NETWORK about, generally comes up in conversation anyway.
Yes, you can. HOWEVER, your INTENTIONS for attending this event should always be, FIRST AND FOREMOST, to find someone to DATE. NOT support your friends. NOT to Network. TO FIND A DATE.

This is not your intention and, therefore, I've concluded that it would be ridiculous and cruel for you to attend. However, that's pretty much two adjectives in the 3 that I would use to describe you, so I'm sure you'll still attend.

[meatwad]

I never said Id go with the specific notion to NETWORK.....Id be going to support my friends.

If Im mingling and start talking to a girl and we seem to have stuff in common, of course Im going to get her contact information and try to blossom a friendship with her......

The point is, that even though its a dating event, you can talk to people and find other things to then NETWORK about, generally comes up in conversation anyway.

Of course you can! But the primary reason you should be going in the first place is to find a date you incurably stupid fuck!

[nikorock28]

I never said Id go with the specific notion to NETWORK.....Id be going to support my friends.

If Im mingling and start talking to a girl and we seem to have stuff in common, of course Im going to get her contact information and try to blossom a friendship with her......

The point is, that even though its a dating event, you can talk to people and find other things to then NETWORK about, generally comes up in conversation anyway.

For the 1000^n(th) time as n approaches infinity, you DO NOT GO TO SUPPORT FRIENDS, YOU GO TO FIND A DATE.

[Ciderhillnh]

And as I posted to end this I wont be convinced to NOT go, since its only here that I run into this insane amount of DONT DO IT.....my friends and everyone I know thinks its sweet that I would support my friends like that.

[MetFanL]

And as I posted to end this I wont be convinced to NOT go, since its only here that I run into this insane amount of DONT DO IT.....my friends and everyone I know thinks its sweet that I would support my friends like that.
Sweetie, please take your meds. Can other people see your friends?

(oh, I'm so getting banned, aren't I?)

[meatwad]

Sweetie, please take your meds. Can other people see your friends?

(oh, I'm so getting banned, aren't I?)

I'm with you. :rolleyes:

[ar211]

I had one simple question, and this is what it turned into. I feel bad for even posting to begin with.

[nikorock28]

Sweetie, please take your meds. Can other people see your friends?

(oh, I'm so getting banned, aren't I?)

I don't think Asshat can see her own friends... remember, she hasn't had her Lasik operation yet.

[WorkInProgress]

I had one simple question, and this is what it turned into. I feel bad for even posting to begin with.

Please don't. This has nothing whatever to do with you.

[Ciderhillnh]

Right, think what you want.

For those that know me etc, they know what I speak is honest and true, I dont have to prove anything here.

Wouldnt you all be shocked if you ever came out and met my awesome group of friends and realized what a great loyal loving person I am......

Hey I answered your question honestly about my thoughts and experiences with 8minute dating, which is exactly what you were looking for.

[meatwad]

Wouldnt you all be shocked if you ever came out and met my awesome group of friends and realized what a great loyal loving person I am......

I would be completely flabergasted if that ever happened.

[Ciderhillnh]

Maybe you should give it a chance then.

Interesting how much positive feedback I get from friends, co-workers, people I meet out and about, friends of friends etc.......

Just for that I challenge that some time you come out and meet us all and see what you think then.

[nikorock28]

Maybe you should give it a chance then.

Interesting how much positive feedback I get from friends, co-workers, people I meet out and about, friends of friends etc.......

Just for that I challenge that some time you come out and meet us all and see what you think then.

This thread is not about your personal life Cider. The point is you are WRONG for going to speed dating events if you have a significant other. It is just not the right thing to do. Whether you believe it or not does not matter, it is not a matter of opinion, it is not a matter of preferences... it is just so.

[meatwad]

Maybe you should give it a chance then.

Interesting how much positive feedback I get from friends, co-workers, people I meet out and about, friends of friends etc.......

Just for that I challenge that some time you come out and meet us all and see what you think then.

We'll see, but I doubt it. I'm not in the habit of driving two hours to hang out with crazy people.

[Ciderhillnh]

NIK, thats your opinion, so its not right or wrong, we just have different ideas about this, leave it at that.

Meat...sorry you think Im crazy.....but saying if you find yourself out or near Boston, easy enough to meet up for a drink so you can see the real thing....you dont even have to stay, if you find that we suck and are horrible crappy insane people, leave. Its a challenge to see if you sing the same tune upon meeting me.

As Ive posted, we are a very friendly welcoming bunch, you might even make friends out of it! Wow, thats a big risk to take isnt it?

[meatwad]

NIK, thats your opinion, so its not right or wrong, we just have different ideas about this, leave it at that.

Meat...sorry you think Im crazy.....but saying if you find yourself out or near Boston, easy enough to meet up for a drink so you can see the real thing....you dont even have to stay, if you find that we suck and are horrible crappy insane people, leave. Its a challenge to see if you sing the same tune upon meeting me.

As Ive posted, we are a very friendly welcoming bunch, you might even make friends out of it! Wow, thats a big risk to take isnt it?

I heard they were a pretty friendly bunch over at Jonestown too. lol

[MetFanL]

I heard they were a pretty friendly bunch over at Jonestown too. lol
LMAO. Don't drink the Kool Aid!!

[Ciderhillnh]

Basically by not taking the challenge, opportunity whatever you want to call it.....you're basically just saying that you have no basis for calling me crazy because you dont know me. And you wont even take the chance to find out you might be very wrong about who I am.

But thats fine, keep thinking what you want, I know my life and my friends and my experiences, and I relish and enjoy them.

Yes even when at 8 minute dating supporting my friends!

[meatwad]

Basically by not taking the challenge, opportunity whatever you want to call it.....you're basically just saying that you have no basis for calling me crazy because you dont know me. And you wont even take the chance to find out you might be very wrong about who I am.

But thats fine, keep thinking what you want, I know my life and my friends and my experiences, and I relish and enjoy them.

Yes even when at 8 minute dating supporting my friends!

What are you a fucking can of Coke? Take the Ciderhill challenge? No, I know enough from your opinions on here. But thanks for the invite.

[nikorock28]

LMAO. Don't drink the Kool Aid!!

You know, it would be GREAT if Asshat went to a dating event, told her date that she was in a relationship and proceeded to be splashed with Kool Aid! That would be awesome!!

[coll214]

I had one simple question, and this is what it turned into. I feel bad for even posting to begin with.
DON'T FEEL BAD... this isn't what this is about; it's one person taking their opinion and ludicrous idea and then refusing to believe it's a ludicrous idea after hearing from others.

[pisces2473]

Yes, Ar211, just do a search for a certain person's posts and then you'll see. No need to feel bad.

[ar211]

Oh i don't feel bad for my original post, I feel bad that this harmless thread has turned into this shouting match. Cider, I'm not going to judge your opinions or say if you're right or wrong, but why do you keep pushing the issue when it is clear that you and someone else don't agree? It doesn't seem to make sense to keep trying to explain yourself again and again and again.

[BadKitty]

"8 minute dating is also networking, you might meet someone you want to be friends with (male or female during the mingling periods)"

And that's why it's called 8-minute DATING, you see. :rolleyes:

[KCboy]

Cider, why do you keep pushing the issue when it is clear that you and someone else don't agree? It doesn't seem to make sense to keep trying to explain yourself again and again and again.

welcome, class, to: Attention Whore 101

[lostindc]

I'd think they'd prescreen you to make sure you don't have a SO before the event. it's not really fair to the rest of the people there if you're going just for the sake of doing it. What if you meet someone cool who really likes you?

This is why I stopped going to 8 minute dating events. Too many people there were doing it as a favor to the organizer (or someone else) and were unavailable. I also found the events rather poorly organized. After not getting any matches after a few events I gave up on 8 minute dating.

[shorty]

I'm not from Boston, but I tried it with a friend of mine. We weren't really looking for guys, but we thought it'd be fun and different. It was okay... until I went out again with two guys I matched up with. The first guy tried to get close way too fast and he was too clingy. But he didn't give me a hard time about not going out with him again. The second guy seemed okay at first. But when I realized I didn't want to go out with him again, I didn't know what to do and thought he'd get the hint when I didn't respond and agree to go out with him again (I wrote another post about this). He wouldn't let it go and texted me and emailed me, practically demanding to know why I wouldn't go out with him again. The funny thing is that he went out with my friend too, but he didn't contact her again after their second date... so he didn't bother telling her why he wouldn't go out with her again. So why does he expect me to tell him?

Anyway, it's interesting. Just be careful about the guys you meet. I wasn't looking for anything serious and I had just gotten out of a relationship, so maybe I wasn't ready to start dating anyway.

[ar211]

Shorty,

I don't have to worry about meeting weird guys since I'm a guy myself and would do it to meet women. :D I'm sorry to hear about your negative experience with that guy, but realistically, you could have meet him anywhere. No matter what dating service you use, there will be a share of weirdos I'm sure.

I consider myself to be a normal socially savy guy who is just looking to meet some new people and hopefully find someone special.

I also just got out of a long relationship, and am looking to go slow, but definitely want to get back out on the dating scene.

I hope you have some better dating experiences in the future shorty.