Minor QLC

[Anonymous]

I recently had a "minor" quarterlife crisis after attending my friends wedding. All was well until the Tuesday after at work, when I all of a sudden started sobbing for no reason at all. Turning 25 next week didn't help too much either! Thank goodness I have a big vacation planned with my best friend from college. This is our "We're young, single, and have jobs" trip that we always talked about when we were in college.

[Anonymous]

I think this quarterlife crisis thing is too easily being used as a scapegoat. I am 26, swiftly approaching 27, and am married. I graduated in '97, got married in '98 and am currently working for my 3rd company. Many of our elders don't look favorably upon Gen Xers because we job hop and spend $ faster than we make it. Are we a product of the recent economic boom? Absolutely! Am I suffering from the twenty-something blues? Not even close. I am probably happier now than I ever have been. Do I know what I want to do with the rest of my life. Nope! Do I care? Not too much. I am making good money for my age group, not a lot, but enough. I own a home, a new car, a boat and I am enjoying all that life has to offer. I am able to spend time with friends when I want, for the most part. I work and stay mentally challenged and fresh. And I am more free now than I have ever been. Embrace alduthood. Don't sweat the career or the looming marriage or the kids, as you grow older your priorities in life will change. We, Gen Xers, need to learn to accept that and happily move on with our lives as we progress through it. I don't buy into this Quarterlife crisis hypothesis!!

[JeannieGrace]

Well, that's nice that you're happy now, but what if something awful happened? What if you lost that great job? What if your wife cheated on you? I mean, don't you look at anything deeper? It's kind of self-centered of you to say "I'm so happy -- that's all that matters" and not even offer some sympathy or comfort to those who are struggling. And if you are SO happy, what are you doing on this website anyway?

[Anonymous]

yes and wouldn't we all love to be married - i can't wait to settle down! you've gotten a huge burden out of the way.

[Anonymous]

That is just wonderful that you feel your life is so perfet at this point but I don't think that you should look at those people in your age group as using the quarterlife crisis as a scapegoat! The fact that you are married with a house, car and boat are just grand, however, you, my friend, are the minority. I have a wonderful very high paying job that could support a family of 10. Am I happy? Sometimes I wonder. My life most certainly isn't how I would have imagined and it is hard moving to a new city with nothing but your future and work set ahead of you. So, therefore, be thankful for your happiness but be careful how you discount the needs of others or else you might find yourself in a mid-life crisis with no friends.

[Anonymous]