Feeling not so fresh?

[dengeist]

I know it's not Friday, but....

Ummm, so yeah, I like going down on my girlfriend. But every once in a while, I'm starting to go down there and she says, "Ummmm, no." This always makes me pause for a minute and say "Eh?" It's not a "red zone" thing, I don't think.

So I'm interested in a female perspective. I've had this happen before with other women. I'm just curious as to what makes it ok sometimes and what makes it not ok other times?

[zura04]

it could have something to do with feeling 'not so fresh' on her part, or her being self-conscious about being under-groomed or something.

but a lot times, I don't want my boyfriend to go down on me just because I would rather have more immediate, more hardcore stimulation(hands, or actual sex). but obviously everyone is different. is she still into it with other acts when she doesn't want to get head?

[dengeist]

it could have something to do with feeling 'not so fresh' on her part, or her being self-conscious about being under-groomed or something.

but a lot times, I don't want my boyfriend to go down on me just because I would rather have more immediate, more hardcore stimulation(hands, or actual sex). but obviously everyone is different. is she still into it with other acts when she doesn't want to get head?

Yeah, the sex still happens that's why it's a little confusing. I never thought of it that way though.

Why would oral take you out of the mood though? Still a little confused there.

[zura04]

really, it depends on the girl. for me, if I want to just have sex, like now, oral can be kind of distracting, since it sometimes takes a while to get somewhere with it. it's nice, but for me it doesn't work when i am in the mood and want to have sex right away.

[AshleyJordan]

Yeah, the sex still happens that's why it's a little confusing. I never thought of it that way though.

Why would oral take you out of the mood though? Still a little confused there.

She's probably just a little impatient sometimes. :p

[dengeist]

Nothing wrong with that....

[KCboy]

rather have more immediate, more hardcore stimulation(hands, or actual sex).

I thought oral was more immediate, hardcore.

since you can concentrate more on certain areas.

[wordsmith]

Dude, different strokes for different folks (quite literally). Some people may prefer one, some may prefer the other. Or it may be something that's variable.

[Vikarious]

maybe she needs to fart.

[Hockey Dork]

maybe she needs to fart.

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[Vikarious]

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[dolphingirl]

Hmm...this is interesting. I'd lean towards it being her not feeling fresh. It is very person, for me, that'd be the day I'd turn it down....much rather have oral than regular sex to be completely honest. But then again if I wasn't properly groomed I likely would turn it down because I'd be scared he would be turned off....hence, I am always groomed. :p

[teeny]

could be many things- not feeling fresh, wanting her body against yours (thats the main reason i would choose sex over oral)... don't take it personally but always reassure her that you love going down on her. some girls get self-conscious and think it grosses guys out.

[KCboy]

why don't you ask?

(her, not us)