Plans changed

[rocket333d]

I had a plan going for a while. I've been trying to move out of my parent's house for a long time, but I've had several horrid roommates, both out of school and in (I never went to college, but I lived at high school), and none of my friends are good with money. I have a full time job and make a respectable amount, but not really enough to live on my own.

I do have a boyfriend whom I've been dating for five years. We're very easy-going people who are relatively good with money, and definitely the same level of housekeeping. We want to move out together at some point and the plan was that when he finishes college in two years, we'd move out. I just found out yesterday that due to an unavoidable situation (read: not his fault, and we didn't see it coming), he has to take one more year.

He's offered to move for that last year, but he'll be in grad school, and we both think it's best that he just work on getting that done first before he jumps into a full-time job. His parents are glad to let him stay with them during that time.

I keep telling myself that this is for the best. It gives me one more year to get my affairs in order (and learn to cook), and wouldn't it be better that we both start out with no school obligations and full-time jobs? Still, I've wanted this for a very long time, and it pains me to know that I'll be 25 when I move out. I also feel kinda stupid for not just moving out anyway with a roommate, but I think the whole living with strangers thing has been ruined for me forever. (I mentioned it before when I was frequent here last year, but I had one roomate become very violent.)

I have no conclusion. I summed it up pretty well.

[rocket333d]

I'm sorry, I have no idea how this got posted twice. I didn't even hit the button twice...

[Ciderhillnh]

If you really want to live on your own, you dont have to wait for your BF.

Sorry you've had bad roommate experiences in the past, Ive had them too and they are NOT fun by any means. But like anything you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again.

Maybe this time meet someone and get to know them over a month or so before getting a place together?

I had a roommate get violent on me before too, and sadly it was his own troubles that made him react that way, violence against you is nothing that you bring on yourself, EVER.

Not everyone is going to get violent or be a poor roommate.....look on roommates.com, roomster.com, craigslist.org.

There are tons of people out there, meet them, ask pointed questions about lifestyle and how they operate....you'll find someone.

IF this is what you really want to do, go for it, if not then wait for your BF, I personally wouldnt wait if it was something I really wanted to do....dont let life pass you by due to someone elses timeline.

[rocket333d]

I'm sorry your plans have changed. It does seem like it would be more advantageous, though, to wait on moving out, assuming that your respective living situations are pretty good (which sounds like it's the case).

Yeah, our living situation is pretty good. My folks and I have our differences, but it's pretty standard and they have a lot of respect and patience with me.

The thing I really wanted so much was to live with my boyfriend. Living alone or with roommates would be nice, but with him would be best. Also, I now pay very little in bills now that my health insurance is taken care of by my employer, and I've been putting away money. The more I have, the more of a cushion we have in case something goes wrong. Also, we can possibly save up for a vacation, too.

It's getting easier, but yesterday, it was impossible to think of an extra year as being less than infinity.