How do you meet guys?

[SunnyCee]

Where do you meet guys? Or, guys, where do you meed girls? And how does that lead to a date?
Just curious how that goes for everyone. I could use a few new places, it's been awhile for me! :rolleyes:

[Deni81]

I'm by no means an expert in the meeting guys department, but here are some places I have met past dates.

Online dating sites (match.com)
Bookstore
Work-related function
Through mutual friends (ironically one of my worst dates ever haha)

The guy i have been seeing for almost the past month I met at a concert. I was walking from the parking garage to meet my friend inside and he struck up a conversation with me.

[shadeofgreen]

At a bar, typically while inebriated (miserable failure every time.)

On okcupid.com (100% success rate. Granted, I only ever met one guy online, but as it turns out, he was the only one I needed to meet.)

Other than that, I don't know. All my friends who have met someone post-formal education have done so via the internet. Except one, who met her now fiance at church.

[GoogleGirl]

oddly enough, I met my bf of almost 1.5 yrs in a bar. While I was pretty drunk. lol Not the best suggestive way to meet guys, however.

[wordsmith]

My parents met in a bar in 1971. I don't know the level of inebriation, but they were 20 and 25, so odds are good they at least had their buzzes on. 35 years married this August.

Where have a met guys I've been involved with?

Let's see:

-Via online, whether that's online dating sites or messageboards/forums
-While out with friends, be it bars, summer festivals, whatever
-Through friends
-Doing work (I'm a reporter, I meet a lot of people)

[CityGal]

-Mutual friends
-School
-Work
-Bars
-Online (via dating site)
-Walking down the street

[Rusalka]

Online dating, for me, is a good way to get in touch with different people that you probably would never meet any other way.

I've also met guys through work, and hobbies (writing group, dance class, choir).

I think it's incredibly hard to meet new guys after leaving college. I'm now regretting not putting myself out there more in my student days.

[SmilesSoSweet]

Every guy I've dated (including my current BF) I met online. It was either from a chat room or a dating site.

[shadeofgreen]

-Walking down the street
I've always wondered if this was the sort of thing that happened only on TV. It definitely doesn't happen to me, but that may be because I'm no head-turner and my natural, relaxed expression is an angry-looking one. Not conducive to meeting strangers.

Anyway, how exactly does such an encounter go? Walking down the street, in the produce aisle, in line at the dry cleaners...what do you say to someone in those situations, or what do they say to you, that leads to a date?

I ask because I'm jealous...

[aggiegrad05]

I think it's incredibly hard to meet new guys after leaving college. I'm now regretting not putting myself out there more in my student days.
Ditto!

[meatwad]

Truck-stop bathrooms.

[coll214]

-through online dating sites (all have ended by the fourth date :rolleyes: )
-through friends different 'groups' meeting up at a bar
-at a bar- his dart team was playing my friend's and we started talking/flirting

I refuse to believe meeting someone at a bar is a bad thing, as I'm a nice person there, why can't nice guys theoretically be there as well?? One of my good friends met her now hubby at one and they are the perfect couple!

[fuzmiq]

Go social dancing (ie swing, salsa etc.) It is a great way to meet guys as you have to partner up with them to dance and it is an easy way to hop into conversations with them too which can lead to more...

[CityGal]

ShadeofGreen...

The launderette down the block from me closed early for the holiday weekend, so I schlepped my clothes around for blocks looking for anyone that opened late. While on my journey, some guy asked me about some party. I told him I didn’t know and continued on my journey. He decided to chat it up with me for several blocks. Normally I would tell people to eff off but I wasn’t feeling very feisty. Anywhoo he ended up walking me home (after a failed attempt to do laundry) and gave me his card. Since he was only in town for a few days, I gave him one date. It was definitely NOT the best date ever that’s for sure and I never answered any of his other calls.

[The Happy Hodag]

Truck-stop bathrooms.

Is 612 Wharf Avenue by any chance in New Jersey somewhere?

-The Happy Hodag!

[PenforPrez]

I've always wondered if this was the sort of thing that happened only on TV. It definitely doesn't happen to me, but that may be because I'm no head-turner and my natural, relaxed expression is an angry-looking one. Not conducive to meeting strangers.

That happened to me a month ago. I was rushing from a computer center to get back to my car, and I was crossing a busy street. I was in a good mood at that moment; had my smile on. This lovely young women at the other end of the street sees my smile and smiles herself and said "Hi."

I really wanted to chat with her, but I was rushing to an appointment with my therapist. I gave a warm hello back, but had to keep going. I should have struck up a chat; my therapist would have understood. :rolleyes: In fact, she said pretty much the same thing.

So get in a good mood and walk down the street with your smile on. Be like Mary Tyler Moore: "Who can turn the world on with her smile/Who can take a nothing day and suddenly make it all seem worthwhile?" :)

Paul

[tommyboy]

funny story actually, at the time when I first moved to Bmore (Aug 2006), i was a little frustrated with girls I had been meeting. While shopping for furniture on craigslist, I saw a girl's ad the seemed half serious but a little charming, so I emailed her joking line about me having nice shoes and a good relationship with my mom. She called me a momma's boy and said my shoes were probably lifts. Next thing you know we were meeting downtown in the Belvedere hotel lobby, and went bar hopping in mount vernon.

We've been to Vegas and Atlantic city in the past 9 months :)

where to meet guys? Online. It works because it's straight forward, but takes a bit of screening especially for women. If that doesn't work, go through work friends, or any social event. I volunteered at an elementary school and half the teachers would always stop and say hi and want to talk to me, maybe it's the uniform.

[KCboy]

Truck-stop bathrooms.

highway rest stops

[/something about mary]

[hoodie]

prison pen-pals.

Kidding, sorry. Well I met my boyfriend at a bar. However, we were both there to see someone on his birthday, just didn't know each other, so I consider it meeting through friends. I like the idea of meeting people through friends of friends as long as it isn't an official "fix up" (awkward, in my humblest of opinions). I also would try online dating like many others here have said.

[marigoldny]

these were defintely helpful posts. i'm hoping to get back into the dating scene now that i will be continuing grad school in the city soon. my dating history has been non-existent for the past oh 2 freakin' years! the dates i've been on have gone nowhere. i was even a serial dater for a little while with no luck! i'm not exactly sure if it's the guys i attract, the selection pool (in long island), or my own weirdness :rolleyes:

[Ciderhillnh]

Kick Ball tournament groups (so many hookups at those for some reason that turn into good romances)
Anywhere that you go out to and there are men there.....so if you walk into a place and there are guys...talk to them.

Bars, clubs, work, through friends, not through friends (say you go to a party that your friends friend is hosting and someone else is there not connected to your group is there also-----)

Ive met guys Ive dated in so many random ways. Just have to go out there and talk to random people.

[meatwad]

Kick Ball tournament groups

So many possibilities with this one. :D

[marigoldny]

So many possibilities with this one. :D

*actively looking for a kickball tournament in the area* ;):

[MLMaestro]

So many possibilities with this one. :D

What does Kick Ball Tournament Group mean by the way? Is it soccer or soemthing? :p

For me, I usually get to know females through:

Project groups
Online (e.g. forums, online dating sites)

LOL guess I need to join some groups, not being socially active enough. :p

[Rage]

I still think it's not where you meet someone, but how. You can be anywhere and find a date. It just takes a little creativity in approach and a willingness to be flat-out rejected by a total stranger (which, if you think about it, isn't really that big of a deal since you'll probably never see them again).