happie
05-20-2007, 06:01 PM
:torn: I by no means have all the answers, nor will I try to sell them to you. Nor will I try to preach. And I vouch my best not to come across this way... I apologize if I do because by no means this is what I intend.
But when people say "I'm stuck", exactly what is making you feel stuck?
Is it your family? Your finances? Your "worthless degree"? Sometimes it's a huge ordeal, such as an illness in the family.
I've seen so many posts that seem to be saying the same thing. "I'm stuck".
Growing up, in our corperate, almost spoonfed lives - our decisions have always been made for us. By our parents, our teachers, and often times our peers... where to live, where to go to school, what to wear, how to act, what to do, what to think...
That's the trickiest part of becoming adults. Nobody is doing this for us anymore. It's the best and the most challenging part about the struggle. All I can see is that people are looking for some kind of happiness in their decisions.
The way I see it, is that compared to our counterparts 20-30 years ago, many of us made ourselves quite valuable by taking advantage of a college education. In the 90's, companies would go down to Florida during spring break to recruit undergrads because the business market was so good.
It's 2007, we are also coming out with knowledge and skills and not finding the right opportunities to use them. People go by a word by word basis on how to apply their skills, but this is life. Nothing is ever written in stone.
From what I read, it almost appears that people are apologetic about their situations. Maybe the best question to ask is, what's wrong with this picture? Unfortunately, it's much tougher than it should be to change our situation because we don't have enough control to change it.
Its' sticky, our current situations should not be used to define us. There are people with PHD's working in call centers. Our parents, teachers, peers... nor our current situation should define who you are. You do. If I had to ever accept that being female should make me incapable of working in a certain industry, then I couldn't bring anything to the table. Or could I let a former employer define what my career path would be.
I made a valid point to stick it out thick or thin because I know that I had something to bring to the table, moreso than anyone else. This is just how it is.
If anything brought me to accomplish anything ever - it was self esteem and doing the right thing.
No matter where we live, what we do, or even if we're dating (or married) there is absolutely no reason to question ourselves or even apologize for it. Life happens.
I hope I wasnt' too preachy. Gees, I'm not rich nor perfect but this is what worked for me. Hang in there guys, if anything... the very last thing you should do is bother with the negative energy of not being at a certain place by a certain time (ie. not dating at age... I'm only makign $$$ at this age...)
Anyone who dwells with a little common sense knows better not to judge.
But when people say "I'm stuck", exactly what is making you feel stuck?
Is it your family? Your finances? Your "worthless degree"? Sometimes it's a huge ordeal, such as an illness in the family.
I've seen so many posts that seem to be saying the same thing. "I'm stuck".
Growing up, in our corperate, almost spoonfed lives - our decisions have always been made for us. By our parents, our teachers, and often times our peers... where to live, where to go to school, what to wear, how to act, what to do, what to think...
That's the trickiest part of becoming adults. Nobody is doing this for us anymore. It's the best and the most challenging part about the struggle. All I can see is that people are looking for some kind of happiness in their decisions.
The way I see it, is that compared to our counterparts 20-30 years ago, many of us made ourselves quite valuable by taking advantage of a college education. In the 90's, companies would go down to Florida during spring break to recruit undergrads because the business market was so good.
It's 2007, we are also coming out with knowledge and skills and not finding the right opportunities to use them. People go by a word by word basis on how to apply their skills, but this is life. Nothing is ever written in stone.
From what I read, it almost appears that people are apologetic about their situations. Maybe the best question to ask is, what's wrong with this picture? Unfortunately, it's much tougher than it should be to change our situation because we don't have enough control to change it.
Its' sticky, our current situations should not be used to define us. There are people with PHD's working in call centers. Our parents, teachers, peers... nor our current situation should define who you are. You do. If I had to ever accept that being female should make me incapable of working in a certain industry, then I couldn't bring anything to the table. Or could I let a former employer define what my career path would be.
I made a valid point to stick it out thick or thin because I know that I had something to bring to the table, moreso than anyone else. This is just how it is.
If anything brought me to accomplish anything ever - it was self esteem and doing the right thing.
No matter where we live, what we do, or even if we're dating (or married) there is absolutely no reason to question ourselves or even apologize for it. Life happens.
I hope I wasnt' too preachy. Gees, I'm not rich nor perfect but this is what worked for me. Hang in there guys, if anything... the very last thing you should do is bother with the negative energy of not being at a certain place by a certain time (ie. not dating at age... I'm only makign $$$ at this age...)
Anyone who dwells with a little common sense knows better not to judge.