steph78
05-22-2007, 02:49 PM
Okay, I've been missing in action awhile because I've been so insanely busy lately, but boy have I got some stuff bottled up that I just need to get out of my system!
When I first joined these boards I was working a bajillion hours a week at a job that was fulfilling but draining, and feeling stuck because my husband was in grad school and I felt like we couldn't put down roots anywhere and actually get settled and "start" our life until he finished school and we moved out of our apartment.
Fast forward a few years to now - husband has graduated and gotten a kick-ass job, we have moved to the town where his job is located which has a wonderfully low cost of living, so we have bought a very nice house, and we have a beautiful five-month old daughter. I have worked out a deal with my old company where I am working just ten hours a week (and telecommuting from home) so that I can stay home with my daughter - I mainly squeeze work in during her naps.
So it sounds like my life is perfect - everything I have been wanting for the past few years. And I am very happy, but ALL these changes have occurred in a very short period of time and it just hit me that I'm super overwhelmed! At Thanksgiving I was sitting in my apartment in Atlanta still working full time, then we had our baby and were living in Alabama by the first of Feb. I have been so busy trying to be a good mom and accomplish unpacking our boxes and painting rooms and planting flowers and stuff that I haven't had time to even process how I feel until lately, and I just realized that I feel VERY alone. When we moved, we left our whole support system behind. I just don't have any friends here yet (I haven't had time to go out and make any!!) I go for days without leaving the house sometimes, and when I do go out it is often just to go grocery shopping. I would love to find a playgroup for my daughter so I can meet some people I have stuff in common with - I tried one that my husband's coworker's wife invited me to, but all the kids were like a year older than my daughter so they were all talking about things that 18 month olds do the whole time and I felt like I was the new kid at school who didn't fit in at all. :( I could not relate to their conversation at all. I tried another moms group, and same thing - all the moms there had three-year olds and were running after them at the playground and I was sitting there with my baby feeling like we just didn't fit.
As much as I felt frustrated when we were in Atlanta because I knew it was only a temporary stop, we sure did leave a lot of friends there that I am totally missing now. The grass is always greener, I guess! I don't even know if this is a QLC anymore - I am past the whole recently-out-of-school, trying-to-find-a-job thing, but I am still in my 20s and I totally feel like I don't fit in with the whole mom scene yet either. I am stuck in between. Thanks to anyone who read this far - any ideas on how to get out there and start feeling like I belong here (between diaper changes and naps and cooking and cleaning and working at home??)
When I first joined these boards I was working a bajillion hours a week at a job that was fulfilling but draining, and feeling stuck because my husband was in grad school and I felt like we couldn't put down roots anywhere and actually get settled and "start" our life until he finished school and we moved out of our apartment.
Fast forward a few years to now - husband has graduated and gotten a kick-ass job, we have moved to the town where his job is located which has a wonderfully low cost of living, so we have bought a very nice house, and we have a beautiful five-month old daughter. I have worked out a deal with my old company where I am working just ten hours a week (and telecommuting from home) so that I can stay home with my daughter - I mainly squeeze work in during her naps.
So it sounds like my life is perfect - everything I have been wanting for the past few years. And I am very happy, but ALL these changes have occurred in a very short period of time and it just hit me that I'm super overwhelmed! At Thanksgiving I was sitting in my apartment in Atlanta still working full time, then we had our baby and were living in Alabama by the first of Feb. I have been so busy trying to be a good mom and accomplish unpacking our boxes and painting rooms and planting flowers and stuff that I haven't had time to even process how I feel until lately, and I just realized that I feel VERY alone. When we moved, we left our whole support system behind. I just don't have any friends here yet (I haven't had time to go out and make any!!) I go for days without leaving the house sometimes, and when I do go out it is often just to go grocery shopping. I would love to find a playgroup for my daughter so I can meet some people I have stuff in common with - I tried one that my husband's coworker's wife invited me to, but all the kids were like a year older than my daughter so they were all talking about things that 18 month olds do the whole time and I felt like I was the new kid at school who didn't fit in at all. :( I could not relate to their conversation at all. I tried another moms group, and same thing - all the moms there had three-year olds and were running after them at the playground and I was sitting there with my baby feeling like we just didn't fit.
As much as I felt frustrated when we were in Atlanta because I knew it was only a temporary stop, we sure did leave a lot of friends there that I am totally missing now. The grass is always greener, I guess! I don't even know if this is a QLC anymore - I am past the whole recently-out-of-school, trying-to-find-a-job thing, but I am still in my 20s and I totally feel like I don't fit in with the whole mom scene yet either. I am stuck in between. Thanks to anyone who read this far - any ideas on how to get out there and start feeling like I belong here (between diaper changes and naps and cooking and cleaning and working at home??)