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06-01-2007, 01:35 AM
I guess this is more of a vent then anything...hoping it will make me feel better.
My best friend (let's call her Ann) and I have been close for many years and have always been amazed out how we seem to go through the same life patterns simultaneously (boyfriends, family, jobs etc). We are in our late twenties. I got out of a constraining long term relationship several months ago and have been enjoying my "freedom" ever since. I have not been dating nor have had the desire to do so since. Ann had been in a similar relationship and just recently split up after much deliberation. We always spoke of our desire to not be tied down and to focus on ourselves by traveling, taking self improvement classes (cooking, languages) and not worrying about men for a while.
Ann was living with her boyfriend at the time and I happened to have been looking for a roommate when they split up. So, it worked out because she needed a place to stay for a few months. We talked about the saying that "you should never live with your best friend", but have never so much as had a disagreement before. We talked about how much fun we would have this summer focusing on ourselves, having fun and not worrying about relationships.
Well, you probably know where this is going....before she even moved out of her ex's, Ann met a guy and quickly became involved with him. This is the person that said she had no desire to get involved with someone and that this was going to be "our" summer-as cheesy as that sounds. Needless to say, I'm very annoyed at her and can't shake the feeling.
In a few days, Ann and I are going away on a vacation we've been excited about for months. We planned to celebrate the demise of our bad relationships and just have girl time w/o any talk about men. Obviously, I can tell that she is giddy and excited about this new guy - she practically spends all her free time with him (it's been 3 weeks). I know this is totally my problem. I'm completely single, with no prospects - but that's been my choice. I just hate myself for feeling so annoyed when I'm around her - I have never felt that way, EVER.
I did mention, when she first started hanging out with this guy, how I felt a little hurt and she reassured that she had no desire to get involved with someone anytime soon. Well, she's with the guy nearly every night and I hate myself for developing this animosity. I know I'm disappointed because I was looking forward to having someone single around (all my other friends are in relationships). I know it also makes me come to terms with the fact that, yeah, I'm probably a bit lonely.
In a couple days, we will be spending a week together on vacation. I need to get over acting this way, fast. I don't want this trip to be uncomfortable for me or her. But, I just know how I'm going to feel when she starts texting and calling this new guy. That's one of the main things we said we did not want to worry about anymore when we travel!
AHHHH, this is so petty, but it's driving me crazy! I hate feeling so annoyed and just want it to go away.
Thanks for reading.
My best friend (let's call her Ann) and I have been close for many years and have always been amazed out how we seem to go through the same life patterns simultaneously (boyfriends, family, jobs etc). We are in our late twenties. I got out of a constraining long term relationship several months ago and have been enjoying my "freedom" ever since. I have not been dating nor have had the desire to do so since. Ann had been in a similar relationship and just recently split up after much deliberation. We always spoke of our desire to not be tied down and to focus on ourselves by traveling, taking self improvement classes (cooking, languages) and not worrying about men for a while.
Ann was living with her boyfriend at the time and I happened to have been looking for a roommate when they split up. So, it worked out because she needed a place to stay for a few months. We talked about the saying that "you should never live with your best friend", but have never so much as had a disagreement before. We talked about how much fun we would have this summer focusing on ourselves, having fun and not worrying about relationships.
Well, you probably know where this is going....before she even moved out of her ex's, Ann met a guy and quickly became involved with him. This is the person that said she had no desire to get involved with someone and that this was going to be "our" summer-as cheesy as that sounds. Needless to say, I'm very annoyed at her and can't shake the feeling.
In a few days, Ann and I are going away on a vacation we've been excited about for months. We planned to celebrate the demise of our bad relationships and just have girl time w/o any talk about men. Obviously, I can tell that she is giddy and excited about this new guy - she practically spends all her free time with him (it's been 3 weeks). I know this is totally my problem. I'm completely single, with no prospects - but that's been my choice. I just hate myself for feeling so annoyed when I'm around her - I have never felt that way, EVER.
I did mention, when she first started hanging out with this guy, how I felt a little hurt and she reassured that she had no desire to get involved with someone anytime soon. Well, she's with the guy nearly every night and I hate myself for developing this animosity. I know I'm disappointed because I was looking forward to having someone single around (all my other friends are in relationships). I know it also makes me come to terms with the fact that, yeah, I'm probably a bit lonely.
In a couple days, we will be spending a week together on vacation. I need to get over acting this way, fast. I don't want this trip to be uncomfortable for me or her. But, I just know how I'm going to feel when she starts texting and calling this new guy. That's one of the main things we said we did not want to worry about anymore when we travel!
AHHHH, this is so petty, but it's driving me crazy! I hate feeling so annoyed and just want it to go away.
Thanks for reading.