Friends ...not so much

[samender]

I know its kinda just the way it is that when you get older..no longer in school anymore that it is harder to make friends. But I also am now seeing how the closeness factor to friends really pans out as we get older. Maybe it is because I did not stay friend with people I was best friends with in high school. I had a lot of bad friends and eventually ...after a long long time...I finally decided it was too much and had to drop them. I dont have many friends now...it isnt even really a big deal. I have some friends I see occasioanlly but I am usually busy enough with work, home life, my pets, my bf, family, etc. I now once again am in a position with a friend..(who was very close to me) not like close as I was to friends in high school but close enough..closer than I was to other friends..and once again...its to the point where its not gonna work out. I think I have gone through more friends than relationships. I mean its still hard...but I dont feel that bad about it..it doesnt seem to be as big of a deal. In fact I guess thats whats the most sad about it..is that we werent even close enough for me to feel that bad. Any one else experience this?

[fuzmiq]

I think that the more people screw friends over, the harder it is to want to get close to anyone else. People who have never been screwed over by a friend don't usually understand. But it definitely sucks.

It talkes time (for me atleast) to get really close to someone...like a year or so. But by that time, if people last, I have made a friend forever. And I think, not everyone has to be that type of bosom buddy friend. Some people are just meant to be there for a short while.

Some you just have fun with and some you share everything with and I think both are necessary. But when it's time to part, it is time to part. There is never a reason to keep a negative influence around.

[Lucky13]

I can totally relate and for a second thought i was reading my own story. I have a hard time even calling people my friends after the "hard times" I've had in the past. Time and life are precious...don't waste another minute you'll never get back with someone that isn't that important to you. I don't know about you but for me it's hard to trust people. There's always that hidden fear that some of the past events will happen again w/ the new person I've "befriended". Chances are the person you're gonna "fire" has an idea things aren't working.Best of luck...let the person go.