Sudden life changes

[winneythepooh7]

Holy jeez---it's starting to really hit me that I am getting married in a month and a half. I also got a very unexpected phone call from a close friend last night about a house for sale across the street from her...........for mad cheap. Apparently the owner's husband died unexpectedly so she's pretty much willing to take whatever., and she prefers to do the deal without having to put the house on the market. My fiance wants to go look this weekend!!!! We so were not planning to look at houses until AFTER the wedding, and certainly didn't expect to hear about anything in this price range. Anyone else going through some sudden life changes, and how do you cope!!! My coping mech is kinda just tuning everything out and being in denial LOL.

[capella]

Raises hand.

Trying to figure out where you fit in the work world qualifies as major life shifts, right? Changing jobs (fairly quickly!!!) is a huge shift in perspective. So, yeah. I feel ya. I cope by taking it ONE day at a time. One day. One thing. One foot in front of the other. I am currently working out the kinks of teaching HS (which is, by the way, WAAAYYYY better than middle school.... I don't know how I EVER taught middle school). I am also in grad school (two classes) AND beginning National Board certification. It's a crazy time for me (mostly work stuff... everything else is very stable).

Things shift fast sometimes and I think you just get good at going with the flow, following your gut instincts, and taking it a little bit at a time.

Good luck with the house!!! How exciting! :)

[winneythepooh7]

Yeah, definitely taking it one day at a time is how I've been dealing, as well. I think my mom is more stressed out than I am though. She's really letting all the little details get to her. I really just want the day to get here, be over, go on my honeymoon and have my "old life" back again. It is really exciting though to think that we may have an actual house soon, whether it's this one or another one!

[capella]

Ooh, enjoy your honeymoon. We're going on 4 years (this Christmas Eve) and STILL have not had a honeymoon. But I think we may take a cruise next year or something.

Oh, taking long, hot baths helps. I think I've done that every day this week. It helps me relax and reconnect to myself after a long, insane day anyhow. Actually, screw the cruise... maybe we'll just get a hot tub. That'd cost almost the same and it would come in handy a LOT.

[wordsmith]

Well, I read an online job posting a week ago, sent in a cover letter and resume, heard back within hours, and had a phone interview set up before the day was out. Today, a week later, I'm 7 hours away from home, getting ready to go to an in-person interview, which, if it goes well, will constitute a major move...so, yeah, sudden life changes. I hope.

[CityGal]

I'm about to embark on an overseas move in less than four weeks. Stress level is about medium/everyday level. The stress the week of the move will be skyrocketed. Crap and I barely know how to speak English, English. Rats!

[WorkInProgress]

Count me in. I'm moving in less than a month. And there are more other issues than I care to count. But I'm trying to take it all in stride. Deep breaths.

So excited for you, winney!

[and1grad]

Something must be in the water cuz I got about a bazillion things going on myself. I'm actually also going to be house shopping pretty soon. Win, whats mad cheap to you? I know your area is crazy expensive.

[embrassezla]

I have dealt with that in the past although things are stable for me right now. I moved to MD from PA when I was in the middle of grad school for a job, knowing only one person in the immediate area. It was pretty scary. Buying a house was scary, but didn't feel like a major life change, really. I guess adjusting to a mortgage is a pretty big life change, though.

I'm planning on moving to the Pacific Northwest sometime in the next decade, and hopefully doing something completely different than I'm doing now. That's going to be a major change, but I'm planning for it, even this far in advance.

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winney, i say totally go look at it with an open mind. good luck! at least it's a good thing! a month before our wedding, the (dotcom) company my husband worked for couldn't make payroll and went bankrupt. so i am well versed with things happening all at once. you just have to hang on and enjoy the ride!

words, i hope things work out with the interview.

hmm, big life changes- does having a baby while going to school for a new career count?

[SmilesSoSweet]

Moving out here over two years ago was definitely a big life change . . . but it's been the best decision I've made in my adult life.

And now I'm dating a great guy and that may lead to even better things. Even seeing my brother getting married a couple years ago and my sister getting married earlier this year put life into a different perspective.

[winneythepooh7]

Something must be in the water cuz I got about a bazillion things going on myself. I'm actually also going to be house shopping pretty soon. Win, whats mad cheap to you? I know your area is crazy expensive.

I'll PM you ;).

[winneythepooh7]

winney, i say totally go look at it with an open mind. good luck! at least it's a good thing! a month before our wedding, the (dotcom) company my husband worked for couldn't make payroll and went bankrupt. so i am well versed with things happening all at once. you just have to hang on and enjoy the ride!

words, i hope things work out with the interview.

hmm, big life changes- does having a baby while going to school for a new career count?

Yes, having a baby I think has got to be the biggest change of all!!

[meatwad]

Going to send in an application for a job that pays $5,000 more per year than this one. I'm trying not to get my hopes up but it's tough.

[pisces2473]

Yes, having a baby I think has got to be the biggest change of all!!
Agreed!

I held my coworker's daughter a few times over this past month (he works a different schedule now, and brings her in sometimes on his days off) and I was not like OH MY GOD I WANT ONE, like I would have been in the past. I guess that's good, and sort of bad.

Speaking of changes, I'm getting married in ONE MONTH and SIX DAYS and I just got promoted! I even went on an interview at another company the day before the promotion, haha. Now I just have to get the balls to ask for more $$$. I'm not really worried about the wedding--but I do feel myself stressing out over weird things and it has the tendency to impact me and FI's relationship. I've noticed it more so over the past 2 or 3 months, which I am sure is just the wedding crap building up.

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congrats on the promo! i want details! PM me.

[ebruening]

I have a great boyfriend, who I feel very fortunate to have in my life. I'm fairly certain that we're in it for the long haul. I'm earning significantly more money than last year, and I'm finishing up my master's degree as well as a second certification. I don't necessarily know if those qualify as "sudden" life changes, but lately, I've been feeling a lot more like an "adult," or at least like I'm past my QLC :D

[winneythepooh7]

I have a great boyfriend, who I feel very fortunate to have in my life. I'm fairly certain that we're in it for the long haul. I'm earning significantly more money than last year, and I'm finishing up my master's degree as well as a second certification. I don't necessarily know if those qualify as "sudden" life changes, but lately, I've been feeling a lot more like an "adult," or at least like I'm past my QLC :D

That's awesome Erica! I didn't know you were dating anyone again!

[TinyDancer]

Woo hoo! Love hearing this good news from everyone!

My life is stable. . . for a change. . . so I will sit back and enjoy your madness. :)

[steph78]

I love hearing this good news from everyone, too! So cheery, I'm happy for everyone's positive changes! This thread should have come along about six months ago - between December and February my husband and I had a baby, husband finally got that PhD and now has a great job, we moved to a new state, we bought a house, and I am now a stay at home mom, telecommuting part time.

LOTS of change compressed into a very short period of time (during which I didn't get a whole lot of sleep!), but after being here for six months I am feeling a little more settled. All this change makes me feel like my QLC is kind of over as well, I have such different priorities now than I did at this time last year. I am a lot happier in a lot of ways...and then there's a whole new set of challenges that come with new circumstances! So it never really ends, I guess.

[ebruening]

That's awesome Erica! I didn't know you were dating anyone again!

Yep. We met on okcupid. He's a wonderful fella. He has gone through a sudden life change as well, albeit a tragic one. However, I am more than happy to support him in whatever way I can right now.