Inapproriate family members

[AshleyJordan]

OK, so has anyone else had to deal with siblings hitting on their SO's? My sister hasn't even met my BF and she's talking about how he's hot and she's "sexually attracted" to him. I just was really light about it, and was like, "Ha, ha, that's great, please don't act on it, hahahaha."

FWIW, this is the same sister with the mental health/drug problems. Barf, barf, barf.

[allie1105]

I've never dealt with THAT kind of family member issue...but I have some interesting in-laws. Trust me, if you guys ever need a good, drama filled story, I am sure I have one, as something is always "going on" in their world...

[AshleyJordan]

Hopefully she was just being "cute." I have no tolerance for that kind of stuff-- I laughed it off and hope that will do the trick!

[wordsmith]

Not remotely,when it comes to that. Inappropriate in other ways, perhaps.

[AshleyJordan]

I'm also trying to let it slide because my sister's not very mentally healthy. It doesn't excuse it per se, but it means that I'll kind of look the other way.

[pisces2473]

I'm also trying to let it slide because my sister's not very mentally healthy. It doesn't excuse it per se, but it means that I'll kind of look the other way.
Good idea...sounds like you need to just be like "uh huh, okay, sure honey." You know, like patting her on the head.

She must have seen a picture of him?

[AshleyJordan]

Yup. Thankfully we got out of Xmas (see other thread,) so it will probably be a while before I have to "worry" about this again. More importantly, it seems like this is just another sign that my sister is "slipping" again. :0

[allie1105]

From what you said about your sister and her mental health, it sounds like a call for attention more than anything. I'm assuming that since she hasn't met your BF yet, the relationship is fairly new. If she is mentally unstable, she probably feels that the excitement of your new relationship is going to draw attention away from her...so she needs to find a way to make herself "included." Either that or she is just trying to elicit a response from you - I would do exactly as you are doing, sort of look the other way. Just brush her off so maybe eventually she will see that if you don't react her words, she will stop saying them.

Again, my family issues aren't the same as yours, but I just deal with some obnoxious in-laws. I deal with them just I stated above - ignore the remarks that annoy me in hopes that they stop.

[Dirty Sanchez]

OK, so has anyone else had to deal with siblings hitting on their SO's? My sister hasn't even met my BF and she's talking about how he's hot and she's "sexually attracted" to him. I just was really light about it, and was like, "Ha, ha, that's great, please don't act on it, hahahaha.".

I think you know, we have had issues with H's SIL hitting on him. My advice is don't let her meet your BF till she gets her shit together, and let her know your plan.

And, don't be light about it, you're just leting her get away with it.

[AshleyJordan]

I didn't know that ever happened, no! Feel free to email me. She's definitely declining again, though. . . she's been calling me a lot and saying some very troubling things. Here.we.go.again.