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butterpecan

11-01-2007, 04:26 PM

Moon Gazing

11-01-2007, 04:37 PM

Well you can always claim to have a busy schedule when asked to do things if you dont want to come out and say I dont care to hang with ya. Blow them off in a nice way? That might work...

wordsmith

11-01-2007, 05:57 PM

There is no nice way. There are polite ways of begging off, and over time, after numerous times of begging off, most people lay off the inviting. But that's also not extremely direct. However, there are cases where being less direct is being more tactful. There's no real way to directly say, "Look, here's the deal...I'm not going to accept your invites, so it's better if you just don't ask," that will come off well.

isitfridayyet?

11-02-2007, 01:20 AM

i've been in this situation, but i was on the other end. my friend didn't want to hang out w/ me for whatever reason...we used to work together/went out all the time and i thought were pretty close, but i got a new job and she still works at the old company(maybe she's jealous?). anyway, after repeated unreturned phone calls and "i'm busy" answers to invites with no plans to reschedule i stopped trying to invite her out. i'm not sure what the best way to say it is, but i would have almost rather her said something about that she didn't want to be friends anymore instead of leaving me guessing what the deal is. you could just say you aren't going to drive across town--my friend said that to me once and it pissed me off enough that i haven't talked to her since. i think you should try to tell them somehow...if it was never a romantic relationship and purely platonic they might not get the hint w/ your "i'm busy" responses.

DCgirl

11-04-2007, 01:54 AM

I have some friends from college that would like to hang out more now since we have graduated than when we did in college. I wasn't really close to this friend, and don't understand why they want to see me so much now. Maybe their lonely. I don't especially like hanging out with them, and don't really want to drive through hours of traffic to see them on the other side of town. Whats a civil, nice way to say No I don't want to come and hang out with you again?

There is none right?

:torn:

Having been on the "crap" side of this situation with 2 of my dearest college friends (now former friends by their choice), I can personally say that it is VERY hurtful to ignore the person. It leaves a deep emotional scar and, I believe, it's best to not burn bridges...even to those whom you don't wish to communicate with anymore. Just tactfully say that your friendship has run it's course and you wish that person well.

I wish my 2 former friends had the balls to tell me this rather than leave me guessing. :mad: Like I said, it REALLY hurts but I think that if you have a history with that person, then they AT LEAST deserve closure...this way, there isn't that psychological effect a person may develop about other friends leaving him/her some day with no stated reason. It truly screws with a person's head if/when a so called friend of many years ends the friendship by ending communication with no annoucement. It's like one day..BAM...nothing....the person calls and always gets the vm or answering machine....leaves messages on the friends MySpace profile to call and hang out....emails the person with no answer in return. Due to the way my 2 former friends ended the friendship, I will NEVER help them in this lifetime. The way they ended the friendship really put an insult on (what I thought) a solid 8 year of friendship I had with them.

Yes, most people hate confrontation, but this person use to be a friend...don't you think he/she at least deserve some type of explaination? Hell, write the person an email at the least if you can't manage to gather up the nerve to call or talk face to face.