No control over the situation

[SunnyCee]

I need to get this off my chest, because I know if I don't, I'll just end up obsessing...

So this weekend I went to see my friend play with her band, and I had a great time. I also got to meet one of the band members, who's super cute. I asked my friend if he's single and told her I think he's cute, and she told me a bit of his story. Apparently he's "perpetually single" and isn't a great conversationalist and isn't very proactive when it comes to dating.

Otherwise, he's a good guy. And I was like, I'm all of those things, too! So she's going to tell him I think he's cute.
But, she's away on vacation for a few days, and it's not like they're best friends or she has tons of time and thought to give to this, so I don't know when that will be. And even though I don't know him at all, I know her pretty well, and I'm getting attached to the band--they seem so cool!

So now I just feel on edge, since I have no control over what happens, and because he and I didn't get a chance to talk much, it's not as though I can make any kind of first move without looking like a stalker.


I don't know, I don't meet many cute single guys, but I don't want to get my hopes up too high or anything. I just feel anxious now! It doesn't help that work is so slow this week that I have plenty of time to mull it over...

[Bsig84]

God I have been in your situation so many times!!! I hate waiting for someone to make the first move for me because I dont like to wait. If I have to wait I will usually end up making a move anyway. Is there any way that you could get in touch with him just to tell him you like the band? Like an email address or something? Maybe that would at least break the ice.

[Chessboxin]

Hey, you just got lucky I guess. I used to be this type of guy..(I'm changing that now). Well anyway, he sounds alot like me.

Seriously, just go to their next gig and try to talk to him. If your friend has told him that you think he is cute and he likes you as well, he will be open to this. Trust me. If he is going to 'reject' you, he is going to do it in a friendly way most of the time. I don't think you would look like a stalker. This guy is not going to take the initiative because:

a) he doesn't know how, or

b) he doesn't want to look foolish in case you don't like him, or

c) something else (there is a reason a cute guy doesn't have a gf, ever)

There is nothing wrong with you making a 'move' here. If you wait for him, you might have to wait a long time..and life is just too short.

Keep it casual, and see how he responds when you talk with him.

[SunnyCee]

Thanks for the responses...
The problem is, their next show isn't until January.
And, short of friending him on myspace, I have no way to get in contact with him. And I'm not going to "friend" him since we met so briefly, and I talked MORE about him with my friend than WITH him.

But you're right, there is a reason a cute guy doesn't have a gf, ever.

Ugh, blarg.