Let Downs

[JackieB]

I haven't had a good long term relationship in a while and I'm really starting to get tired of the repetitiveness of dating: I meet someone new, start to feel like it could work out, get excited, and then get really disappointed when I realize that it's not going to work out to be something great. Does anyone else feel the same way? Any advice on how to cope?

[Deni81]

I don't have any advice to offer you, but I can definitely relate to how you are feeling.

[Kragthorpe]

LOTS of patience is all. It's been 2.5 years since I've had any serious LTR. Driving me nuts. Whaddya do?

[SWMOchick]

Me, I've made myself "numb". Can't feel anything bad if you don't feel anything at all. Of course, then that also means you don't feel hope. I don't recommend this for you. Fight through the frustration. It'll be worth it, I'm sure.

[Moon Gazing]

Be thankful that you still have that skill of knowing something isnt going to work. Its better than living in denial and being with someone who has no future potential just because you want a relationship....

[JackieB]

It's just really hard to know when it's time to throw in the towel: am I being too critical of someone, or too easy on him?

[Kragthorpe]

I'm totally with you on that...it sucks. I'm in the midst of possibly riding that cycle as we speak. All I can say is you get up tomorrow and plow through the ground, sow some more seeds, and hope for the best.

[hereisnewyork]

I'm probably going on my thousandth first date tonight, I really don't know how I keep on doing it either. I'm 25 and have never been in a serious relationship...part of it is because I'm pretty good at knowing when something doesn't have a future and the other part is bad luck and being picky...

or "is it possible i'm not as attractive as i think i am?" sorry hadda stick an Elaine quote in there... or maybe it's because i quote seinfeld too often? lol

either way, It's EXHAUSTING :(

[Kragthorpe]

You know what else I just thought of. Since guys are usually the ones paying on the first dates, we absolutely don't have the capacity to HAVE as many first dates, and so for our first dates, there's a lot more pressure for it to go well. It can be more of an investment, so you need it to go right. That sucks.

[hereisnewyork]

yes, guys should (not all do) pay for the first date...buuuut girls have to make sure their hair, face, makeup, nails, outfit, heel size, etc, etc, etc is just right...

EVEN!

[Se7en]

yes, guys should (not all do) pay for the first date...buuuut girls have to make sure their hair, face, makeup, nails, outfit, heel size, etc, etc, etc is just right... EVEN!

Haha, I agree. I always pay on the first date, it just seems natural to me. If the girl insists on paying, I just suggest she pays for the drink/coffee/movie next time around. It usually makes for an easy transition to a second venue, or second date.

[SWMOchick]

yes, guys should (not all do) pay for the first date...buuuut girls have to make sure their hair, face, makeup, nails, outfit, heel size, etc, etc, etc is just right...

EVEN!
Heels? No wonder I don't do well on first dates. :p

Oh, and makeup too? Double whammy for me.

[Kragthorpe]

SWMO...are you around???

[hereisnewyork]

Heels? No wonder I don't do well on first dates. :p

Oh, and makeup too? Double whammy for me.

haha, i don't wear heels ever, but i'm REALLY short, so i just THINK about how i should...but i was just lumpin that in for girls in general.

[Sweetheart82]

Take care of yourself it's a good thing to do in the meantime I get stuck in a rut and decide to treat myself to a foot bath and have sexy lingerie night. As for getting date I'm sure other people can help with the rut.