Boyfriend Problems

[star_gazer]

First off, let me say I love my boyfriend a lot. He's supportive and caring; however, I'm really having a hard time with something.

He doesn't take into consideration my time off. I work full time and go to school part time. Plus, I have a new house to take care and life's little errands to do. About a month ago, he quit work so he could have some time to deal with personal issues. He works on his music and art, plays video games, and hangs out with his bestfriend. I support him in his artistic endeavors. He has lots of talent and it's helping him with his issues. However, he doesn't always take into consideration that I work a lot and when I ask him or he asks me to hangout, I make time for that.

We were supposed to hangout after I got off work today. Well, turns out that even though we talked about it lastnight, he still made plans with his friend to watch a movie just as I was getting off work. HE DOES THIS A LOT. Something comes up and usually it involves his bestfriend. He asked me to watch the movie with them, but I said no. His bestfriend doesn't talk to me. He doesn't even look at me. When I'm around, he talks straight to my boyfriend. I've talked to my boyfriend about this and he says he's like that with all girls. I just doubt he's totally like that, because I've seen plenty of pics with him hanging out and interacting with girls. It seems like I'm always fighting my bf's best friend for his time and that's really screwed up since my bf doesn't have any sort of schedule and they have plenty of days and time to hangout when I'm working.

Then, he asked me if I wanted to pick him up in 1.5 hours. I told him no again. I'm tired. Work was busier than a one day sale. I would have had to drive home through "rush hour" and then to his house which is on the other side of the city, but much closer to work (from which I was calling). I was too tired to do that.

Finally, he said he didn't think it was going to be this much of an "issue." But I've already talked to him once about being considerate and about his bestfriend, and it pissed me off even more this week, because I have exams on monday and tuesday. I need to study. I don't have all the time in the world like him.

Do any of you have problems like this?

[Krishna]

I had a similar issue. I used to play second fiddle to computer games, specifically MMO's. My boyfriend would drop everything to go play games with his friends. I talked to him about I felt, and seemed to get no where. Having a "k-thx-bye-gametime!" conversation was everyday sucked. I finally just started living my own life. I went out when I wanted, where I wanted, with whomever I wanted. He took notice, and about 2 months later, the MMO's all but disappeared. We have a much more healthy balance now. He still plays lots of games, but he also clears his schedule for me.

Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him exactly how you feel. If that doesn't work, he's either an idiot, or doesn't care. If he doesn't care, it's time to move on. If he's just an idiot, it's time to smack him with something heavy.

And for what it's worth, it sound like for whatever reason, your boyfriend's best friend doesnt like you. Sorry. :0

[star_gazer]

I think I will just have to do my own thing and let him catch on by himself. I have the perfect opportunity to do that this week since I have so much to do for school and work.