What to do after the first date?

[blue_monday]

I went on a first date last night (Thursday) and I believe it went rather well. At the end of the night she said we should get together again. Ok, now here is where I get my etiquette all mixed up. Should I call her today (Friday) thanking her for the good time, or do I hold back and give her call sometime next week like Tuesday or Wednesday to make plans for the weekend?

[MaryDunne]

1) Dating etiquette is really messed up these days. No one know what they are supposed to do anymore. We're all making it up as we go along, with extremely varied results!

2) Personally, I love it when a guy calls the next day. I like it when guys are clear about liking me and wanting to see me again instead of trying to act cool and aloof. When guys act cool and aloof with me, I just figure they can't be all that interested, so I'm better off not wasting my time on them. So I think it's fine to call today AND next week to set something up for the weekend.

Good luck :)

[Periphrasis]

[QUOTE=MaryDunne]1) Dating etiquette is really messed up these days. No one know what they are supposed to do anymore. We're all making it up as we go along, with extremely varied results!
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So true!
It also comes down to personal preferance.
As a girl, I would really like a quick follow up call/text/email just telling me how much fun you had, and letting me know you'll call in a couple days to arrange the next date.
Then, two or three days later, actually calling to arrange the next date.


Good luck!

[Empressallie]

I say, if you want to contact her today or tomorrow do so, no sense in waiting. Tues or Wed of next week and she might think you forgot about her. Esp with the holiday coming up you might be able to see her again before family stuff kicks in. And if you are lucky a date for New Years Eve!

[dengeist]

Keep it simple and follow the path of least resistance. You like her enough to see her again, but you're not sure if she likes you. Here's what you do:

Call her again with a plan (this is where some guys mess up) for Saturday.
If she picks up, talk to her and tell her you want to see her again. If she has other plans (it is sort of short notice), tell her plan b which is sometime next week.
If you get her voice mail leave a nice message and tell her to call you. Now the ball is in her court.
If she wants to go out with you again, you're all good.
If she doesn't, you know she doesn't like you enough to see you again or she's busy. If she's busy give her another shot in a decent time frame, one week.

There are variables in there, but you should keep it that simple. Find a set of rules you want to play by and stick with them. Anybody that doesn't play by them is cut.

[LowCarbLife]

Call for the followup the next day! I love knowing that the guy had a good time. Ah, the fun of 'first dates!'

[JackieB]

I think all girls like a call the following day. If you try to play it cool and act like you're not that into her - she might just take that at face value and move on. But if you show her you like her from the start, then there's no chance of mixed signals etc.