This is the weekend?

[chrisinreallife]

Do any of you go through Mon-Thurs looking forward towards Friday and the start of the week? And then, once Saturday and Sunday hits, you ask yourself, "This is it?" "What am I supposed to do?" "I am bored."

I often find myself bored, lonely, etc...I feel like my life is at a standstill and is stagnant.

Do you feel the same?

[koolkat1980]

I have my good days and my bad. But, alas no - I don't feel stagnant 100% of the time! Sometimes Wednesdays are great as are mondays. Depends really.

It varies from day to day and week to week. Weekends are great...what's a weekend without rest? I question...I like to snuggle up in bed, go for a swim! Life is great!! :p Even catch up with GOOD friends!

More fun than going out with Losers who spend all their $$ on booze, drugs, junkfood and friends who aren't really their friends. Hahah!

[winneythepooh7]

Absolutely not. I totally look forward to the weekends to catch up around work around the house, follow up on my paperwork for my P/T gig, and just overall rest and relaxation.

Even this weekend, when we have two big events to attend, I would much rather stay home and do stuff around the house and relax. We have to go to a birthday party after work tonight and tommorrow is a wedding for a couple we are friends with.

I wouldn't say I "dread" going back to work on Monday, but the weekends in my world especially always end up going by way too fast!

[Mini14]

Hey Chris,

I do know what you mean, I used to get that a lot. Now my work hours are all over the place, not Monday to Fri necessarily, so I don't notice it as much, but there have been many weekends where I haven't had much to do at all, and felt pretty lonely.

I think for me the issue is that of the people I know, no-one wants to go out and do anything very often, most prefer to just stay around in their houses unfortunately...

This weekend has been excellent though, my friend has just come back from interstate so we went for a bushwalk today and will go for a surf tomorrow morning, then maybe to see a band tomorrow night. But if she wasn't here I would be struggling to find much to do I think.

As an aside - My friend and others tell me that it's a cultural thing in the city where I live, that people here tend to wind down their social lives a lot compared to similar-aged people in other places, once they hit their mid-20s. Of course this isn't true for everyone but enough people who've lived both here and elsewhere have told me this that I think there must be some truth in it. Makes me feel a bit better anyway :) - I don't know if anything like this applies where you are.

Anyway I can definitely sympathise with your situation and hope you can find some cool weekend stuff to do soon.

[ugarachel82]

I'm with winney there, I definitely cherish my weekends even if I don't have any thing particularly planned or anyone to do stuff with. Even if I some a hour of free time, I always find some time to fill it! I like work, but it seems that there are so many more things I'd rather be doing, even it's just going to a bookstore or library to browse! I am almost never bored.

[LilGuillermo]

Just to take a little bit from what everyone's said already, but most people I know don't wanna do anything anymore, and the one's that do just wanna blow ALL their money on booze and drugs and things of that nature, and as someone who associates with people in their mid to late 20's I am seeing that a lot of them (especially the ones who aren't single) are becoming more low-key and not getting out as much. But I do like the relaxation that the weekend provides. It's nice to be able to go somewhere and walk my dog and not feel like I'm about to pass out from working all day. But when Saturday night rolls around and I'm all energized and ready to do just anything to have fun and no one else is, that's when I'm like "is this it?", so I hear ya there!

[oldmanwinter]

Luckily I have friends who are still in their early twenties, so there are still opportunities for me to get out there with them. But I have experienced the same thing with virtually all of my friends my age. They don't seem to want to do much anymore.

It's funny though, when I was in my early twenties it seemed everywhere we went most people were in their late twenties and even into their thirties so I never imagined that this would happen so soon. But now I'm in a different place and it's almost rare to see anyone over the age of 25 out on a Saturday night.

[spiritedaway]

I can't say I have not experienced the "people not doing anything" on the weekends thing.

Most of my friends are married (and quite a few with kids), so while we're friends and all, they can be a little boring to hang out with sometimes (different priority in life). Other friends, they just want to meet up and eat and talk and that's it.

I don't care for drinking and I don't like parties/clubbing, so I usually decline/skip out on those kind of invites (except for special occasions), so I can't really relate to other 20-somethings that parties a lot. I'd like to focus on staying healthy and active. I can't say I've ever been bored on weekends. I have a lot of stuff to clean up, news/magazines to read, bridesmaid duties to work on, sports to play, places to visit...

I have found it difficult to meet and 'hang out' with people to DO something (whether it be concerts, movies, sports). For example, when I want to go skiing, the responses are generally 1) They don't know how to ski/snowboard and don't want to take lessons 2) zero interest 3) complain about the the cold. (What can I say, it's NE weather). That's fine. That's their perogative. So there have been a few times when I head out by myself, which obviously, isn't nearly as fun to do but it does wonder for my skills/techniques! (It felt strange at the beginning to be there by myself, but then it's all good!)

I started tennis (and even though I'm by no means any good at it), I'm playing with instructor and a few other fellow peers (some older, some younger) who are active and want to meet up to practice on the weekends (which is great!) I can be shy sometimes, but usually sociable so I'd like to continue to branch out and try other things that I am interested in and hopefully meet more people that way. (I was stuck in a little rut a few weeks ago).

Usually, I don't have a lot of time to do stuff (even though I get up early in the morning) and usually I go back to work thinking, "wow, the weekend flew by so quickly", whether I ended up "hanging out" with someone else or not. If you feel that your life is stangant and at a standstill, change it up a bit and do something outside of your comfort zone and you'll probably feel the difference.

I can totally relate to the "20-something not hanging out" though.

Good luck! *thumbs up* ;):