dumped and umeployed

[commedore64]

like the topic says thats my situation. i feel madly in love and have been a relative healthly and happy relationship for over a year, but i was unable to find a job (NYC) and thus my partner left me... and the tears flowed... :(

[coll214]

commedore- I'm so sorry to hear that. I was recently put on the dumping block myself... it sucks. But you'll get a lot of support here and welcome!!

[hotgirl]

There is nothing worse than being kicked when you're already down. Him (or her) leaving you was a blessing in disguise. If a person really loves you, they will be there through the good and the bad, which means employed or unemployed. It's better that they showed their true colors now than when you're married and have a life established together, and they up and leave you because you lost your job. People can be so cruel. Count your blessings.

[commedore64]

you have a point. i try to see it that way, but its so hard right now. particularly when i really feel that otherwise we really were good for eachother. :( i missed a lot of things about college, and it sucked being unemployed, particularly when one trys hard to get a job, and will take just about anything. :(. and then to get left. :(

mostly i try not to think about it too much, just try to get out and about and read some, and listen to music and the like.

thank you for your support.

[joysd704]

Hey I understand your pain. It sucks when times are rough.
As for the job situation....yeah it's hard but you have to acknowledge that you have more options than you think. You live in a city where the market is considered corporate America. Believe me, San Diego's job market is slim to none. Yeah you have fallen but it is up to you to stand up again. Give yourself 6 months to find a job. Within those 6 months you should make sure you are really looking. When I say really looking I mean...looking for jobs through networking (contacts & friends), job fairs, newspaper ads, internet, perfecting your interviewing skills, researching of what you specifically want to do, etc. FYI - Monster.com has some really good tutorials. Believe me I did it all. You gotta motivate yourself because in all honesty no one else will. You know what really helps is first figuring out what you would like to do. As for me I love planning events so I started to conduct informational interviews with Event Planners. People love to talk about themselves...you want info of how they got to where they are. It'll provide you with other contacts and before you know it...someone may even offer you a job.

As for the relationship....I'm sorry to hear that. I have had a broken heart and it's no fun especially with how you are feeling right now. If you think about it after all this...who is left...you. Right now it is all about you. I understand it is hard to motivate yourself during this time...but try and try again. You've probably been in worst situations than this. It's all about you right now and a little time. Yeah you are down in the dumps and you probably are not the most positive person to be around right now. So focus on yourself, leave your sorrows behind, and everything else will follow.

Good Luck!