Self Esteem anyone?

[Nowtide]

Hello All,


I initially posted this to the work message board accidentally, I meant to post it here, sorry for the repeat!

I am happy to report that after 2 years of STRUGGLE I have emerged on the other side of my quarter life crises...relatively unscathed.

I have made changes to my work in an attempt to find something that suits me better. I have gone back to finish the last couple courses in my undergrad degree, something I have been considering for some time now. Financially my Wife and I are much more stable now than we have been in a while!

Despite all of the above I have noticed 1 main symptom left of the QLC. Rather it appears to be the last major symptom of the QLC that, I think, has been increased by all of the conflict in my life over the last 1.5 years with family, work, and self reflection.

I used to have a ton of self confidence and have none at all now. I don't second guess myself the way I used to during my QLC but I think that my QLC has made me question just how stable my emotional state, and ability to judge a situation, is.

Anyone else have this issue? Any recommendations especially books you recommend?

What helped you develop trust in yourself once again? Did it evolve on its own or was it an active pursuit?

Are you there right now? What are you doing to treat the symptoms?

Cheers,

Nowtide

[Nowtide]

Lexapro


Can you expand on that? My issue is mainly self esteem rather than depression or anxiety, was this your situation?

Tell me ho wit helped you and what improvements you noticed?

Cheers,

Nowtide

[Moon Gazing]

I read finding your way to renewed hope and happiness and it helped me a lot when I was going through the QLC with a big dose of anxiety. I cant think of the author's name but you can search the title on Barnes and Noble website.

[wordsmith]

Lexapro

Pfft. There is no medication that magically gives you self-esteem.

[Nowtide]

Pfft. There is no medication that magically gives you self-esteem.

I guess I should have clarified that I am not suffering form anxiety or depression and in fact said that I feel as though I have arrived at the other side of a very intense QLC and as such am looking to improve my self esteem.

So as Wordsmith said, medication doesn't really apply to my question or situation.

Cheers,

Nowtide

[Nowtide]

I read finding your way to renewed hope and happiness and it helped me a lot when I was going through the QLC with a big dose of anxiety. I cant think of the author's name but you can search the title on Barnes and Noble website.


That's great- do they talk about self esteem issues or is it mainly about the QLC and tools for dealing with that?

I would say that I no longer have 95% of QLC symptoms, just issues with self esteem now- but ina different way than when I was deep into my QLC.

[wordsmith]

Seriously, ignore that dude. He's obv. a troll.

[Sagiquarius]

I struggle with self-esteem myself. I can tell you that it is nothing more than you telling yourself that you're not good enough. Not to minimize what you feel. Yet it is simply self talk. Good news? Objectively there's no truth to it whatsoever. It's an amalgam of fears and apprehensions you make up. Bad news? The only way to build self esteem is much like the only way to deal with fear; face it head on. I find that if I do something positive that I normally wouldn't imagine myself doing I build my self confidence. Whether it succeeds or not, the effort the actual [I]doing[I] is priceless.