Something My Boyfriend Said (Explicit)

[iago23]

Kinda upset me. We were being sexual over the phone and he said he wanted to shave me down there himself because and I quote "It tastes better." So of course I say "Why cuz it's not good enough if it's not all gone down there?" I'm sorry if I get tired sometimes and don't always have it hair free. I told him, "I thought you were suppose to like me just the way I am. Sorry I can't be a fuckin porn star!" It's not like I have a '70s bush down there! Then he said he wasn't one of those guys who wanted a woman to be hair less or waxed all over and that I'm the best he's ever seen. But it sure sounds like it to me.

I almost want to cry over this cuz of how I feel women get objectified by all the crap porn and media that we're suppose to live up to. I feel like I'm not pretty enough down there when he says stupid shit like that to me. Then he says "I don't think it's a big deal." and i tell him "Well it is to me. It's my body you're making a comment about." I don't think men get it. They're called privates for a reason. Ladies how many of you can understand why I would feel hurt over this? Men what do you have to say?

[hillbillysurf]

I think you're over reacting. I always thought being honest about likes and dislikes in the bedroom was a way to improve your sex life.

[Krishna]

I think you're overreacting a bit, though I agree that porn tends to distort reality for (some) men. He was honest with you about what he wanted, so now you know. Do it when you have the time, and when you dont, then dont. Personally, I wouldn't do it all the time because it takes SO LONG. As far as I'm concerned, it's a special treat for a SO when that happens.

[Bsig84]

My boyfriend likes me shaved better too. However, there is no way I could shave every single day and he knows that. I will shave when I can (or want to) and if I don't it's not a big deal.

You are lucky that you have a guy that will speak up. It is really hard for guys to be vocal about stuff like that because they don't want to hurt your feelings. Let him know that if it is something that is important to him you will try it but to not expect it all the time.

Also, make sure to let him know if there is something he could do for you to make sex more enjoyable. This goes both ways! Having a healthy sexual relationship takes effort from both partners.

[old_school_soul]

It's a fact that oral sex is easier and less suffocating when the woman is waxed/shaved. I buy my own dental floss. You are overreacting. The tone of your post sounds a bit young. Some women prefer men with a clean shaved face on a man.

[hoodie]

I'm with the others; seems to me your guy tried to make sure you were aware that he's plenty attracted to you regardless, but spilled that he thinks it'd be "extra hot" to go without hair. Grab your razor or get a wax once in a great while and give the dude a thrill. Heck, it sounds to me like he's intending to give YOU a thrill; this might be to your benefit.

And for the love of pete, he's not asking you to go get waxed monthly or anything; it'd be kind of a treat. He seems to dig you already. Besides, if it's a once in a while thing it's easier for you and probably hotter for him anyways. "Extra hot" becomes run-of-the-mill if it's done all the time, ya know?

[KCboy]

I told him, "I thought you were suppose to like me just the way I am.

everyone has preferences.

when talking about things that can't be changed, then yes.

but if a guy were to say "you'd look great with ___ hair color", "this outfit would look great on you", or "I like it when you do this with your pubes", that isn't really being 'critical'.

[twentyfive]

I have to agree with the others there might be a little over reaction here. But I myself like some trim down there on a women. Not fully shaven but not a busy a little trim right above or what not.

But I'll go either way if the woman likes to shave completely it's not my body. But I don't know if I could do a full blown 70's bush. But keeping it nice and trimmed is fine with most guys I think.

[winneythepooh7]

I agree with the others about the over-reaction thing. In the grand scheme of things, there really are much worse things he could be saying to you.

[spokes]

this post remeinds me of that episode of Sienfeld where Jerry was trying to talk dirty to that english girl and he went to far for her when he mentioned something her motehr would do......

personally just chalk it up to a heat of the moment thing.

and as an aside most guys that have some expereince know that adult films are about as real as Star Wars and we don't base our expectations on those movies.............although it is nice when someone wants to play the role of Pricess Liea.........

[MLMaestro]

I think it's not such of a big deal...you could just explain to him that sometimes you do, sometimes you don't. I don't think he wants you to behave like a pornstar...I use to ask my ex-es such questions before too, and they were fine with it.

Porn is good for fantasizing purposes and acts as a spice to our sex life, nothing more than that.

[wordsmith]

Do what makes you comfortable. Don't waste a lot of time and self-respect turning yourself into some guy's fantasy if it doesn't do anything for you. Sex isn't about what turns ONE person on.

[iago23]

well I always keep it maintained so it's never a 70s bush. lol just sometimes maybe it's a little more grown in because it's not an everyday thing. That's why I was aggravated when I wrote it cuz I never had that much hair there to begin with. :rolleyes: And he's my first real relationship so maybe I am just sensitive towards those things. Probably I guess secretly I want to look like a porn star for him. lol

[Hez]

If you demand that your boyfriend accept you "The way you are," as you mentioned, would you get angry about him suggesting that you shave your armpits, too? Porn stars have shaved armpits, after all.

It's just a preference, and he was doing the right thing in letting you know his. "The way you are" has more to do with personality. I bet he would be more than happy to oblige if you asked him for something similar. Saying "I love you, I just don't want hair in my teeth," isn't in any way objectifying.

[wordsmith]

It's just a preference

And as such, compliance is COMPLETELY up to the discretion of the person doing it/choosing not to do it. Preferences are fine, but they're not mandatory. Esp. when it involves altering your body or its appearance. Personal decision, man.

[vinsanity]

Well think about it this way; it might not feel very good if he went down there with one of those silly Taliban beards, so think about how it would be if it were the other way around.

[spokes]

that is not what the talabain ladies say........

[Lucky13]

I'm female and honestly don't see what the big deal is. If you don't want to do it then don't...shouldn't it be that easy. If I were in your position I would want to find a middle area for what he likes and what I like. Its not like he asked you to be bare down there all of the time and get the piercing. Thats extreme. I don't see it as a society issue be'c society isn't in your pants. Sorry but I just don't see what the big deal is.

[CaptainPike]

I'm curious, all the people saying she overreacted, would you feel the same way if her boyfriend had said something along the lines of "I think you should lose 20 pounds because I'd find you more attractive"? If not, why not?

[vinsanity]

I'm curious, all the people saying she overreacted, would you feel the same way if her boyfriend had said something along the lines of "I think you should lose 20 pounds because I'd find you more attractive"? If not, why not?

I can't exactly find time on a boring Saturday afternoon to lose 20 pounds.

[Optimusdinkus]

To be blunt,

How long does it take to shave a pussy in comparison to losing 20 pounds, or getting bigger tits or (insert general remake of insecurities with females)?!

It aint that much more effort, if you dont feel like it then dont, and be done with it

and to end with a statement

YOU ARE OVER REACTING!!!!!

[Hez]

I'm curious, all the people saying she overreacted, would you feel the same way if her boyfriend had said something along the lines of "I think you should lose 20 pounds because I'd find you more attractive"? If not, why not?

Because the two are nothing alike?

[Bsig84]

To be blunt,

How long does it take to shave a pussy in comparison to losing 20 pounds, or getting bigger tits or (insert general remake of insecurities with females)?!

It aint that much more effort, if you dont feel like it then dont, and be done with it

and to end with a statement

YOU ARE OVER REACTING!!!!!

Um I think she already responding saying she overreacted. But thanks for saying something that everyone else has already said and that she agreed to. And being rude at the same time.

[(an)dy]

For the record, I would never be able to date a girl who would react to something so trivial the way you did. That just shows serious insecurity.

The most important thing about being in a relationship is keeping the lines of communication open. If one of the people is prone to outbursts or negative reactions to things that really aren't a big deal at all, then that says alot, in my opinion.

If a girl tells me she likes me clean shaven, I'll shave, no questions asked. I try to be accomodating, since it's no sweat off my back either way. You should feel the same and take no offense to it whatsoever.

I'd imagine some girls would get hot and bothered by the idea of a guy shaving them "down there".

[LaFille]

I really don't think it's that big of a deal that she over-reacted especially since she admitted that in hindsight, it wasn't that big of a deal. And it's not like she did anything crazy, she just got slightly upset and then got over it.

People over-react all the time, and sorry but I don't see the point of jumping all over someone for it and criticizing them when all they are looking for is a little support!

[ScottyTheBody]

I really don't think it's that big of a deal that she over-reacted especially since she admitted that in hindsight, it wasn't that big of a deal. And it's not like she did anything crazy, she just got slightly upset and then got over it.

People over-react all the time, and sorry but I don't see the point of jumping all over someone for it and criticizing them when all they are looking for is a little support!

He's over-reacting to her over-reacting.

[LaFille]

He's over-reacting to her over-reacting.
precisely :D