cityscape
07-04-2008, 01:14 AM
I'm writing this post, because i'm really frustrated and don't know what to do. I probably left some information out that could help state my case better. i also haven't really told anyone about my concern, because i don't want to sound selfish or arrogant.....I'm just writing this out of complete impulse.
What do you guys suggest i should do?
BACKGROUND:
Me and my family moved from Germany around 5 years ago and we literaly had to start our lifes from scratch again. Back in germany we had our own house, my parents had stable income and life was well. Starting over in a new & then foreign country was hard. We first lived with family members, than in a 1 bedroom apartment for the 3 years and now in a 2 bedroom for a year now. I'm not complaining, but i realize how nice it was to have an own home. Thanks to my parents we grew up in the best environment, where we never had to worry about money etc. But now living in the states and having 2 teenage/adult children means higher expenses. My mom is working 2 jobs, my dad is working, even my sister and I are working, just to have money of our own and we even help to pitch in....it feels like even though we have a stable life, our life does not go anywhere. There is never enough to to buy a bigger place or have the life we had before. I can see it in my mom, she loves gardening and having lots of people over, have dinner parties etc. But ever since we moved we could never do these things. My dad, my sis and I are yearning for a place of our own. We always talk about how nice it would be to have a house again.....
My sister (younger) and I are sharing a room and are completely different people/ personalities/ interests. Don't get me wrong, I'll lay down infront of traffic for her. Anything!!!!She is my baby. But sharing a room drives me crazy. I should not be so selfish but it is really huring our sisterly relationship.
I'm getting really annoyed with my parents as well. First i have to say i haven't been this close with my problems. now that i'm an "adult" the share their problems with me. Financial, my teenage sis, work, anything and I appreciate it. With all this responsabilities, i haven't been myself. I either go to school or work, I used to have a large group of friends, go out with them travel and enjoy life, but now my social life equals 0. I haven't been in a relationship since we moved and haven't been on a date too.
I'm 22 years old, a senior studying architecture, currently i'm working as a design intern for a high-end custom furniture company. I'm about to graduate school and want to FINALLY start my own life.
I love my family and I want us to have a house, where my parents can grow old and retire in. I want a house for all 4 of us have their own space, but we are having dinner together. I want a house where i can bring my future children too, to visit their grandparents. BUT i'm really frustrated. I don't think i can continue living with the responsabilties i have...I have been sacrifycing so much of my own life to live a life together.
MY QUESTION (finally!):
After graduation should I start to live my own life, move out and start to think about myself or should I help my parents buy a house that we can OWN and live in?
Please i don't know what to do.....honestly! Do i sound to much like a bad and selfish daughter???? Please help
What do you guys suggest i should do?
BACKGROUND:
Me and my family moved from Germany around 5 years ago and we literaly had to start our lifes from scratch again. Back in germany we had our own house, my parents had stable income and life was well. Starting over in a new & then foreign country was hard. We first lived with family members, than in a 1 bedroom apartment for the 3 years and now in a 2 bedroom for a year now. I'm not complaining, but i realize how nice it was to have an own home. Thanks to my parents we grew up in the best environment, where we never had to worry about money etc. But now living in the states and having 2 teenage/adult children means higher expenses. My mom is working 2 jobs, my dad is working, even my sister and I are working, just to have money of our own and we even help to pitch in....it feels like even though we have a stable life, our life does not go anywhere. There is never enough to to buy a bigger place or have the life we had before. I can see it in my mom, she loves gardening and having lots of people over, have dinner parties etc. But ever since we moved we could never do these things. My dad, my sis and I are yearning for a place of our own. We always talk about how nice it would be to have a house again.....
My sister (younger) and I are sharing a room and are completely different people/ personalities/ interests. Don't get me wrong, I'll lay down infront of traffic for her. Anything!!!!She is my baby. But sharing a room drives me crazy. I should not be so selfish but it is really huring our sisterly relationship.
I'm getting really annoyed with my parents as well. First i have to say i haven't been this close with my problems. now that i'm an "adult" the share their problems with me. Financial, my teenage sis, work, anything and I appreciate it. With all this responsabilities, i haven't been myself. I either go to school or work, I used to have a large group of friends, go out with them travel and enjoy life, but now my social life equals 0. I haven't been in a relationship since we moved and haven't been on a date too.
I'm 22 years old, a senior studying architecture, currently i'm working as a design intern for a high-end custom furniture company. I'm about to graduate school and want to FINALLY start my own life.
I love my family and I want us to have a house, where my parents can grow old and retire in. I want a house for all 4 of us have their own space, but we are having dinner together. I want a house where i can bring my future children too, to visit their grandparents. BUT i'm really frustrated. I don't think i can continue living with the responsabilties i have...I have been sacrifycing so much of my own life to live a life together.
MY QUESTION (finally!):
After graduation should I start to live my own life, move out and start to think about myself or should I help my parents buy a house that we can OWN and live in?
Please i don't know what to do.....honestly! Do i sound to much like a bad and selfish daughter???? Please help