Do you find your parents condescending?

[mahlerssecond]

Does any one every find their mother or father to be condescending? Do they ever give you advice on things that you know the answer to? Is any one treated like a little kid at times? How do you get around this, or is this a normal thing with parents.

[koolkat1980]

Well, I'm the youngest of 4! So, it's expected! However, my parents aren't too bad actually! Sometimes, they talk to me like a kid...other times, they value my opinion and treat me like an adult. So, it really depends I suppose.

However, by the time you're pressing on 30, you really should look to moving out into your own place especially if your a guy! :D

[erika36]

My mom treats me like I don't know anything all the time! :mad:

[erika36]

Unfortunately there's not much I can do to get around that except (1) remember I'm an adult now and I can do whatever, and (2) live your life as responsibly as you can.

[hillbillysurf]

When I feel like my mom is telling me something I already know, it drives me nuts, but I just think about how she is trying to help me in any way she can. Truth is, I think she would rather be viewed as condescending, as long as some advice seeped into my brain and helped me out.

[Restless&Lost]

What a weird question. I'm of the mind that if it's okay for any two people on the entire planet to condescend to you, it would be your parents.

But yeah, it's hard for me to think of it that way because I know that they only tell me things with my best interest at heart (even if it's off base :)). So it's not really being condescending, if that makes sense.

Plus, old people in general never think that anyone under the age of 35 knows anything. There's rarely any point in getting mad at them for that at this point.

[KCboy]

its normal.

remember that they have been teaching you how to live for decades; raised you from a helpless baby to an independent person. they just want to protect you. its a tough habit to break.

plus, not everyone on earth knows exactly what bits of knowledge are hidden in your particular brain.

[wordsmith]

Nah, they rule. They've treated me with respect all my life, and treated me as an adult/equal as long as I've been an adult/acted it. I think that they were good enough at parenting, and aware enough that they were good at parenting to really trust that their teaching "took," and leave it at that.

In fact, they ask ME for my advice and opinion on things often enough to feel like we have a really balanced relationship.

[spokes]

my dad will still say things like "drive safe" or "be careful" - but I guess that is more a habit than anything.

Hey dad, for the record, this weekend I am going to drive unsafe........