what is the use of family?

[sound chaser]

I just don't like them at all. I know it's wrong to harp on about past things, but I just think I'd be better off if I didn't associate with them as much.

I know society says you should cherish your family, but I'm starting to question that. Since life is short and we should make the most of what we have I think it's best if I just cut ties with them for now, since my own wellbeing is the most important thing to me.

[Krishna]

I just don't like them at all. I know it's wrong to harp on about past things, but I just think I'd be better off if I didn't associate with them as much.

I know society says you should cherish your family, but I'm starting to question that. Since life is short and we should make the most of what we have I think it's best if I just cut ties with them for now, since my own wellbeing is the most important thing to me.

Whether you love them or hate them, they are your family. Unless they are abusive in some way (physical, emotional, or otherwise), I don't think you should cut them out entirely. I think you need to isolate what the actual problem is and attempt to fix it. Draw clear boundaries, etc, etc. My family and I have our shares of ups and downs regarding boundaries and expectations, but when it comes right down to it, we'd kill for each other. So I guess what I'm saying is that I wouldn't be too quick to throw your family away.

[wordsmith]

Depends on your family, really. Ideally, a family is supportive, nurturing, and a dependable constant. But many families are abusive, negative, emotionally draining, and unhealthy. Most probably are somewhere in between the two, hopefully veering more to the positive end more of the time. But there are definitely those families that do more harm than good.

You should always keep an eye out for your own wellbeing, but at the same time, be honest with yourself about whether or not a family's actions (or inaction) are sufficient to justify cutting off contact.

[Krishna]

As usual, you phrased everything so much better than I did...:p

[sound chaser]

thanks. I really don't like them though. they're deranged, cowardly, jealous and petty people. I naturally steer away from petty and jealous people anyhow since I think life is about being uplifting and not bringing others down. Thanks anyhow.

[wordsmith]

If they're seriously unstable, by all means, keep your distance as you would with anybody else not entirely safe to be around. I'm assuming that you're being straight with the "deranged" descriptor, rather than flip, obviously.

Are you prepared to cut them off, for real? I've known a few people who have "cut their families off," and have it be a temporary (and usually repeated pattern) thing. One of my childhood friends "cuts her dad off," all the time (and she should, he's an abusive creep), but always cycles back to letting him back in her life. If you really can't tolerate your family, at least make a clean break. Which is not easy.

[koolkat1980]

Small doses soundchaser....small doses. Heheh.

[ya never know..]

I can understand where you're coming from as my mother and sister are two peas in a pod, neither of them have any morals whatsoever, they will both lie and cheat and are manipulating and conniving and do whatever they can to get what they want or need. They can't control their spending and are likely in debt beyond their eyeballs. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I'm glad I only have to see them on occasion. They never have the money to come see me, so I don't bother seeing them much, either. This weekend is the exception since the nephew is 2 today and the party is tomorrow.