What are your opinions

[Densel]

There's this guy I know, he is 21 and I'm 25. At first he would call me every day and we would talk on the phone for hours. Then out of the blue he tells me, "I don't think you are the person God wants for me." Well, at first I was angry and then I was fine with that. He's not the only guy in the world.

After that he called me once in a blue moon and of course, I began getting distant with him. Then one day he tells me he has something to tell me, that wasn't the usual..."I don't think you are the one God wants for me" or "Let's just be friends" discussion. So I got excited thinking...maybe he has had time to think and wants to start over. Then all of a sudden he cuts off all communication with me for a week. I would call him and he won't return my calls. So again, I stopped calling him.

Yesterday, evening he calls me up and says..."I just wanted to take some time off talking to you." Just like that. He then says his best friend wants to meet me. I don't know if he's scared of being with me (afraid of being hurt) or if he thinks he has nothing to offer me.

I don't know if he he playing games or what he is thinking. He is giving me mixed feelings. Trust me, I've tried communicating with him but he tends to hide his feelings and emotions.

If I stop talking to him, he would think I am being emotional and he might start thinking I want more. Since he has told me from the he doesn't want a relationship, I have no reason to be emotional. If I continue talking to him, he would keep playing all this mind games that I can't stand and I honestly don't have time for.

I really want to do something that would show him that he has no right to play around with people's feelings. I don't like to way he does whatever he wants. If he chooses, he can stop talking to me and when he chooses, can can just pick up the phone to say hi...He just does anything he wants and expects me to just deal with it. That is pretty annoying but I don't want to show him I'm angry 'cause that would just make him enjoy his games even more.

[Antonina]

Densel,
This guy sounds like an immature idiot. Really. Don't let him get away with being in the driver's seat.

It sounds like you just need to be up front and give him his two options, which is to either be a friend or to be a lover. Don't listen to any bulldust about him being undecided- if he says this, tell him he can stop calling you while he decides and then he can call you once he is clear. What he has been saying to you is immature and also puts your head in a spin, which you don't need (like you said).

[JakesRI]

Coming from a guy,
that guy is an idiot. He is playing you and I'm glad you know it. The best thing you can do is give him a piece of your mind, and walk away. If he's a total idiot, he will keep doing what he is doing and you won't be able to make a difference. If he's somewhat of a decent guy he might accept that he needs to shape up. Either way, it will save you a headache.

[Jayesh]

I had a similar situation as you had. I had sort of a fling with this girl, during which she suddenly stopped calling, and wouldnt return my calls. then she dropped by, and said she wanted to break it off, which wasnt a shock to me. Then a year later, she started calling me up and flirting with me, and said that she wanted to meet me, and a just when we were making plans to meet, she suddenly dissapeared. Anyways, my head was in a spin, and I finally decided that I wont let her drive me around like that.

[narbie]

A similar thing happened to me in Febuary. The best thing to do is tell him how you feel. If he doesn't change his attitude then he wasn't much of a friend to start with and definately not one to date. Life is too short to have a guy messing with your head.

[Lipgloss Boost]

listen to JakesRI. who cares if this guy thinks you're emotional. only be concerned about how you feel (us chicks tend to move our actions around not getting a bad rep!). he sounds either confused or like he's playing you. either way - do you need this?