going through tough times - getting back with ex-fiance

[kaution81]

so me and my ex fiance have been broken up for a few months and she started seeing someone new...so recently we have been talking back and forth about getting back together..she needed space to clear her head so i gave it to her...then she decided on sunday she wanted to be with me..we were going to talk on monday but then she decided she wanted to wait for the weekend because it would be easier..so we talked a few minutes each day..but the last day or so she hasnt been picking up my calls or texts

its driving me nuts..i wonder if shes backing out...its like she completely disappeared

ugh..i hate my situation

[Millenial]

i would run like hell

that happened with an ex-gf of mine, she wanted to get back together, than totally changed her mind again (originally broke up bc "she wanted to see other people", basically didn't want commitment bs) and ended up meeting someone else like a week later. after that, we're still friends, but i'd never consider ever getting back with her ever again.

[erika36]

I definitely would stay away from her. She sounds like she really doesn't know what she wants.

[GR2BR]

as hard as this may sound..let her come to you?

[koolkat1980]

She sounds extremely selfish! She's only putting her own interests ahead of everyone elses! I agree, if I was in your shoes....I'd run like hell!

[kaution81]

yup this is giong to be tough but i am going to have to

she ignored my calls this whole weekend after we decided we would talk this weekend..all i asked for was an update on what she wants or needs..even if its space or time or whatever..but no response

shes is being EXTREMELY selfish


i am feeling super down and anxious lately though

[Echo]

She could have at least told you the truth, whatever that is, rather than make you wait with no word, no warning of what's going to happen. It's cruel making you wait like this.

[kaution81]

via text today..she cant do this..tried to come back but just cant do it..shes sorry and is being strong for me and her..blah blah

great

now im in the dumps

[hoodie]

Get rid of this girl for good, man; sever it! She'll drag you through the mud as many times as you'll let her.

[robinhood2003]

via text today..she cant do this..tried to come back but just cant do it..shes sorry and is being strong for me and her..blah blah

great

now im in the dumps

I hear ya kid......I sent you a PM.....

[Samwell]

Get rid of this girl for good, man; sever it! She'll drag you through the mud as many times as you'll let her.

Exactly right, but I think everyone needs to learn this lesson firsthand. Perhaps one more trip through the mud is needed for it to truly stick.


:rolleyes:

[kaution81]

yea ive decided to pretty much let go..i havent talked to her in a few days..dont have any urge to call or intention to..starting to see things for what they really are and how she acted and treated me ..also im starting to realize my self worth and that its nto worth the pain..ive just been hanging out with friends, reading, etc..im much happier for the last few days and today for the first time i realized that i didnt wake up missing her or thinking about her or checking my phone to see if she called

i think im ready to seriously get back in the dating scene and MEET people..i just have to figure out how now since all my friends are in relationships and i dont have many single friends

[lonestar5805]

I think time is the best medicine here. You just need to not contact her or anything....and it would probably be best if it was forever. Just do the stuff or find new things you enjoy to get your mind off of the situation. For me, I like to go to the gym and wear myself out...it's good for you, and creates endorphins that will act as an anti-depressant!