I have officially stopped believing in love!!!!

[Sweetheart82]

I don't want to aggrivated or put down. Outside of my male friends men in realtionships is a waste of time. I used to be beleive in real love not fairytale knight on white horse infatuation but the strong bond that stands the test of time. People are crazy nowadays they'll cheat, lie, even belittle and if they don't like you they'll kill you. Even though dying a v-card member, not knowing the joy of crossing lifetimes with someone, and having a child scare me I'd rather suffer than be bothered with this crazy world. I'm going to enjoy my single life and focus on my goals as a writer and teacher.

[lonestar5805]

I don't want to aggrivated or put down. Outside of my male friends men in realtionships is a waste of time. I used to be beleive in real love not fairytale knight on white horse infatuation but the strong bond that stands the test of time. People are crazy nowadays they'll cheat, lie, even belittle and if they don't like you they'll kill you. Even though dying a v-card member, not knowing the joy of crossing lifetimes with someone, and having a child scare me I'd rather suffer than be bothered with this crazy world. I'm going to enjoy my single life and focus on my goals as a writer and teacher.

LOL, I know your frustration. It's a cliche, but people say you'll find someone when you least expect it. And I've found that to be true in my life as well. I've been single for over a year, and sometimes I get panicked like that too, but there's not much you can do but just be yourself. It's good to focus on your goals too. While hitting benchmarks that you have in your life, someone will come along. At least that's what I'm hoping for. I'm about to finish college in a few months, and that's a goal I've had since I was unhappy in the military at 20 years old. I look forward to finishing, and finding gainful employment, and hopefully I meet a good woman along the way!

[AsianGeek]

it's true that the majority of your relationships will probably be a waste of time and perhaps money. But to give up on men completely won't help your problem.

[drummer]

it's true that the majority of your relationships will probably be a waste of time and perhaps money. But to give up on men completely won't help your problem.

Very true. Technically, only one relationship can really work out and that's if you're with them until your death. Otherwise every relationship ends some way.

[Samwell]

People are crazy nowadays they'll cheat, lie, even belittle and if they don't like you they'll kill you.

Well, obviously they must have liked you enough to not kill you so you must have something to offer. Don't forget there are millions of frustrated guys out there saying almost the exact same things.

If it wasn't hard to find someone special it wouldn't be that special.


it's true that the majority of your relationships will probably be a waste of time and perhaps money.

I don't really buy that. Hopefully you're not just repeating the same mistakes over and over again. If over half your relationships are a meaningless waste of time then you're probably doing something wrong.

[soulllfulvirgo]

Yeah, I'm a guy and I've often had the same exact sentiments as the OP, esp. within the last two years! Relationships for me came with relative ease between 17-23...it seems to have gotten harder to find recently...but...

I process it like this; maybe this is the time in my life that I NEED to be ON MY OWN - I live alone, work full-time, I'm completely self-reliant financially, spiritually, emotionally...ie. learning how to be on my own and be content with it.

I think that doing these can not help but to enhance you and enable you to be a great partner to someone one day, and it also gives you a great deal of confidence that you can handle anything on your own.

You are not alone! Many men and women are experiencing the same feelings...myself included. :)

[AsianGeek]

I don't really buy that. Hopefully you're not just repeating the same mistakes over and over again. If over half your relationships are a meaningless waste of time then you're probably doing something wrong.

A failed relationship is no different from a waste of time and money. Some might see it as a learning experience I see it as one of the many failures you'll come across in the game of trial and error.

[ddrost1]

I don't really buy that. Hopefully you're not just repeating the same mistakes over and over again. If over half your relationships are a meaningless waste of time then you're probably doing something wrong.

Depends what your criteria are for judging "meaningless waste of time". If not finding the person you are meant to be with/marry is a "meaningless waste" then I disagree, you're just not meant to be with one of the ppl whom you've dated to this point. However if by "mwot" you mean that you are learning nothing from the experiences and not changing your habits, the type of ppl you pursue, or how you go about meeting ppl and exposing yourself to the world then yes, you're f***ed.

I'd reckon that based on my recent luck I definitely fall into the second category.

[ddrost1]

I process it like this; maybe this is the time in my life that I NEED to be ON MY OWN - I live alone, work full-time, I'm completely self-reliant financially, spiritually, emotionally...ie. learning how to be on my own and be content with it.

I think that doing these can not help but to enhance you and enable you to be a great partner to someone one day, and it also gives you a great deal of confidence that you can handle anything on your own.



your positive attitude is really brightening up my rainy day parade!!! :evil: :p haha

[LaFille]

A failed relationship is no different from a waste of time and money. Some might see it as a learning experience I see it as one of the many failures you'll come across in the game of trial and error.
OK, but don't you at least learn what you don't want from a failed relationship?

[soulllfulvirgo]

your positive attitude is really brightening up my rainy day parade!!! :evil: :p haha

DDROST: Sorry for brightening up your day!!! LOL

[bluespoon]

I'm going to enjoy my single life and focus on my goals as a writer and teacher.

hey me too! i have similar career goals :)

what aggravates me is whenever im feelin good about my life and where its going, i have to meet some guy that takes me into lala land and distracts me from everything. its so much easier when i dont have to deal with them!

and it also doesnt help when all your close friends are in relationship lala land. lol

[AsianGeek]

OK, but don't you at least learn what you don't want from a failed relationship?

Well I already know what I want and don't want. I suppose that I do learn more about who I was dating. But in the grand scheme of things, it's really not that useful to me if she doesn't turn out to be someone that will be a part of my life.