ddrost1
11-11-2008, 11:45 AM
My life has too many situations when it comes to the opposite sex, here's the latest. Note that I'm mostly venting but if anyone wants to chime in on how to handle it, feel free.
A long time friend has recently been more friendly, albeit from a distance (she's on the west coast, i'm on the east). Lots of phone convos/texts/emails/flirty facebook wall posts. We've known each other for basically half our lives and have a pretty good understanding and appreciation of one another. Until her move to the left coast she was in a fairly serious relationship, then went through a breakup in that regard, lost a job, and got down on herself. During this time we were still separated by a distance of ~500 miles and saw each other only a couple of times. She moved out west to "be happy in at least that aspect of her life". Upon arriving there, she also immediately moved in with a guy who IMO she didn't know that well but had hooked up with a time or two.
Anyways, I find myself being attracted to her for several reasons (physically, familiarity/friendship, shared sense of humor, among others), and also worried about her because I think that her living with this guy who she doesn't know that well, right out of a serious relationship, isn't emotionally sound. From what I can tell he's just into her for the sex and not much more, but I've never met the guy and I go solely based on what she tells me (i.e., "we really don't spend that much time together", "he has a pretty close group of friends he's out with most nights", etc.). Her flirting and talking to me more lately suggests that she understands this relationship (dare i call it that) is probably not going anywhere and she's looking for something comfortable. That being said I'm not going to be relegated to being a security blanket and if this is going to take off into anything, I want some semblance of normalcy out of it. I have no idea how to handle it and like my preface said I'm mostly venting for my own good, but yeah.
I'm going to her city in a couple months for a business meeting. We already have agreed to at least one or two "nights out" during the week I'm there. Who knows what will happen at this point.
*sigh*
A long time friend has recently been more friendly, albeit from a distance (she's on the west coast, i'm on the east). Lots of phone convos/texts/emails/flirty facebook wall posts. We've known each other for basically half our lives and have a pretty good understanding and appreciation of one another. Until her move to the left coast she was in a fairly serious relationship, then went through a breakup in that regard, lost a job, and got down on herself. During this time we were still separated by a distance of ~500 miles and saw each other only a couple of times. She moved out west to "be happy in at least that aspect of her life". Upon arriving there, she also immediately moved in with a guy who IMO she didn't know that well but had hooked up with a time or two.
Anyways, I find myself being attracted to her for several reasons (physically, familiarity/friendship, shared sense of humor, among others), and also worried about her because I think that her living with this guy who she doesn't know that well, right out of a serious relationship, isn't emotionally sound. From what I can tell he's just into her for the sex and not much more, but I've never met the guy and I go solely based on what she tells me (i.e., "we really don't spend that much time together", "he has a pretty close group of friends he's out with most nights", etc.). Her flirting and talking to me more lately suggests that she understands this relationship (dare i call it that) is probably not going anywhere and she's looking for something comfortable. That being said I'm not going to be relegated to being a security blanket and if this is going to take off into anything, I want some semblance of normalcy out of it. I have no idea how to handle it and like my preface said I'm mostly venting for my own good, but yeah.
I'm going to her city in a couple months for a business meeting. We already have agreed to at least one or two "nights out" during the week I'm there. Who knows what will happen at this point.
*sigh*