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awhitmer83
11-30-2008, 01:10 PM
I haven't posted here in ages, but I thought I would update for those interested. Mainly I just need to vent!

On Nov. 11, I hit a deer, skidded off the (wet) road, and flipped my car. Miraculously my son and I were both fine, not a scratch. The car didn't come out so well, though. The insurance adjuster pronounced it a total loss as soon as she saw it, but I made them tow it to a body shop for an estimate just in case. The estimate was over $13k not even counting labor, so I had to accept the loss and sign the car over. I still owe $3500 after what the insurance paid; I got the joy of making a car payment on Friday for a car that I don't even own any more. :mad:

I've spoken to several banks and they have all tightened up on loan requirements. My credit score, which was good enough two years ago to buy a car, is no longer good enough. The banks keep telling me there is nothing "wrong" with my credit, it's just that I only have a 7-year credit history and they need more than that to feel okay with giving a loan. I even applied through those crappy places for bad credit buyers, and THEY won't give me a loan because my credit score is too high. They keep saying I need to talk to a bank. And the circle continues. Meanwhile my husband and I are sharing a car, which is difficult since he commutes 20 miles in the opposite direction and we work the same hours.

The Monday after my wreck, my boss came into my office and asked if she could shut the door. She wanted to let me know that I was being written up because my billable hours for October were way below what they're supposed to be. (I work as a psychotherapist in a community mental health center.) Now, this pissed me off. I can't help it if my billable hours are low. Since I am in my first year of employment with this agency, I'm expected to bill 3 hours a day. I schedule a minimum of 6 hours of appointments. Problem is, people can't afford to come to therapy right now when they're having trouble buying necessities. In my first six months at this job, my no-show rate was about 14%. In October, it was 42%. They suggested that I start doing in-home therapy, but I'm a substance abuse counselor. I really don't feel comfortable walking into a home where I know there are drugs or possibly a meth lab. That's all I need, to be doing therapy and the police come in and arrest everyone there.

Anyway, I signed my write-up and my boss starts telling me that they have considered moving me to another county where they are in greater need of a therapist. I already work in a different region from where I live; the county I'm in is the closest one to home. The county they wanted to send me to is TWO HOURS from my house. I told her there was simply no way I could make that kind of drive, especially since they weren't going to pay mileage.

A few days later she tells me that, since I refuse a transfer to another county, I will be reduced to part time starting January 5. I'll lose all my benefits, will have to pay for my supervision out of pocket ($100/week), and will be driving 80 miles round trip for half of what I make right now. "It's nothing personal," she said. "We don't want to lose you altogether." Well, what a lovely way of showing it!

Every therapist in my office (and the company itself) is having a hard time with billable hours right now. In my case, it's particularly difficult because my caseload is only 100. A typical caseload for this type of work is 300+. Since I've been there less time than anyone else, I'm the one getting thrown under the bus. People in our other offices are giving notice left and right; I get at least 5 internal job announcements via email every week. It's scary to think that things are so unstable so fast.

It's really hard not to feel completely hopeless. I have no car, my job is a mess, and there is no easy way out of either situation. I don't know whether I should accept the part time hours and look for a second part time job, or if I'm better off just getting out of there entirely. It's not easy to find something right now, though, because people in my field are hanging on to their jobs for dear life. I'm also tired of changing jobs. This is my fourth job since I got out of grad school in 2006. I'm starting to think I'm cursed!

So that's my whine for the day. I know you're all dealing with your own stuff and things are hard for everyone right now. Like I said, I just needed to vent.

winneythepooh7
11-30-2008, 01:22 PM
Is there any way you can get a cheap, old car for the time being to just get from point A to point B?

Are there other jobs (if even more entry-level) in the human services field that are closer to home? Maybe a group home or something related? Even if you have to take a slight pay-cut, it's better than commuting 2 or more hours which would probably average out to be what you are paying in gas and wear and tear when it's all said and done.

What about applying to any of the "internal" job postings? Is that an option?

ddrost1
11-30-2008, 02:19 PM
Are there other jobs (if even more entry-level) in the human services field that are closer to home? Maybe a group home or something related? Even if you have to take a slight pay-cut, it's better than commuting 2 or more hours which would probably average out to be what you are paying in gas and wear and tear when it's all said and done.

What about applying to any of the "internal" job postings? Is that an option?

Or public sector positions within county/city/state government (social services, child and family services, etc.)...? Non-profits? Corporate culture is getting awfully cutthroat lately and although government jobs are harder to land initially, if you're successful they're insanely stable by accounts of hours, pay, and job security...

winneythepooh7
11-30-2008, 02:24 PM
It can take quite awhile to go through the process to get one of those kinds of jobs though. The OP is a Master's level social worker (as am I). I think the easiest "route" to go is to focus on non-profits closer to home, even if it's a demotion/pay-cut/band-aid solution for the time being.

Often even you can advance quite quickly in these kinds of jobs.

I'd also suggest going to the actual agencies to apply if you can, instead of sending your resume. It will probably help getting your foot in the door quicker.

Another thought: are there any home health care agencies in your area? I work for one and they also tend to always be looking for social workers.

awhitmer83
11-30-2008, 03:33 PM
Thanks for the suggestions. The internal jobs with my company aren't worth it; as I said, the county I'm in now is the only one within reasonable driving distance. My area has nothing - the mental health center I left for my current job (no openings, but not an option anyway), the hospital (employs one social worker who has been there for 15 years), the protection & permanency office (no openings, not even answering phones), and a nursing home (no openings). I have applied for every possible job within driving distance, but there isn't a lot out there. No government jobs within driving distance (I'm already a state employee, which makes losing my benefits even more sickening) unless I could somehow qualify as an engineer or a highway construction worker.

I did interview with hospice last week. I thought the interview went well, but when I emailed the lady afterward with some followup questions, her response was kind of terse. I know it's hard to read tone in an email, though, so I'm hoping to hear back from them this week. She did ask for phone numbers for all my references and previous employers, and she mentioned several times that she MUST fill this spot. I had the luck of knowing one of the other social workers there and she said he gave me a glowing recommendation. So I don't know how to read that situation.

I'm just unmotivated, I guess. I've sent out resumes, done cold calls, contacted every single social worker I've ever known, but I just don't want to have to start over again and I think people can tell when I talk to them. This is the first job I've had where I love my boss and coworkers, enjoy my work, and feel like sticking around. I know the logical thing is to get another full time job, but I just hate the thought of switching clinical supervisors AGAIN. I've already had two supervision contracts and I'm only halfway done with my hours. The board is going to think I'm neurotic and unstable if this keeps up.

As for the car, I do have some limited options there. I am taking some classes right now and I decided to accept the full student loan amount (last semester I just borrowed enough for tuition) for the spring semester. I'll have a little under $4k coming to me in January, which I can either use to pay off the rest of the totaled car or buy a clunker and keep making my car payments. Personally, I think it would be smarter to keep the money in the event that I don't find another job before I switch to part time, so we can supplement our income for a little while. I do have a family member who manages a bank and thinks she can give me a loan for a car, but I'm not holding my breath. I don't expect anyone to stick his/her neck out for me knowing that my job situation is unstable.

It's just stressful! It's hard to go to work and care about my clients' problems when I know I may not be there to work with them any more. Not to mention the fact that I have problems of my own to deal with!

winneythepooh7
11-30-2008, 03:47 PM
I know this is another extreme, but have you thought about leaving the field for a bit until more options (hopefully) open up. You are still taking classes towards your field which is good, and maybe you can find something limited P/T in social work to keep your resume current.

I think there must be other jobs out there that a social worker especially can transfer their skills and knowledge to, even if it's not a social work position per se.

I am even concerned about losing my position at some point---this economy is affecting everyone. My company has alluded to "lay-offs" and going out on maternity leave at any time now, could affect my job, even though people say "that's illegal" for them to terminate me.

awhitmer83
11-30-2008, 04:30 PM
Well, that's the beautiful thing that my agency is doing. No one is getting laid off because the company doesn't want to pay unemployment - instead, they are moving people to undesirable counties and/or reducing their hours to make them leave. Hopefully none of those things will happen to you; in your position, I don't see how it would benefit them not to hold your job.

I did apply for a job as a "human services surveyor" - basically going into schools, daycares, etc. and doing inspections/audits to see if they are doing what they're supposed to do. Definitely out of my comfort zone since I like direct work, but the state personnel cabinet decided that my experience qualifies me for the job. Many state agencies have hiring freezes in place right now, though; they are taking applications but not doing anything with them. Plus I know how slowly the state moves, so I don't really see any of those as viable solutions right now.

I've also talked directly to some physicians about hiring me to do their insurance precerts and patient assistance/mail-order rx paperwork. That would free up the front desk staff to answer the phones and deal with the waiting room instead of playing counselor to people who can't afford their meds, while allowing me to get paid for things I already do at my current job. Most of the doctors seemed interested but don't want to pay what my services are worth (one actually offered me $6 an hour and was shocked when I declined).

Beyond those things, I don't know how in the world my skills can transfer over to other areas. Maybe customer service. The only thing I know how to do that makes sense outside of human services is help people find answers to their questions and solutions to problems. I don't know of many employers looking for that - everything I see right now is for car salesmen and fast food.

winneythepooh7
12-01-2008, 06:20 AM
Well, keep in mind, that it doesn't have to be forever. I've had similar thoughts myself about what other kinds of jobs I could qualify for..........what other skills do you have outside of counseling-type skills? Are you savvy with computers/office management? Perhaps you could take on a leadership role in a restaurant or retail establishment? Maybe something human-resource related?

wordsmith
12-01-2008, 10:02 AM
Meanwhile my husband and I are sharing a car, which is difficult since he commutes 20 miles in the opposite direction and we work the same hours.

I had to share a car with my boyfriend for six months, the time in between my car dying and my being able to find a replacement I could afford without taking out a loan. Same situation...he works about 30 miles in the opposite direction of where I work. But every morning for six months, we left the house at 6:30, he dropped me of at about 7 (where I had to kill time until 8:30, when I'm able to clock in), and continued on to work so he could get there by 7:30. His work started at 8, but by getting there early, he could leave early, so he could come pick me up at 4:30 (the end of my work day), instead of leaving at 5. Adjustments just had to be made, even though they caused extreme inconveniences, like having to be at work an hour and a half early in the wee hours of the a.m. Believe me, I know this game.

Don't assume that a car you don't have to take out a loan to purchase is going to be a poorly functioning piece of crap, either. It's possible to get a reliable car for less than you'd think. I wouldn't even bother with the headache of financing at this point with everything you have going on.

wordsmith
12-01-2008, 10:06 AM
I think the easiest "route" to go is to focus on non-profits closer to home, even if it's a demotion/pay-cut/band-aid solution for the time being.

Definitely.

Some income, even from a less than ideal source, is almost always better than no income.

jrwilheim
12-07-2008, 02:45 PM
Well, that's the beautiful thing that my agency is doing. No one is getting laid off because the company doesn't want to pay unemployment - instead, they are moving people to undesirable counties and/or reducing their hours to make them leave. Hopefully none of those things will happen to you; in your position, I don't see how it would benefit them not to hold your job.

Not sure if this helps in your situation right now, but it may later.

If your agency insists on transferring you a 2-hour commute away from where you live, and you feel you have no choice but to quit, you might be able to get unemployment benefits by claiming this was in effect a discharge.

I don't know what the rules are in your state, but in New York, where I had a couple experiences dealing with the unemployment breaucracy, a person on unemployment was allowed to turn down a job if it was more than a 60-minute drive or 90 minutes by public transit away from where they lived. I think you could probably argue that being transferred so far away is in effect a discharge. I recommend finding out what the rules are in your state.