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KzyBlonde
03-06-2004, 12:54 PM
I am a 20-year-old girl and I am still single! I have noticed that guys do like me but I guess they don't like me enough. Because they back away or avoid me when they listen to other girls talk bad about me. Some of the stuff the girls say is never true but the guy's choose to listen to the other girl’s anyway. But I don’t know what girl’s say about me and I figure okay they aren't my type of guy then if they aren't going to choose me and, listen to the other girls instead. Well I broke up with my ex over the summer and, we have been only going out for three months. But he kept rushing me and all he wanted was the you know what and marriage that I wasn't ready for yet he didn't even want me all he wanted was you know what. Then his cousin actually split us up because, she said some stuff about me to my ex that wasn't true. But my ex did say that he couldn't stand his cousin when yet he is taking her side? So his cousin actually said some stuff to me what my ex said about me and I believed her and I broke up with him too my ex and I didn’t work out as you can tell. Well I ran into my ex's friends at my work well they ran into me. We exchanged numbers and started to hang out for a while without my ex around. My ex got married a month later after I broke up with him! Long story that I don't want to get into well after I started to hang out with my ex's friends, which I shouldn't have. I guess I was just bored at the time and I hated being alone. My ex's friend asked me out and he hasn't gotten in touch with me since he has asked me out. I am so confused on this we had a great time a lot of flirting going on and I really liked him too. All my ex's friend wanted to do was make out and again he didn't want me for me he only wanted my body. Well my point is why I think my ex's friend asked me out was probably because; I told him I had standards when I meant to say morals. My ex's friend knew what I meant and I said sorry I meant morals my mouth just came out standards. My ex's friend said if I take you out on a date then will you make out with me? I said sure but, I don't know why I even said sure I just did. I figured he would never quit bugging me unless I say yes but I really liked him too. He has asked me out but hasn't gotten in touch with me and it has been about 9 months since he has asked me out. I still talk to his cousin almost every month, she only calls me once a month yes these are my ex's friends. But I talked to this one guy that doesn't even know these people and he told me because, I have such high morals that guy's will act like they are interested in me and then ignore me. Is this true? I am still a virgin and I am 20-years-old. I just haven't found the right guy yet and to respect me I am getting lonely all the time. I am by myself a lot but I realize it is better being by yourself then being treated the way I got treated by these people. I am not really alone I got my family and I am still living with my parents because, I don't want to be all alone in an apartment by myself I even got a new baby brother and sister. What I am trying to ask is should I just give into a guy to get them to stay with me and, maybe even actually have a serious boyfriend? The longest guy I have dated is 3 months or 4 dates but, they won't stick around long enough because I won't give in you know what. I was hoping that I can find a sweet guy who will wait until I am ready to give in and I do want to get married and have kids but, I would like to date a guy for a long amount of time before I get settled is that so wrong? My cousin she is 17 years old she is dating a college guy that makes me feel even worse that I can't get a boyfriend and she can it's almost like she is rubbing it in and she does the guy is 18 I found out last night. I just still haven't found the right guy yet and I am getting pretty lonely all the time I even only have to good friends who are there for me too. But I do want a relationship I would really like to hear your advice thank you for taking your time for reading this sorry it’s so long.

and1grad
03-08-2004, 12:24 AM
Theres nothing wrong with being single or with saving yourself until you're ready. Dont do anything you're not ready to do. Also, you dont need a boyfriend to validate you. Maybe some time alone will do you some good. Maybe get to know yourself a little better or what not. Also, I wouldnt waste time wondering about guys who are scared off by ghost stories made up by girls who obviously dont like u, for whatever reason. Long story short, well...shorter than yours, you're becoming older and your decisions are going to start to matter more. Dont do things that you know you'll only regret. Set standards for yourself and try to follow through with your goals. Dont waste your time worrying about "haters." Hope any of that helps.

KzyBlonde
03-08-2004, 12:36 AM
Thanks and1grad yeah it helps I am writing poems now and watching two babies who are my new brother and sister I tend for them in the day time and mornings. And go to work at night because, that is my work schedule for now. I should be going back to school soon to get more schooling finished and get some more education I do have my diploma I just want more schooling. I hope to find some better friends and even the right guy maybe. I realize from what you said that don't worry about haters your right I just can't believe that I got treated the way I got treated I always thought it was because I was too nice. So I guess it was that they just wanted me around for there amusement because, I wasn't the brightest one and I am not that smart but I can be smart if you get what I am saying. Anyways I am planning to go a Single Ward instead of running into the wrong kinds of people a Single's Ward is a place where is probably more people there my type and same interests there will be guy's there too. Thanks for you help

KzyBlonde
03-08-2004, 12:45 AM
I would still like more advice and your thoughts thanks