What will/would you tell your kids?

[anonyelephant]

I've been lurking for a wile reading posts. I'm just wondering:

What you will tell your kids about school, college, life?

Will you raise them differently now that you have gone through a QLC?

Thanx

[koolkat1980]

For starters, I'd send them to a 'state school' not a private one. In this way, I'd hope turn-out less socially inept than myself!

That's about the only major thing I'd do. Perhaps not be too harsh on them in terms of discipline and let them have a more 'flexible' upbringing than I did.

Yet give them more 'concrete' goals to work towards.

Treat them as individuals rather than always comparing them to their siblings.

[winneythepooh7]

I've been lurking for a wile reading posts. I'm just wondering:

What you will tell your kids about school, college, life?

Will you raise them differently now that you have gone through a QLC?

Thanx

Honestly, I will tell him about my experiences and I am sure his father will do the same. However, we will let him make his own decisions at the time regarding pursuing college or a trade school. I think both my husband and I have our own "biases" about what we would like him to do, but in the end, it's up to him.

In terms of "raising differently"...............I have a newborn and right now, my focus is on keeping him safe and sound and making sure his basic needs are met. I don't see much changing with that as he gets older.

[Mini14]

Not exactly answering the question here but my dad pretty much had a QLC when he was my age- he hated the career path he'd taken and went back to start a new university course at the age of 27, so he didn't finish studying (and was completely broke) until he was about 31-32. So it's been pretty helpful for me to know that my dad didn't initially know what he wanted to do either, but that things still turned out really well for him. But if I could change something about the way I was raised... I wish I'd been told that it was ok to try things and not necessarily stick with them if they didn't feel right. I felt that there was a lot of pressure to stick with something once I'd started it (especially my university course)... this came a lot more from my mum than my dad, and of course she had my best interests at heart.

So I guess I would emphasise that to my kids, that it's ok to shop around a bit to get to know themselves first... I would try to give them the chance to experience lots of different things from an early age. But my parents also taught me the importance and value of working hard, and brought me up with a really good (I hope) work ethic. I'd want to pass that on to my kids too.

[winneythepooh7]

Good work ethic is an excellent one.

As well as letting them know from the start that nothing in life is necessarily easy.....there are always going to be good days and bad days with virtually anything in life and quitting at the first sign of something being "hard" is not always the best choice. People who do this often end up constantly in a cycle of unhappiness..........

Not burning one's bridges is also something that comes to mind. Awhile back I left a job not that I wanted to, but because I needed to make more $$$$. I still keep in touch with them though and would probably go back in a heartbeat if the right position came along even if it meant a slight pay-cut. I did recently see a job open up there and I sent my resume. My former boss actually called me today to see how I was doing and told me that my name has come up in conversation lately for the job so we shall see...........

[roulettefanatic]

well to begin with i would like to tell them to do what they enjoy the most as far as a career and studying go but deep down the harshest lesson i've learned is that doing what you love is not always the best option....i studied history and it's basically left me with no real career options as far as i'm aware so i wouldn't wish that on my child......

i would also tell them to be social and remain social as far as connecting with classmates at an early age, putting themselves out there in high school by volunteering and through sports (healthy things) so they can build enough self-confidence into adulthood.....

as far as state schools, i agree that the mix of people in the student bodies tends to be beneficial since you meet people from all walks of life and different places so it's a good learning experience....

[cupkake]

I've been lurking for a wile reading posts. I'm just wondering:

What you will tell your kids about school, college, life?

Will you raise them differently now that you have gone through a QLC?

Thanx

I have to find the man before I think about possible kids....sorry it's like a blank sheet of paper for me now eventhough I would love to write my own story. ;):

[chrisinreallife]

I've been lurking for a wile reading posts. I'm just wondering:

What you will tell your kids about school, college, life?

Will you raise them differently now that you have gone through a QLC?

Thanx



Lol, I would tell them absolutely nothing and have them figure it out on their own. It'd make them stronger

[Schecter_Guy]

For college I would tell them to have a balance of the social and the academic. I think a lot of the problems people our age face is that we focus on one or the other and miss out on something that will help us personally or professionally in the future.

Show ambition.

Be critical of all relationships. Keep friends that enrich your life and dump the ones that are detriments. For romantic relationships especially be critical. Drop bad relationships because the potential headache snowballs. And have standards, but certainly do not be superficial.

Never compare yourself to others. Do what makes you happy. If you are happy and not hurting others then run with it. This goes along the lines of don't be afraid of failure. It will happen. The best you can do is learn from it. Don't feel the need to compare yourself and think your happiness is directly related to the achievements of others.

And finally I'd tell them nothing is guaranteed. Even when things seem settled and smooth be prepared with a plan b.