Feeling the need to get a bf, gf?

[chrisinreallife]

I'm still fairly young, but I see most of my friends in relationships, some in serious relationships, and a couple even married!

One of my guy friends even told me that he felt the need to get a girlfriend in college because you won't be able to find one easily otherwise.


It is almost like people are getting into relationships because they are scared/insecure about getting old and being alone? Or they get a girlfriend or boyfriend to support them through their struggles.

Is it just me, or are there anyone out there that do not feel the need to get a boyfriend/girlfriend? I mean, just like the most of us, I want to be in a relationship one day, but I'm not going to get into one for the sake of it :)

[soulllfulvirgo]

It's not just you! I certainly don't feel the need to (although I used to be all about relationships), my priorities have changed primarily to my job, my health (exercising, etc.) and figuring out what kind of path I want to go down.

I think it's better to be single than to be in a relationship out of some sort of social pressure.

[chrisinreallife]

I understand when people say "I want to be in a relationship for that emotional support"

But, I feel like it takes strength to go thru this so called "quarter life crisis" on your own...and you might just come out stronger

It may just be me, but I would really like to answer these questions on my own, mainly the question of "What do I want to do" and "How will I get there"

I feel like answering these 2 questions above takes a lot of time and energy and having a girlfriend/boyfriend (sometimes) may be a distraction and deter people away from answering those 2 important questions

[soulllfulvirgo]

I agree. I think we come out stronger by going it alone. I put effort into relationships, so much so that sometimes I focus more on the relationship than my own growth. This obviously can be a good thing, but when you're in QLC-mode, you want to be able to see things as clearly as possible.

I understand the emotional support aspect of it too. But I still think it's good to be able to stand on your own two feet in that regard. That's my mindset right now.

[Peter Trump]

I'm 24 and I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 19. This has been by CHOICE.

Once I started college, I enjoyed my freedom too much to date anyone seriously. Then I graduated in 2006 and didn't date because I was living with my parents and looking for a job.

Once I got a job in 2007 I bought a car, then started saving up to move. I still had a social life, but I didn't date anyone because I just wanted to focus on getting the heck out of my parents place.

Now I'm finally moving out next week with one of my college friends. Maybe now I'll start dating again, but I'm pretty indifferent about the whole thing. I'm comfortable being single and I find that getting a date is not all that hard.

So I don't see the big deal, and I don't get why people are so obsessed. I take pride in being independent and not really "needing" a girlfriend.

[wordsmith]

I didn't even care to date in between the ages of about 18 and 25, apart from a college crush. It was more or less "me" time.

[Mini14]

It is almost like people are getting into relationships because they are scared/insecure about getting old and being alone?


I know people who have actually admitted that this is the exact reason they are going out with 'person X'.... (usually after consuming large amounts of alcohol, lol).

Which is terrible, because not only are they ripping off themselves by not giving themselves a chance to meet someone they might really like, it is also very unfair to 'person X'!
In some cases it's beyond ridiculous.. one girl was 23, tall, thin and blonde (looked like a model) but was with some guy she wasn't really that into because she was worried about getting old and being alone. Clearly she didn't need to worry about that happening. The guy was really nice, too, and I'm sure lots of girls would have liked to date him, but instead he was unknowingly in a relationship with someone who wasn't that crazy about him (but then maybe he felt the same way about her, and didn't want become old and alone either, who knows).

Anyway enough of that rant, yes I agree..I think this does happen sometimes and it is very silly...much better to wait for someone a bit special!

[erika36]

I personally pity people who can't be alone. It's one thing to want to share your time or life with someone you're compatible with, but another to want to be with someone because you don't want to be alone. When people are desperate, they make bad choices in lifestyle and other people. It's really sad. I think the early-to-mid-twenties should be about living life alone and figuring out what YOU want bc a part of life is separating voices from your own. It's also bad to trick someone else into thinking one wants them when they really don't matter at all. But that's just me.

[wordsmith]

My biggest relationship fear has always and forever been that a given person is simply dating me as an alternative to being by themselves. Can't respect that.

[IntheMiddle85]

I'm glad someone wrote this post because I have actually been thinking about this for a long time.

I too feel like I need to get a boyfriend because I am scared of being alone. Plus a lot of my acquaintenances and friends are in relationships and I feel like I am losing them because they are becoming obsessed with their boyfriends and spending all the time in the world with them. I feel that if I can get a boyfriend too, I'll have more in common with them again and we'll have better friendships than we do now. My one friend constantly talks about her boyfriend and even said she's growing her hair out cause he loves it; makes me wonder if she wants to spend any time with me at all like she keeps saying she does. That's just one example. As another, I know a few girls that just graduated with me in May that are already married or engaged. It kind of sucks to watch them plan their weddings and get showered with attention and presents.

Plus, some of my friends are even having babies; whether they're married or not. Three of my friends are pregnant...two are my age and one is younger. Neither is married and two are in relationships...the other swears her ex is gonna help her because they are still friends. I know I am not going to be able to keep in touch with them much once they have babies.

It just seems like everyone is settling down too quick and I'm the only one in my circle who wants to actually live a little without a partner or children. I feel like I am getting lonelier every day while everyone else pairs off.

[soulllfulvirgo]

"It is better to be alone than in the wrong company."

I live by this quote to an extent. It applies to acquaintances mostly, but can also apply to relationships too.

[Schecter_Guy]

I guess I am pretty simple. I have no grandiose visions of life or major questions about who I am or my future. I want a job I do not despise and that pays the bills. No more, no less. I am a real laid back guy and never felt my freedom was impeded by a relationship. I am not obessive about doing what I want, but I'll be damned if I change myself to be with someone.

I never did understand the idea of being dependent/independent. We are all dependent. I don't think any of us can live in complete solitude. Its against our nature. But you never hear anyone say they don't need their best friend or they don't need their family (unless the family is majorly disfunctional). It seems to only happen with bf's/gf's. Sometimes the attitude towards a relationship is almost condescending. I guess I feel strongly about the matter because its quite apprent that we are losing the ability to maintain relationships. This is a fact as shown through divorce rates. There is such an intense obsession with self that giving a little of ourselves is asking too much.

But back to the main point of the thread. I feel no societal pressure to be in a relationship or start a family. I do it because I want to do it. Like I said its not an insurmountable burden. Do I feel worried about being alone? Hell Yeah. Will I settle to ensure I am not alone? Nope. I am looking for love, not a place holder. My biggest fear is just how difficult now it is to find someone I am compatible with. It aint easy and it almost seems impossible. But if I can't find that person then it is what it is. I will just live life bitter.

[vinsanity]

I only pursue the idea of having a gf when there is someone I want to pursue. The problem there is that I'm never at a shortage of girls to crush on :redface:

[wordsmith]

As time passes, the more I realize that changing myself as the result of a relationship is NOT a bad thing. I really want to learn and grow and get better, and if somebody I'm in relationship spurs that, that's a good thing.

The difference here is it's not really changing for someone else, it's changing because growth is good. I don't want to be the same person I always was. I want to improve.

[PenforPrez]

One of my guy friends even told me that he felt the need to get a girlfriend in college because you won't be able to find one easily otherwise.

Try going to a college that was 70% male, like I did. :rolleyes:

It is almost like people are getting into relationships because they are scared/insecure about getting old and being alone? Or they get a girlfriend or boyfriend to support them through their struggles.

I think with the economy, we're going to be seeing a lot more of that. It reminds me of Sam Kinison's solution for the homeless: "Get a job, or fuck somebody that has a job!" I am so serious; we're going to have a lot of that.

I too feel like I need to get a boyfriend because I am scared of being alone. Plus a lot of my acquaintenances and friends are in relationships and I feel like I am losing them because they are becoming obsessed with their boyfriends and spending all the time in the world with them. I feel that if I can get a boyfriend too, I'll have more in common with them again and we'll have better friendships than we do now. My one friend constantly talks about her boyfriend and even said she's growing her hair out cause he loves it; makes me wonder if she wants to spend any time with me at all like she keeps saying she does. That's just one example. As another, I know a few girls that just graduated with me in May that are already married or engaged. It kind of sucks to watch them plan their weddings and get showered with attention and presents.

I've had that problem since before I graduated college. Everybody's paired off, and they don't want to hang out with the third wheel who can't get a date. Now everybody I know is getting engaged or married and I genuinely feel like I'm going to be the last one left, and I'm not far from that point now. That's why I'm so worried about meeting people.

I only pursue the idea of having a gf when there is someone I want to pursue. The problem there is that I'm never at a shortage of girls to crush on

I miss the days when my dating problems consisted of crushing on girls who thought I was weird and ugly. :(

Paul

[Mini14]

I never did understand the idea of being dependent/independent. We are all dependent. I don't think any of us can live in complete solitude. Its against our nature. But you never hear anyone say they don't need their best friend or they don't need their family (unless the family is majorly disfunctional). It seems to only happen with bf's/gf's.

I agree with this... I don't understand why it's considered (by some people) such a bad thing to want to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and to have to pretend that you don't care about this..I think it's a pretty natural thing to want. I am definitely not miserable about being single because I have a lot of other enjoyable things I can do with my time, but honestly I really look forward to being in a relationship at some stage hopefully in the not very distant future, and I think I will be quite disappointed if I miss out on having that experience.

(But at the same time it wouldn't be fair to date someone just to 'have someone', so I'm more than willing to wait for the right person!)

[1977]

Love is one of the most necessary & elating aspects of being alive so those that don't have it say & do anything possible to convince themselves otherwise - it is self-preservation. I hope they find it.

[wordsmith]

Love and acceptance are necessary in life. But love and acceptance come from many sources, not just significant others alone. Those who realize this, and feed (and provide for) that need in many ways in their lives, are generally happier.

[erika36]

Love and acceptance are necessary in life. But love and acceptance come from many sources, not just significant others alone. Those who realize this, and feed (and provide for) that need in many ways in their lives, are generally happier.

Agreed.

[pawnstar3]

I've been single for a year now (I'm 27) and i've been single for most of my life besides that relationship which lasted a year and a half. I do think it's possible to be somewhat happy and live a fulfilling life without a SO but something always seems to be missing when you don't have one. When you think of all the things that come from being with someone (love, sex, companionship, all the activities to do together, etc.) nothing can really fill that void like a SO can. At the end of the day just about everyone would rather have that than be alone. I'm not ashamed to say that i'm like that. But the key is not to settle. I had to end things with my ex because we were just on two separate pages with what we wanted, but i will never regret the year and a half we spent together and all the great times we had. It probably was the best time period of my life. And I know in the future when i find someone who's even more suitable for me, i'll be even happier.

[(an)dy]

I'm 27 and pretty much a "serial single". I've spent most of my life single...one serious relationship, and a few casual relationships. But the last few years have been nothing really...I just have not found interest in anyone. Now it's starting to get a little scarier, or, at least something I need to think about more seriously. I'm not young anymore...and it's concerning because as I get older the opportunities for meeting people seems to be dwindling.

[HollyM]

I can relate to the whole 'all friends paired up and drifting away syndrome.' What bugs me about this is when they try to 'fix' you by asking you why you haven't got anybody or alternatively they talk about relationships so much that you feel like the third wheel. This issue has pretty much resulted in me changing my social circle this year and spending time with lots of new people. I can understand why you might want to keep talking about somebody great who you've just met but when it gets to the stage that you feel worse about yourself having been with that group of friends then something's not right. As far as the need to find a partner it would be good to meet someone however I'm pretty independent by nature, enjoy my own company and don't think it's the issue some other people do that I'm single. Also it's easy to assume everyone in a relationship is ultra happy but you only have to look at the divorce statistics to perhaps see that isn't the case!

[koolkat1980]

I think everyone goes through this phase where you find yourself and all your 'single' friends frantically husband/wife shopping. After awhile the novelty wears off and then you just feel 'over it!'

Some people settle for 'just anyone'! Some won't settle unless they're sure they've found their soul mate. Yadda Yadda! I'm just abit 'over it' these days. :rolleyes:

Funnily enough....the longer I stay single...the more SELFISH I get! Not sure if this is a good or a bad thing. Eg - my parents expect me to 'help out' because I'm single with no kids....I'm like; "Why should I be treated like less of a person just because I'm still single without kids? Screw it!" Then I just don't help - I don't merely exist for their comfort. :eek: Is this bad!? Because if it is.....tuff!

[taichiklf]

Funnily enough....the longer I stay single...the more SELFISH I get! Not sure if this is a good or a bad thing. Eg - my parents expect me to 'help out' because I'm single with no kids....I'm like; "Why should I be treated like less of a person just because I'm still single without kids? Screw it!" Then I just don't help - I don't merely exist for their comfort. :eek: Is this bad!? Because if it is.....tuff!

I completely relate to this. I don't think it's bad. While it's nice to do things for our parents on occasion, I don't think it's okay for them to take advantage of their single kids vs. their married ones.

I have become a little selfish being single for quite some time too, mainly because of the following. To go along with what other people have said, I feel that everyone is so busy in their own world, people just don't take the time to get to know one another anymore. If sparks don't fly sky high the first time they meet, that's it. End of story. I think there should be some connection on the first date but some people expect huge fireworks and that's not very common. Similar situation with friends. Don't know many people I met post-college that I could really call friends. It seems like everyone is an acquaintance and everyone is out for their own benefit.

Sorry for the glum post but this is how I truly feel about the world. It's hard to find people that will truly care. It came as a shock to me after having grown up in an environment with good friends and neighbors that were always there for you and made time for you. It's sad the way the world is headed.

[sam handwich]

Studies show that one of the biggest predictors with divorce rate is age when first married; the younger you are when you get hitched, the more likely it is to end in divorce. That is why i dont fret by the fact that I dont have a gf and other people are already thinking about tying the knot.

I used to long desperately for a girlfriend (a real one, I would not settle for hook-ups). At some point during senior year of college, I met a great group of peers, many of whom are female, and I regularly host potlucks with them. I soon realized that since meeting and growing so close with them, my longing for a gf has ceased to exist. Perhaps it is just as well to have awesome friends to act as significant others?

[cupkake]

I have become a little selfish being single for quite some time too, mainly because of the following. To go along with what other people have said, I feel that everyone is so busy in their own world, people just don't take the time to get to know one another anymore. If sparks don't fly sky high the first time they meet, that's it. End of story. I think there should be some connection on the first date but some people expect huge fireworks and that's not very common. Similar situation with friends. Don't know many people I met post-college that I could really call friends. It seems like everyone is an acquaintance and everyone is out for their own benefit.


This is sooo true

[fuzmiq]

I soon realized that since meeting and growing so close with them, my longing for a gf has ceased to exist. Perhaps it is just as well to have awesome friends to act as significant others?

I can see this being is very true, too.

And I would like to comment on the "everybody needs a SO" vibe from one of the posts. (I think it was pawnstar?)

I think it would be nice to have an SO, but believe me I am not unhappy without one. My friends are not desperately seeking any man they can find. You mentioned that person will give you love, sex and spend time with you, sure. But at least two out of the three of those other people in your life ought to be giving you. The third well...

Plus, I am learning that you can have that SO, but if you don't value yourself already, it's not likely to be a healthy relationship. (not saying that is you...in fact, I am talking to myself with that statement)

[wordsmith]

Yep, acceptance and personal peace come from within. Other people (be they romantic partners, friends, family) in your life won't bring you happiness. The magic key to being happy is definitely NOT in getting a girlfriend or boyfriend, as most people realize once they get past the giddy infatuation stage. A significant other can and obviously should enhance your life, but he or she isn't going to be responsible for your happiness. Finding ways of being happy is really up to you.

[cupkake]

I'm glad someone wrote this post because I have actually been thinking about this for a long time.

I too feel like I need to get a boyfriend because I am scared of being alone. Plus a lot of my acquaintenances and friends are in relationships and I feel like I am losing them because they are becoming obsessed with their boyfriends and spending all the time in the world with them. I feel that if I can get a boyfriend too, I'll have more in common with them again and we'll have better friendships than we do now. My one friend constantly talks about her boyfriend and even said she's growing her hair out cause he loves it; makes me wonder if she wants to spend any time with me at all like she keeps saying she does. That's just one example. As another, I know a few girls that just graduated with me in May that are already married or engaged. It kind of sucks to watch them plan their weddings and get showered with attention and presents.

Plus, some of my friends are even having babies; whether they're married or not. Three of my friends are pregnant...two are my age and one is younger. Neither is married and two are in relationships...the other swears her ex is gonna help her because they are still friends. I know I am not going to be able to keep in touch with them much once they have babies.

It just seems like everyone is settling down too quick and I'm the only one in my circle who wants to actually live a little without a partner or children. I feel like I am getting lonelier every day while everyone else pairs off.



Gee girllll you have it all over huh? Well maybe because my circle of 'friends' is much and smaller and older and already been through marriage I don't see that too much. It's only if I see ppl from highschool that I run into that and I don't really have any highschool friends anymore.

[cupkake]

Funnily enough....the longer I stay single...the more SELFISH I get! Not sure if this is a good or a bad thing. Eg - my parents expect me to 'help out' because I'm single with no kids....I'm like; "Why should I be treated like less of a person just because I'm still single without kids? Screw it!" Then I just don't help - I don't merely exist for their comfort. :eek: Is this bad!? Because if it is.....tuff!


lol this sounds soo funny, koolkat just rebels against the wholle thing haaa.

[fuzmiq]

Yep, acceptance and personal peace come from within.

SUch the most important lesson I have learned this year. I am sure that people learn it in different ways and it's something that I hope everybody has the opportunity to find out.

People telling you doesn't really have an impact. You have to really try the other ways first, I think, to realize that it is a fact! of life.

As hokey as it sounds, you HAVE to love yourself first. I like to think of it as romancing yourself.

Because if you are waiting for that SO to validate your existence...you will be waiting for a long time and then disappointed in the end.

[soulllfulvirgo]

<<<Yep, acceptance and personal peace come from within. >>>

I agree with this statement, I truly do. But, does this search for personal peace preclude one from any dating activity whatsoever? Do we have to become monks essentially?

I've talked about this w/ my counselor before, and he said that he thought dating was fine (this was after I told him I thought it would be best if I didn't date at all for a year OR until I sorted my whole life out, e.g. career, personal happiness etc..lol)

When you're not totally comfortable with where you are at it makes it hard to be with someone, because you feel as if you are in transition.

Even though I'm not 110% sure of where I'm going in life yet, I do still enjoy dating. Should we communicate to the people that we date that we are still searching for "personal peace" and don't want to get too serious?

[fuzmiq]

Should we communicate to the people that we date that we are still searching for "personal peace" and don't want to get too serious?

I couldn't tell if this was a snarky comment or not, so I am going to answer it.

I think that the fact that you are already on the road to "personal peace" says that you are less likely to try and hold another person responsible for your peace and less likely to be devastated when said person does not supply that peace to you.

[soulllfulvirgo]

<<<I couldn't tell if this was a snarky comment or not, so I am going to answer it.>>>

No, I'm never snarky - and even when I am I'll usually include a jk or an LOL to take the edge off of it. :)


<<I think that the fact that you are already on the road to "personal peace" says that you are less likely to try and hold another person responsible for your peace and less likely to be devastated when said person does not supply that peace to you.>>

Very thoughtful response and I think very true fuzmiq!

[fuzmiq]

<<<I couldn't tell if this was a snarky comment or not, so I am going to answer it.>>>

No, I'm never snarky - and even when I am I'll usually include a jk or an LOL to take the edge off of it. :)


<<I think that the fact that you are already on the road to "personal peace" says that you are less likely to try and hold another person responsible for your peace and less likely to be devastated when said person does not supply that peace to you.>>

Very thoughtful response and I think very true fuzmiq!

Oh, snarkiness is welcomed once in a while. ;)

And thank you. ;)

[ihasaflavor]

There is definitely that pressure out there to get married/get in a relationship, etc. But it seems like there is so much rush on it, especially for us ladies. But from my experience, it is better being single than being in a miserable relationship.

I started getting into a serious relationship about a month ago, but I had been single for 2 years previous. And while it was rough around Christmas and Valentines day, it really was not too bad. I really like my space. I had always hoped to meet someone, but I don't remember stressing about it (trying to find a career and get out of my current job has always been my major stress).

[wordsmith]

<<<Yep, acceptance and personal peace come from within. >>>

I agree with this statement, I truly do. But, does this search for personal peace preclude one from any dating activity whatsoever?

Of course not. It's just that you can't assign all kinds of false significance to dating, and building it up in your mind as the thing upon which your happiness depends. Look at it for what it is...fun socializing, the chance to meet somebody nice and develop a bond. Your happiness will never depend on other people. It's all part of the big picture. You just have to look at it in a healthy, balanced way, instead of building up relationships as the be-all, end-all (which a lot of people do - make their lack of a relationship the scapegoat for all that's missing or not great in their lives).

You should always date if you feel like dating. Just don't build it up into something it's not. You can obviously work on your personal peace of mind, happiness, etc. whether you are single or dating or in a relationship...and you should be. No need to put life on hold to work on your emotional health, it's an ongoing thing to be mindful of, just like your physical and mental health.

[soulllfulvirgo]

That's true, thanks for the response Wordsmith. Getting better at this too by the way, the whole not building things up... not building "castles in the sky" but still building my "castle of love" as Stevie Wonder said.
Soulllfulvirgo is corny today! lol


Of course not. It's just that you can't assign all kinds of false significance to dating, and building it up in your mind as the thing upon which your happiness depends. Look at it for what it is...fun socializing, the chance to meet somebody nice and develop a bond. Your happiness will never depend on other people. It's all part of the big picture. You just have to look at it in a healthy, balanced way, instead of building up relationships as the be-all, end-all (which a lot of people do - make their lack of a relationship the scapegoat for all that's missing or not great in their lives).

You should always date if you feel like dating. Just don't build it up into something it's not. You can obviously work on your personal peace of mind, happiness, etc. whether you are single or dating or in a relationship...and you should be. No need to put life on hold to work on your emotional health, it's an ongoing thing to be mindful of, just like your physical and mental health.

[Orca]

whole post and...

It just seems like everyone is settling down too quick and I'm the only one in my circle who wants to actually live a little without a partner or children. I feel like I am getting lonelier every day while everyone else pairs off.

ITA with this bit about all my friends have moved/are moving into a new stage in their lives where they have partners and children and I no longer fit. It's not that we are no longer friends, it's just that we no longer have as much in common. Plus a lot of the things my friends do now are couple things, to which I'm not invited. The older I get, the worse it gets and I will never be able to join their club. I'm not unhappy being single (since that's not going to change, being unhappy would be a huge waste of energy) but I am unhappy when I am more and more excluded.

[roulettefanatic]

this is funny (not in the haha way) but last night i was at my uncle's house and all of a sudden my brother, my cousin and her friend all ended up mentioning how they have girlfriends/boyfriends and i just wanted to crawl under the table.....

you do feel it more when those around you mention the things they do with their SO's and especially around the holidays.....

i'm going to be 25 soon and i'm already feeling the pressure to make something happen, even though it's not only from others, i want that for myself to begin with so it's all just compounded in the end......

the difference between me and you orca is that you said you're not unhappy being single, which is good.....i'm completely miserable and feel left out.....

[ScottyTheBody]

I really only feel it or felt it around big family get-togethers, sadly.

[cupkake]

I really only feel it or felt it around big family get-togethers, sadly.

*shocked* I thought Scotty was happily single and accepted it. Just an observation...


Well I was amongst my family recently and when I saw everyone was coupled and some married or with kids and some of these family members are even younger than me I was like I really need to step my game up! lol. So I shall see...

[OverOrdinary]

I only feel the need to lose my virginity. Anything else would be too much work and I'm an intensely private person. My sexual identity could complicate things ( I would not mind working for the military one day). So yeah.....
Plus, I dont see myself getting married until Im in my 30's-40's. If i want kids, I have no hangups about adoption ( although I may want to have 1 bio kid). I think in this society, ppl get together because they want companionship and the "image" thats help as a part of a "stable" identity.
Never rush into those types of things. LOL

[Orca]

the difference between me and you orca is that you said you're not unhappy being single, which is good.....i'm completely miserable and feel left out.....
I think up to a certain point you have the choice whetherto be happy or not. So your ideal situation is to be in a relationship, but you're not. You can either beat yourself up about it, or be happy with the rest of your life and carry on. If you are very unhappy you will probably stay in more, and when you do go out and meet new people, you might come across as miserable. This doesn't increase your chances of finding a partner. So even if deep down you are not thrilled about your situation, act as if you don't care. Go out and do what you want. Have fun. Don't limit yourself because you don't have a bf/gf.

In my case, I think it is highly unlikely that I will ever have a SO but there is no point crying about it because I can only control me, not other people. If I sat around waiting to find someone, that would be a waste of the rest of my life.

[StepOnIt]

On a purely practical level, I don't see how I'd be any less alone in my problems by having a GF. Relationships seem like just another stressful, time-consuming no-pay commitment to me. Then again it might be nice to have a GF just for a little while because when your friends and parents ask you for the 50th time if you're gay it starts to get irritating!

[hoodie]

LOL. Step, if I didn't know any better, I'd think you were my younger brother!