so sad/lonely

[heartzforevery1]

Im just sad and wanted to vent...
I graduate college in 4 weeks and planned on going to grad school but that doesnt seem to be panning out. All my sorority sisters are ignoring me and not inviting me to things and I am sick of being single! I havent had a serious boyfriend for like 3-4 yrs and every guy I meet just wants to hook up and than dissappears shortly thereafter. My life is falling apart and I dunno what to do
:-( UGH

[cupkake]

u will know what to do....;):

[winneythepooh7]

This is the perfect time to branch out and meet other people. I was in a sorority in college, and to be honest, outside of email, Facebook and maybe once a year get-togethers I rarely see those ladies anymore.

And there really are only a small handful I still keep in touch with. Your commonalities/interests change drastically outside of college.

And if you put yourself out there to meet new people in general, you're bound to meet a guy along the way.

[benilaw]

to OP,
I'm kinda in your shoes. I just graduated from law school and have moved back to the east coast, where I grew up. I'm basically starting all over professionally and socially.
As to grad school not panning out - that actually might be a good thing. It's a sign that it's not meant to be, at least not yet. Same thing happened to me after college. I ended up working alot of temp jobs that seemed miscellaneous but ended up being very relevant to the first job I landed in the legal field. I took two years off after college and gained relevant work experience. I'm now among the many law grads out there who are looking for work but as one recruiter pointed out, I'm a rare candidate because I actually have work experience in the legal field.
I agree with the other posters re: keeping in touch with college friends. I've been out of college for 6 years now and I really only keep in touch with a few people offline. Others I keep in touch via Facebook, email. Interests and lives really change after college.
I hate being single too but at least you've had boyfriends. I've never had a boyfriend. Think about all your friends who are likely going to break up with their boyfriends after college. While some do stay together and even marry, it's very common for relationships to end after college. This is the time when you all will be going in your separate ways.
It's scary but also a new adventure.
Sorry for the length of this post (we lawyers really are that verbal!)

[heartzforevery1]

Thanks

I am going to do the meetup thing but I just feel like such a loser going to a meetup in my own state! Like I should already have friends haha. And benilaw your post wasnt long it was helpful:-) Any tips on meeting men? I tried the internet and thats where I met the last guy but he just stopped calling me after a while and that really sucked since I really liked him. Theres noone at my job so I am kinda clueless haha

[justin7199]

i'm kinda lacking in the friends department for the time being as well. just got back to home after some time abroad. most of my friends have moved from here since ive been gone, in the last year and a half... but I have confidence that things will get better and i'll meet more people. so I know how you feel, lacking close friends. But i know you'll meet some new folks and have a great time. Don't let yourself worry too much!



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[artfuldodger]

I totally know what your going through. I graduate in under 4 weeks and I feel a growing gap between friends and significant others. I've tried to reach out at times only to have calls and texts not replied to. I've always been independent, I don't know if you are, so I've kind of embraced the freedom. I enjoy being that guy who'll run against the tide and not give a damn. Don't let the pettiness of people bring you down; paraphrasing Emersom 'only you can bring yourself happiness.' As for the grad-school thing, although I definetely understand the necessity to get a secondary degree don't be afraid to do something crazy and unorthodox while your still young and don't have a whole lot of responsibilities. Just to give you an idea I'm hopping on a motorcycle and touring the country for a month before going up to Alaska to work on a commercial fishing boat. Just remember life goes on, for better or worse!

[dubb]

every guy I meet just wants to hook up and than dissappears shortly thereafter.

what do you expect from college guys?

if you want to meet some guys try taking the initiative and talk to them first, since it never happens most guys love it, and dont "hook up" fast, you're instantly not a keeper that way.

[Bsig84]

I was in your place about two years ago. I was graduating from college after being rejected to all the grad schools I applied to. I didn't have a job and my lease was ending and I didn't know where to go. I had dated in college but had never had a serious relationship. I was so scared!

Everything just fell into place! I found a great job and am getting married in 6 months. I am so grateful that I didn't get into grad school because it would not have been the right choice for me. When I got rejected by all 5 grad schools everyone told me "everything happens for a reason" and I would get so mad. I was so tired of hearing that! It turns out that it was totally true. Good luck with everything!!

[heartzforevery1]

Wow Bsig84! How did everything fall into place? What did you do? I honestly just want a respectable career and to meet someone special and yes I am sick of hearing everything happens for a reason ugh!

[benilaw]

to OP,
I too hate hearing that everything happens for a reason but...I'm starting to think there's a ring of truth in that cliche.
I'm still job-hunting in this dismal economy and my field is dead. I've decided it is a sign from God that this is the time to finally visit my grandparents in India. I haven't seen them or the rest of my family there in 18 years.
Oddly enough, going to India has been one of my goals for 2009 and now, with luck of getting my visa this week, I will be going next week!
So, everything does happen for a reason. There is a season (and reason) for everything.

[heartzforevery1]

Thanks guys
I guess I will figure out the reason for all this one day??