hoodie
04-19-2009, 11:47 AM
Hey all, got a really bizarre situation going here. Friday night, my boyfriend and I met up with my younger brother and a bunch of his friends as well as my BFF from first grade on. We had a fun night, and at the end of it, my bf and I got into a cab and asked my bro to make sure my friend got home okay.
Well, she did get home okay, but in the time between me leaving them and her getting home, they hooked up.
I kind of figured it out since I asked her to text me when she got home and I didn't hear from her until the next morning. When I did figure it out, I asked if that's what happened but assured her I'd still love her but I'd have to make fun of her forever. She called immediately and apologized profusely then came over. I took the stance that I was prepared to laugh it off and she seemed super relieved. It seemed, though, she was in a phase of self-loathing about what she'd done.
As for my brother, he dodged my calls all day, even though I texted him the same thing I'd sent to my friend. He had to meet my older sister and myself out for an event later, during which he was friendly and talkative but definitely avoided the subject. That's fine; I don't really want to talk about it either. What's weird though is at the end of the night we were at a karaoke pub across the street from my house and I had my brother see me to the door since my bf had already headed home. My brother was on his phone and as soon as he got off he seemed like he wanted to run off. I wanted to show him my new apartment, but he kept asking if I was okay for him to take off and kept himself firmly planted on the sidewalk. Maybe I'm oversensitive given the events of the weekend, but it seemed to me that he was afraid to be alone with me like I would lecture him or something.
I really am prepared to laugh this situation off. We're all adults here; they both did something stupid and it appears they both know it was stupid, and I assume it won't be happening again. I am just hoping there won't be weirdness on any level; between me and my bro, between me and my friend, and between my bro and my friend. I understand the first time they see each other after might be a little awkward, but I hope that it's minimal and that everyone can be cool. My brother, being 23, is the least mature party involved, but I don't want him flaking on me or acting afraid to spend time with me just because of what happened.
Sorry about the novel, but the question is this..should I send my bro one more text or e-mail saying that I really don't want to discuss it with him and neither does anyone else so to not feel weird about hanging out with me or any of my friends? Or should I just drop it completely and hope that time will bury this one?
Well, she did get home okay, but in the time between me leaving them and her getting home, they hooked up.
I kind of figured it out since I asked her to text me when she got home and I didn't hear from her until the next morning. When I did figure it out, I asked if that's what happened but assured her I'd still love her but I'd have to make fun of her forever. She called immediately and apologized profusely then came over. I took the stance that I was prepared to laugh it off and she seemed super relieved. It seemed, though, she was in a phase of self-loathing about what she'd done.
As for my brother, he dodged my calls all day, even though I texted him the same thing I'd sent to my friend. He had to meet my older sister and myself out for an event later, during which he was friendly and talkative but definitely avoided the subject. That's fine; I don't really want to talk about it either. What's weird though is at the end of the night we were at a karaoke pub across the street from my house and I had my brother see me to the door since my bf had already headed home. My brother was on his phone and as soon as he got off he seemed like he wanted to run off. I wanted to show him my new apartment, but he kept asking if I was okay for him to take off and kept himself firmly planted on the sidewalk. Maybe I'm oversensitive given the events of the weekend, but it seemed to me that he was afraid to be alone with me like I would lecture him or something.
I really am prepared to laugh this situation off. We're all adults here; they both did something stupid and it appears they both know it was stupid, and I assume it won't be happening again. I am just hoping there won't be weirdness on any level; between me and my bro, between me and my friend, and between my bro and my friend. I understand the first time they see each other after might be a little awkward, but I hope that it's minimal and that everyone can be cool. My brother, being 23, is the least mature party involved, but I don't want him flaking on me or acting afraid to spend time with me just because of what happened.
Sorry about the novel, but the question is this..should I send my bro one more text or e-mail saying that I really don't want to discuss it with him and neither does anyone else so to not feel weird about hanging out with me or any of my friends? Or should I just drop it completely and hope that time will bury this one?