Total Girly Question

[newdate]

Knowing that I truly hate surprises, my boyfriend casually mentioned proposing sometime in the "near future." What does that mean??!

[hoodie]

Congrats, that's awesome!

Just a guess from an equally female brain, but I don't think this question can really be answered definitively. I figure "in the near future" could mean basically anytime in the next year depending on whether he can afford a ring, still has to buy one, already has one, knows how he wants to propose, etc. Tons of influencing factors that could throw this one.

But try to enjoy it, surprises or no, you've got a guy who wants to propose to you soon. That's got to be a good feeling! :)

[newdate]

Thanks! I am excited, and a little nervous too! Don't get me wrong....I'm certain he's "The One," it's just strange to know that a life-changing moment is in "the near future." Kinda cool. :heehee:

[KCboy]

That depends. Knowing the clichés about men, “in the near future” has always seemed like a way for men to try and appease a woman who is looking for a ring, while the man is not ready to give it to her, or isn’t sure if he will be.

Did you ask about this? Were you the one to bring up marriage? Or did he just say it out of the blue?

I figure if he was really doing it because he knows you hate surprises, he would have given you a little more info.

[wordsmith]

Hah, that's pretty cool that he took your hatred of surprises into account and gave you the head's up. I personally would be horribly disappointed, I love surprises.

I guess I wouldn't worry about nailing down the exact moment, just figure it's coming within the next few months, most likely, if he's putting together money for a ring. Or, if he's the type who's already gotten it, it could come sooner. Assuming you're doing the ring thing, of course.

[Empressallie]

Congrats!

I would think "near future" means the next few weeks/months, since saying that a year in advance seems a bit much!

I love surprises - I would want it to be a total surprise. I don't know if my bf would propose with a ring though (he's German and they tend to just wear simple gold bands after the ceremony), but if your bf is planning on getting a ring I bet your friends/family are probably in on it. You might look for clues there....;):

[ebruening]

Thanks! I am excited, and a little nervous too! Don't get me wrong....I'm certain he's "The One," it's just strange to know that a life-changing moment is in "the near future." Kinda cool. :heehee:

I remember feeling that way, too. Enjoy it!

[winneythepooh7]

I remember my husband mentioning it a few times, but when he did it I was totally surprised. I had absolutely no idea he was going to do it.

[Krishna]

I can't say as I've had this issue-the concept of engagement is an every shifting concept to my SO- so I guess I can't give accurate input. I'd guess 6 months or less though.

[newdate]

"Near Future" apparently meant within the same week! He proposed this past Friday. Yay!!

[winneythepooh7]

Congrats!

[hoodie]

Congrats!
Now for a total girly request:

Give us some details about the proposal! :)

[Empressallie]

Congrats! That's great news!:)

[Krishna]

Daaamn....I wish I could get that kind of turnaround time!! Congrats!

[ugarachel82]

Congrats!




Details please? :D:)

[ebruening]

Congrats!

[newdate]

Hello again, all - and thanks for all the well wishes! :)

Details: He had spent the night at my house, and then asked me very first thing in the morning -- 6:30 a.m.! It was very simple and very sweet; I couldn't have asked for a more heartfelt and genuine proposal.

No ring yet. He wants to do that part together....also in the "near future."

We're thinking about a wedding in Spring 2010. Crazy!