New Relationship Tip Thread

[hereisnewyork]

Hi everyone,

So I've actually made it to over 6 weeks in my new relationship lol...Pretty impressive for a 26 year old who has never been in a serious relationship. but being 26 and never having been in one causes MAJOR issues, because I basically don't know what I'm doing most of the time. I'm used to casual dating, hookups, being treated poorly, etc. Sometimes I feel like I'm being too clingy for fear that if we don't hang out, it's not working, which just works against me. He seems to be happy and I really like him...there are just so many little things I don't know and I was hoping you wise ones can provide me (all of us) with tips or things you learned to help a new relationship be healthy and blossom.

Thank you!

[pawnstar3]

Well i've had one serious relationship which ended 1.5 years ago so i guess i can chime in a bit here - every relationship is different because every person is different - but there are some basics that to me make a relationship healthy - in the beginning i remember spending pretty much every day of the weekend with my ex gf since we loved being around each other and were getting to know each other- neither one of us really saw our friends during that time frame because we were serious about each other and were mature enough to know that in your 20's when you want a serious relationship, you should really spend time with the person and see what it's like to be with them on a consistent basis- we also spoke on the phone every day as well - bottom line is that if you want a real relationship it requires a lot of devotion - if you do that, you'll know if it's headed anywhere - after a few weeks of dating my ex i asked her to be official and she jumped at it - it was so natural though, that it seemed like we knew each other much longer - usually i have a 5 date rule - that means i would ask a girl to be official if we 've had a minimum of 5 dates - nothing sooner because that would be weird, and anything more seems like you're not too serious about the person-