Shambles

[HDC80]

The past 2 weeks of my life have turned everything upside down and its all in shambles. I feel like Im writing for a soap opera with how things have been going.

Last Sunday (July 26) I go to my parents house to find my mother sobbing and my father watching her intently as she talked on the phone. First thought...oh god G-ma is dead.
Well, while my g-ma was not deceased, her night nurse was SCREAMING at my mother calling her names, insulting her, telling her what a bad person she is.....and the nurse is calling herself the Mosiah. Saying if any of the 3 of us set foot on the island she had a hit out on us (she's friends with police and aiport security people on a very very small island), and if we showed at the house she had a gun and would take us out herself.

Im thinking the woman had a psychotic break....and we go into crisis mode of what to do with my g-ma......whose going to fly down, just one of us or some combination of a pair......
As we start to sort that out.....

Its then TUesday....I have to work late so Im not due into work until 1pm. My phone rings at 930.....its my mom...who NEVER calls.
Night nurse made it easy for us....she was out on the veranda the night before SCREAMING so much that the neighbors called the cops. Took her away and into the psych ward of the hospital for a 72 hour observation (later found out she was bi-polar and had a break)

So now we settle in to figure out who and when someoen will go to change the locks on the house and start to close the nurse from dealings with my g-ma....and what to do with my gma.

My uncle (generally not involved) stayed at the house that night, and found pot, and items we thought had been stolen hidden through the house.

At first it looked like we could get my gma into respite at the hospital...but we needed a medical reason. We were trying to get her into the nursing home, but there was a wait list.

Then a break! She can get into the nursing home.....placed there Wednesday...my Bday.

Bday----good taken out to dinner....
Thursday.....talk to my mom more, find out we'll have to put down my g-ma's cat....and that she was being processed to get into the nursing home, she couldnt due to an injury. Apparently the woman had become Houdini the night before and got out of her night restraints-----and fell. Fractured her wrist, and were unsure about her hip and head...so she went to the hospital.

Then....4 hours later....I was FIRED.

Go to a freinds Bday that night.....then to Depeche Mode Friday....then the beach Saturday...and my party which turned into a surprse party my friends put together Saturday night.
Sunday loaf...and dread going to my parents and telling them about my being fired.

The convo went well.....but turned to more concern since my mother was going in for skin cancer surgery on her nose Monday.....oh good more to worry about.

My Father flew to the island on Tuesday...leaving my mom home alone....so Ive been gonig there to talk to her and take care of things.

My Dad got food poisoning on Tuesday night......which left his single FULL day on the island to take care of things a mess.....and making his trip almost pointless.

Cat was put down on Tuesday =(

My moms' nose is worse than we originally thought.

Gma is still in the hospital

I dont have a job.

You cant make this stuff up. Im tapped and I just want to curl up and sleep, but I cant even relax enough to do that.....

Vent complete...for now.

[cheshrcarol]

Can I make a suggestion? I'm sure that things are really difficult for you and you're stressed out and you'd like people to comment on your thread and make you feel better. But your writing style is incredibly difficult to understand. I honestly have no idea what the problem is, besides having been fired. A crazy nurse yelled at your Mom, is that the gist of it?

I'm not saying this to be mean or snotty, but I'd really like to suggest you write in paragraphs and try to more clearly express what's bothering you.

[winneythepooh7]

Not trying to be mean either, but this is also the type of stuff that could be written in a blog. Maybe that would be more therapeutic for you.

[dreams82]

HD-PM me if you wanna talk. Hope you are holding up ok. :)

[HDC80]

Since my writing style is apparently a hindrence to understanding all of the crap going on in my life:

WAS FIRED

PUT CAT DOWN

MOTHER HAD CANCER SURGERY DOCTORS TALKING ABOUT SKIN GRAFTS FOR HER NOSE

FATHER HAD TO FLY OUT OF COUNTRY TO TEND TO GMA STUFF AND GOT FOOD POISONING

GMA MOVED INTO NURSING HOME BUT HAD A WEEK HOSPITAL STAY PRIOR DUE TO A NASTY FALL

NIGHT NURSE WHO CARED FOR MY GMA HAD A PSYCHOTIC BREAK AND WAS VERBALLY ABUSIVE AND THREATENING TO MY FAMILY

IMO thats quite a LARGE quantity of things to be dealing with simotaneously. As for blogging, thats fine and good but people dont respond to those...and last I knew, people post stuff going on in their lives on these boards.

In addition....I also posted due to the fact that people seem to rain on me for the friends I have or how good my life seems. When in fact, it constantly has issues and things going on behind the scenes that for whatever reason like to explode simotaneously.

[vinsanity]

I don't have anything worthwhile to add to this thread except to say that I do appreciate you sharing these things on the forum; not all of us come down on you for posting the good things in your life.

As for blogging, I do agree with you. I don't mean this as a slight to anyone who runs a personal blog, since I'm sure there are alot of interesting ones out there, but I just don't get the appeal of writing or subscribing to most that are out there.

[DaneCA]

I don't think anyone is trying to minimize what you're going through, HDC. The posters on this forum are good people and I'm pretty sure most decent human beings would feel for you because it's obviously been a rough couple of weeks. But implying that your fellow posters are jealous of you because of "how good your life seems" and how great your friends are won't win you a lot of sympathy, sorry.

[HDC80]

Dane....most often when I post of the good things, or the events I have with friends...people have come down on me questioning why I post here.....

People have also judged me andccondemned me for how I live my life and the choices I make...since they dont always line up with the norm.

Im posting about some serious issues in my life, and rather than hear hey thats really rough, we're here for you...I get told that my post should be put in a blog, or that the writing was confusing.

I found that to be frustrating......and well, I have a pretty short fuse as it is, since things arent exactly going swimmingly.

[hoodie]

Hey, sorry your chips are down HDC. I genuinely do hope things improve.

I don't think anyone was trying to tick you off - the post was a little rough to follow, but if you were upset and trying to write that's understandable.

My grandparents also moved to a nursing home after my Grandma fell and broke her hip and they seem pretty happy there...hopefully at least that aspect will be for the best. Sometimes things that seem crappy have a way of working out in the end.

Take care of # 1 and lean on your buds.

[winneythepooh7]

Dane....most often when I post of the good things, or the events I have with friends...people have come down on me questioning why I post here.....

People have also judged me andccondemned me for how I live my life and the choices I make...since they dont always line up with the norm.

Im posting about some serious issues in my life, and rather than hear hey thats really rough, we're here for you...I get told that my post should be put in a blog, or that the writing was confusing.

I found that to be frustrating......and well, I have a pretty short fuse as it is, since things arent exactly going swimmingly.

You come here, ask for advice, but make no changes when you are given advice. You tell everyone they are wrong and don't understand what you are going through and that you "don't have a choice". Everyone has a choice in their life, especially to NOT put up with abuse and people who tell you they never wanted you.

My grandmother, who is deceased, came from a similar background. In fact, I recently learned that her parents were going to be leaving her more money then I could ever imagine having, however, she chose her sanity over putting up with a life of abuse, and turned that all down and walked away from them forever.

Again, I am not personally trying to give you a hard time but I think you should learn to be an adult and take responsibility for your actions (as well as lack of which continues to lead to your negative situations in life). I'm sorry things are so rough for you, but I think if you open your eyes, and do something about them, your life really could be a heck of a lot better. Nothing is going to change if you don't. I don't think walking on eggshells around here and not telling you that is going to make things better either. What would you tell someone if they were in your shoes?

I also still think blogs can be therapeutic, especially if people CAN'T understand. Some people DO respond too. You can also journal as well.

[LowCarbLife]

You do have a lot going on right now! It is true that when it rains it storms. It is hard to give advice when I don't know what I would do in the situation.

Your grandma should be top priority since she is a loved one. Good thing she found a new nursing home. As we all know you should keep close eye when a loved one is looked after by a home or hosiptal so do keep that in mind.

Jobs - the economy is tough. Keep your chin up, you are not alone. Spruce up your resume and start searching asap with a positive agressive attitude! Post, post, post that resume online and even consider a staffing firm.

Be there for your mom. We are only given one. She will need you now. You both are going through a tough time and that is never a good time to go through it alone.

Keep it together! Don't let yourself get down. Take things day by day and try to challenge yourself for the better. Know that you are strong and that the storm will pass soon!

Opportunity comes in disguise....easier to type than to live through I know, but how many times has this proven to be true?

[spiritedaway]

I don't purport to know what you're going through, but I do know that when it rains, it pours.

I've been in similar situations before (which I won't go into), but suffice to say that it "seems" that anything that could go wrong did. Believe it or not, there is often a silver lining. For example, you got fired at your job (which I'm sorry to hear, by the way). Maybe it's a good time for you to not stress about work and focus on getting your family and other things in order first. Maybe it's also a good time for you to honestly evaluate what you did or didn't do well enough at work that may have caused you to be fired and what you could change to be better at your next job. Maybe there is something you could learn from it?

When you're dealing with major issues, sometimes it is more therapeutic to talk to good friends, write in a blog or in your own personal diary (the latter is the option I use to sort out more problematic issues). I think most everyone here has good intentions, however, you have to understand that this board is a good online community for questions/discussions/occasional support, but cannot take the place of the support that can best be provided by friends/family when things seemed to go all wrong (as you seemed to be majorly stressed, which is totally understandable given the circumstances)

I'm really sorry to hear that you've been going through some times. Take care of yourself, keep your chin up and I hope everything turns out OK.

[HDC80]

UPDATE!!!!!

So my grandmother is settled in the nursing home and as a family we will be traveling to clean out her house in September for about 4 days.

I was fired 3 weeks ago EXACTLY.....and MONDAY MORNING I start my NEW job.
Little background-----
I started my search slowly due to feeling miserable.....and once I finally logged onto Monster and updated my profile....I sent out my resume to a job that looked interesting. Within TEN minutes....my phone rang from my resume being recieved.
It had gone to a recruiter...but she was so excited to read my resume. She had me come in the following day.
She adored me, and while I was taking the standard tests she was calling my references and her client.
I had a phone interview with her client that Monday.....they wanted me in the NEXT day for a face to face with the team of 5 I would be supporting.....and a day later I had an offer letter!!

So 3 weeks unemployed....ONE resume sent out....landed a job...oh and a $10,000 PAY INCREASE!!

I have no clue how this all pulled together, but Im very thankful. I have friends who have been out for months! Think this proves that its right place right time.

So thats the update. Things turned on a dime, unreal.

[AznHisoka]

Things can change pretty quickly! =)

[Echo]

I think that proves that in life, karma balances things out. For every bad thing that's happened to you, a good thing will happen too and vice versa. There's comfort in knowing that, if you're going through a rough patch you need to ride it out and wait for the good things to start happening. Good luck with your job and everything.